I'm Catholic, Wife's Christan, she wants to go to her church with our kids, I want to go mine, what do we do?

Question

Should I go to Christan church even though Im catholic
Any help would be appreciated..

Answer 1

Which Mass do you attend? If it is early and her church's services are later, you can do both.

Or you can go to Mass with the kids in the morning and her church with them in the evening.

Or alternate weeks. Take them to Mass one week and let her take them to her church the next.

Does her church have Wednesday night services? That is another option. Mass on Sundays and her church on Wednesdays.

When your children are old enough, they'll decide where they wish to worship. For now, let them learn about both of your denominations. They'll thank you later.

Answer 2

First when you say christian I am assuming you mean just another christian religion other than Catholic. There are a couple different ways to approach this dilemma. If one of you is not as overly religious as the other than the children could be raised in the denomination that is attended more often. The other option would be to alternate Sundays (as a family preferably) between the two churches and when the children are old enough let them choose. A friend of mine's parents did that when he was young, The father was Catholic and the mother Greek Orthodox. I was in the same position with my parents, my father was Catholic and my mother Greek Orthodox when they asked the priests (they asked both) both replied that the child should be raised int he faith of the mother because history shows that they are the one that are more involved with developing the child's faith in God. Either option is a good choice. I would say speak to your priest and your wife's priest/preacher and see what they have to say on the subject.

As long as you teach your child to love and that they will always be loved religion isn't anything more than a reassurance by traditions of that.

Answer 3

I know many families in your situation. The entire family goes to the Catholic Mass on Saturday evening and your wife's church on Sunday morning. The children go to religion classes at both churches.

Hopefully, the differences in doctrine will not confuse the kids too much.

Answer 4

Church is wear one can finde peace, and it shude not become a problem... Try going to Christan church with yur wife and cids, and then she will come with you to Catholic church... At the end of the line churches are for findeing peace and god... Catholic or Christan is just a formalitie which only we..humans are capable to face.

Answer 5

Go to the point precisely half-way between the two churches and sit down with your family there.

You should find that it fulfills the condition of being a beautiful place made by your "god" in accordance with each of your own beliefs, and is an appropriate compromise with no bias.


The lesson to learn here: a church is ultimately just a tool. It might seem to make things easier for you, but ultimately it only supports a process you can undertake on your own... without it.


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Of course personally, I would suggest both of you abandon your religion and try thinking about the Universe from an unbiased perspective, without all the pomp and ritual.... but thats not the kind of answer you would pay attention to at all.

Answer 6

First of all you are Christian. I am also Catholic and in our religious education classes we are taught that our Church is the original Christian Church (Catholic is from the Greek word that means universal). You really should know that, but i will still answer as if this is an honest question. It is perfectly fine to attend both churches. You should not receive communion at her church and she should not receive it at ours. The kids should be allowed to choose which way to go when they are old enough to make such choices.

Answer 7

I say you should compromise, you can let your wife take the kids to church in the morning and you take them to your church in the evenings.
I'd suggest talking about it all first and decide what is best, there isn't anything wrong with taking them to two different churches, but it can create problems later on about what they would think their faith is.

Another thing is that you should let your children decide, since religion is a a delicate topic, especially among people of different religions. They should also have the option of choosing which they would like to attend and believe in, or risk alienating them from god altogether.

Answer 8

If you want to be a Christian, you might as well go all out and be Catholic. Raise your kids with the real deal and if they decide it's not fun enough for them when they get older, they can always cut back to "Christianity Lite".

That's just me being biased. Actually I think your kids should be forced to go to church twice on Sundays; once to Catholic mass with you, and once to your wife's service. What else do they have to do on a Sunday? They're dang kids! It'll be good for them.

Or else, if you have an even number of kids, you could raise half of them Catholic and half of the Protestant. If it's an odd number of kids, then the spouse who got one less child on their team can get something else from the other spouse. Money, perhaps. You could work something out.

Or perhaps this option is best for you: take a child and hold it up like you are preparing to slice it in half with your sword, you know, like King Solomon. And say, "This way, half can go to Catholic mass and half can go to Protestant service. I'll even let you have the top half." In great distress, your wife will scream and say, "Just take him to Catholic mass! As long as you don't cut him in half!" That way, you win.

There are many options, and I just want to help by getting some out on the table for you. It's all about examining options and communicating.

Answer 9

You should have sorted this out before kids came on the scene, but I'm guessing that one of you goes to church more than the other. If that's the case, that person should be raising the kids in his or her religion. I think it's better to concentrate on one religion rather than confuse the kids with two.

Answer 10

Both of you become Muslim and go to their church .... lol j/k

I think you should both search for a church that would satisfy everyone's needs. I know it will be hard, because you are of differing faiths (btw, a Catholic IS a Christian). But the differences are minor, and can be overcome.