Will this benefit my kids this time?

Question

I'm a single mother of twin girls. Their father and I don't really get along well but we try for the sake of the twins. He told me is he quitting his job and re-enlisting in the Army very soon. He does not spend time with the girls at all. He may see them once every 2 or 3 months. He does pay child support. The thing is in the past he has used the twins as far as him getting more money in the Army Reserve and they never benefit from it. He tells me now that I have to sign papers at the Reserve Base so when he is gone the twins will benefit and have access to things while he is now in the Army full-time. He gives no emotional support or anything else to the girls. I trusted him before and signed documents that I thought would benefit my kids, but he end up using one of the twins social security number to benefit for himself. I want to know do anyone know how my kids would benefit if I sign papers this time if he is going to the Army full-time or is this another trick he's doin

Answer 1

If he's in the Army full time his dependents, in this case your girls, become eligible for full military dependent benefits. That includes medical care, the purchase of dental care if he adds it, a small life insurance policy, base access for shopping and activities. You'll have to have the girl's there to get dependent ID cards made so they can access these benefits.

He may also qualify for BAH (Basic Allowance for Housing) which is to pay for housing for his dependents. Since it's for the dependents all of that or a portion of that may be court ordered to be given to the girls. But I don't know if he gets that if he doesn't have custody of his dependents or not. All the cases I know of the BAH being sent to the mom and kids happen while they're going through the divorce. I've never followed up with the people once it was final to see what happens then.

Your best bet is to find an attorney that specializes in this or if you can get access to the base legal/JAG office to answer these questions. You don't want your girls to loose out on the benefits they deserve.

Answer 2

Tell him you aren't signing anything without someone present to read over the documents (for the sake of the twins)!
See if there is someone you could ask and have them accompany you so he's not "using" the twins. Do you know anyone that is a lawyer or works at a law office or a solid figure in your life that would your here?
Be sure to explain you just don't trust him as he's let you down in the past. Good Luck.

Answer 3

Your children will benefit with him going from reserve to Active Army. But yes there is a but it does sound as f he is trying to con you. When he goes active number 1 he will still be required to pay child support 2 he will be required to provide medical insurance for them and because he is Army it will be a military depends card and medical. 3 he doesn't need you to sign anything but you will need to have his military information available for the courts. Anything that you have to sign can be done through the courts and directly with the Military you do not have to deal with him.
Always read what you sign

Answer 4

Read everything before you sign it and make sure that you have a court order for child support. The Army is very good about making sure soldiers pay their child support. If he will be making less in the Army than he is currently making it should not affect your child support payments at all. It is his choice to make less money.
I hope things work out for you!

Answer 5

The army tends to be very supportive of family members. If you have any questions, you can ask to go on base and have a meeting with his commanding officer and find out exactly what is up with the paperwork AND ask how to make sure that your children get maximum benefits. You will find they will be extremely helpful.

Answer 6

Every Army base has a Staff Judge Advocate's office, where military members and their family members can get free legal advice. When he gives you the documents he wants you to sign, make an appointment with the SJA people and get them to explain to you just what exactly it is you're being asked to sign.

Answer 7

if he is using ur kids for his own benefits then i would make some phone calls and grass him up sounds like he is not much of a dad and he is no support for u love ur kids have u and u need to remember that dont let urself and ur twins be his door mat tell him to piss off and come bk when he has something to offer and dont sign nothing u need to talk to some one that understands all the benefit stuff dont let him take u for a mug

Answer 8

Speak to someone on base in the social service department. The workers there deal with these kind of situations all the time.....other women have gone through similar situations with different details.

Answer 9

u know him quite well. But u are lucky since the army support families, they will hear u out and help with geting the support from him straight to u

Good luck

Answer 10

sounds like your ex is using your kids. dont sign anything . he will only rip your girls off again. once a welfare cheat all ways a wealfare cheat. sorry about that . protect your babies from getting hurt by thier father.