how to deal when child gets angry , disobeys and put up tantrums ?

Question

give him anice spank or cede to whatever he says?

Answer 1

if he's totally out of control i would spank him or walk away and completely ignore him. that one always works. if you're in public walk 5 feet ahead of him or behind him and let ihm freak out- he'll soon embarass himself because everyone will stare AT HIM.

Answer 2

Never give up and give him the thing that you refused just minutes ago! That would just teach him to use tantrums to get what he wants. How do you deal with a full-blown tantrum? Depends on the child. Spanking, shouting, distraction, hugging never worked with my daughter. When she would start that screaming, she would become oblivious to the whole world. So the only thing that worked was not paying attention. Yes, it's nerve-racking but it wouldn't last for more than 10 minutes in the worst of cases. After that she always wants to be hugged and I never refuse a hug, even if I'm still angry at her. Sometimes if tantrum is not in full force yet, saying calmly: "When you finish crying, come and mommy will give you hug" has helped. She decided it was better to have a hug than keep screaming but it doesn't always work. She is 3 and 1/2 now and much more reasonable so thank God, tantrums are not so frequent.

Answer 3

i'm a firm believer in spanking. first i give a warning and let the child know what he's doing wrong and what he should be doing. then i give a time out if the child still isn't listening. then i give a spank when the bad behavior continues.

it's worked for all 3 of my kids so far!

Answer 4

Time- outs work great. Put him in a specific place and tell him that every time he acts this way, he will be put into time out. Do not give in regardless of his actions. Let him know what you expect of him, and that you love him, but that this behavior is totally unacceptable. Increase the length of the time out if he continues to behave that way. Chrildren actually crave disaplen. It shows them that you are paying attention to what they are doing.

PS -- If your child is not getting enough attention daily, he will act up to get it. They need attention, and will get it in any way they can, whether it be acting good, or acting bad.

Answer 5

Are you serious ................. who's the parent here............
Why have you waited so long to allow this behavior to happen in the first place....................................
The child needs direction, discipline, needs to understand what respect means and needs to know what NO means - you need to step up to the plate and be the parent!
Take away privileges, remove everything from the child's bedroom - except the mattress - until the child learns that this type of behavior is NOT acceptable. As soon as the child behaves normally again - then give him/her their things and privilieges back.

Answer 6

wen they take a tantrum for something like a toy in a store dont get it for them, if u do they'll realize that they gota pull fits to get wat they want, the more u giv in the harder it is to break there habit. so wen u c a tantrum coming on distract the kid wit sumthin positive if that doesnt work ignore them and wait it out. if its in public stand by them and wait it out, ull prbly c parents nodding in understanding, it happens to every1, dont hit cos thatll make them cry harder. givin in is worse.

Answer 7

DEAR
SPANK RE SPANK HE ARE SHE WILL GET THE MASSAGE SET HOME REALLY FAST QUICK AND NO MORE PROBLEMS JUST SPANK HARDER AND HARDER EACH TIME YOU DO IT OK AND THE LITTLE BRAIN GET THE MASSAGE SENT TO HOME PLATE LIKE A BASE BALL GAME TELL HE ARE SHE YOU ARE NOW GOING TO PLAY BASE BALL
TAKE CARE

Answer 8

It's up to you and your wife to be the parents, and discipline consistently. If the child knows the behaviour expected of him and behaves badly, then he should know there are going to be consequences - time out, having toys taken away, etc.

Answer 9

cool..take it easy...