I must be the biggest loser in the world. I'm male, thirty-seven, never been in a serious relationship, and (laugh if you want) a virgin. I never really socialized very much, mostly because I felt that people really didn't like me. To make matters worse, my father died when I was twenty one, and I've been taking care of my mother for the past several years. She can't drive a vehicle and she is on disablitiy, so she doesn't have to work.
My life feels really empty and all I can think about is hiding away forever till I die. My friends are always giving me advice, but I never get any positive results. Everyone says I'm a nice looking guy who is smart, caring and loyal, but then why am I single and feel so alone? Even in a crowd of people I know I still feel like an alien among strangers.
So is there a way to make things better, or am I really too old to even start making things right?
2007-03-08 23:52:46 · 10 answers · asked by fenris_lovecraft 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
to make things better, you must go out more... meet new people... sounds like you have been in a difficult situation with your dad dying and having to care for your mom... go out and find a life!
2007-03-08 23:57:42 · answer #1 · answered by bronzebabekentucky 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Join the club. Noone will ever want to date me because I am a bit mentally disturbed. Ok, a bit is probably an understatement.
Keep searching for that special someone anyway. Unlike me, you still stand a chance. And no, it's never too late in this day in age.
However, if you get really up in years and still can't find someone, email me and ask to join the "Vigilante squad". We are a group of loners who bring justice to the weak and downtrodden when noone will look out for them. We are kind of like superheroes only the opposite because we are losers. We are lonely people with nothing to lose. Thus we are prepared to give our lives for glory. We will be operational within five years as we need to store up money and resources in the billion dollar range.
Interested? No? Then keep searching for your love.
2007-03-10 11:58:40 · answer #2 · answered by Zeek 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are in the prime of your life and will make a wonderful partner. You have learned wonderful life lessons being so caring and supportive to your mother. They can only make you a wonderful, caring husband and father. Get some assistance and award yourself some free time to get out and about. You sound wonderful. Your life only feels empty; it's really just ready to begin. You sound wise, mature, and quite wonderful. Just get out there, son, and you're never too old to do anything as long as you're alive and kicking....never!! You are a jewel. Stop selling yourself short ...right this minute.
2007-03-09 08:01:43 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You're only 37 and it's not too late. You need to get involved in social activities. Join a book club or a community club in an activity you enjoy. Go out & meet more people. If you attend church with your mother, start inviting the church group home and join some church activity. Problem is you're not doing something for you, hence you feel forlorn. Do something you enjoy & get people involved. Good luck.
2007-03-09 08:05:53 · answer #4 · answered by Bugsy 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My life is empty without the one I love. For over 10 yaers I closed the door for life. At this time in my life now, I know I did the wrong thing. But most of all, the cowordly thing to do. Because life goes on with or without you. So when you think of trowing in the towel, your hurting no one but yourself and that special person that's out waiting for your heart. You say don't laugh, you still a virgin? That's because that speacial one has not came yet. I've always been able to receive love, but not able to give my heart. So much has been taken away from me, not willing. The only thing I had for me was my heart, and I gave it only to family. One man I gave my heart to I was unable not to, although I tried. I never trusted love, because as a kid, I didn't understand the love that was in my home. I've felt like a alien among others for most of my life. No one ever knew the pain I carried among them. One day a man put his arms around me, that was new for me. I had no hugs, kisses, or any type of affection for over ten years. I'm saying over 10 years, because I don't want you to laugh about howlong it's really been for me to not have love. God gave this man the key to open the doors to my heart, although many has tried. God gave him the key to open the door to happiness and love for us both. Now we need to act on it. before it's too late for us. Love will never die between us. Love is there for you, you need to dust your self off, get out the house. It's a lady out there waiting for your heart. All you need to do is try loving you. I'm sorry about your dad, but I know he would want you to have love in your life, just like he did. Make him proud, get out and live life, your mom would want that to. You can take care of your mom and have a life also.
2007-03-10 08:30:11 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is never to late to start living life to the fullest. first thing you need to do is quit feeling sorry for yourself.. pick yourself up dust yourself off and get out there.. go places , meet people, i applaud you for taking care of your mother. but you got a life to .. so live it. How do you know people don't like you unless you let them get to know you.. put an ad on Yahoo personals and you search personals, there is alot of nice people out there. i met my husband on personals. stand up take your life back and move forward only you can do it.
2007-03-09 08:06:39 · answer #6 · answered by raven1 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's never too late friend. And you sound like a really nice guy.
2007-03-09 07:58:24 · answer #7 · answered by lou b 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have your family doctor assess you for depression. Join a support group. Sounds like you need professional help. (Help is not a bad thing...) Good luck.
2007-03-09 08:42:51 · answer #8 · answered by lmltd 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
sounds like you have really low selfesteem and you don't believe in your slef..i didnt find that funny one bit..im sorry you feel that way about your self...thats very sweet of you taking care of your mother instead of putting her in a nursing home...neways...try meeting a girl...who cares if your a virgin...neways..try meeting a girl..go somewhere where it intrests you and if theirs a single girl...talk to her..try asking her out..be nice..even though it sounds like you are nice...just don't "throw in the towel"...please
2007-03-09 08:01:28 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Get off the pity potty, if you want things to change, change it
2007-03-09 07:58:01 · answer #10 · answered by good cookie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋