2007-03-08 22:55:56 · 14 answers · asked by Panda 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
You know I felt the exact way, but it was me, the more I concentrated on the way it felt tense the worse it got. Now we get along great. I lost my sister in April and it changed my life and saw how unimportant these petty stresses were and that I had alot of myself to blame for it. Suddenly I found myself so relaxed and she relaxed as well. I cannot really tell who was not comfortable with who but when its there its there and hard to get rid of till you really put an effort it. Sometimes honesty is best, saying somethig like I want to get closer to you and I want to be friends lets go see a movie, or lets go to the art museum it may seem juvenile to say it like that but its honest and if she is a good person she will appreciate your effort. Dont give up there is no reason for you not to share with her. P.S. Word of warning. Do not talk about your husband to her though in a bad way, blood is thicker then water and that reigns true everytime. Good luck.
2007-03-09 00:30:43 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
sometimes people in your family have a bit of a chip on your shoulder , there may be a chance that this person doesnt like you , probably not a valid reason , more like a reason to compete , dont try to hard if your sister in law doesnt want to bond , dont create a bond , just be bearable with her . the freindship and bonding is only of use if you both do it.
2007-03-08 22:59:30 · answer #2 · answered by DSV 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't try bonding - a true bond happens on it's own.
Just make sure that you're a gracious host whenever she comes to your house, and that you're always kind and never nasty towards her. That's the most important part.
2007-03-08 23:17:15 · answer #3 · answered by Mister 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't try and bond - just keep being nice no matter what!! Either she will come around or she won't. No matter what, just keep being nice - you don't have to go out of your way to do anything. All the best and God Bless.
2007-03-08 23:01:29 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just keep on trying and maybe one day the bond will stick. hang in there.
2007-03-08 23:54:16 · answer #5 · answered by helpless mum 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's a reason why you feel uncomfortable around her. Don't try bonding with her, just be cordial.
2007-03-08 23:22:30 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
what u are feeling is your intuition telling u it may not be a safe thing to do to bond with her, must be something about her u need to look closely at.
2007-03-08 23:19:10 · answer #7 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
been there, done that
don't bother
Just be cordial.
You don't have to live with her, I went through too much pain thinking this was the right thing to do. Things usually don't change...don't analyze and get all mushy...let it go, you will save yourself a lot of grief.
2007-03-09 00:15:29 · answer #8 · answered by turtle 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't bother. It sounds as if you've extended the olive branch but she's unwilling to accept it. Just be yourself and be friendly. If she doesn't want to be friends then that's her problem.
2007-03-08 23:00:52 · answer #9 · answered by cupcake 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't have to bond although it would be nice. Just be nice and polite whenever you are together.
2007-03-08 23:53:53 · answer #10 · answered by kitkat 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋