A college friend and I got on pretty well - we were both in our final year. At the end of the school year, I had the courage to ask this person out. They agreed, but it seemed to be more out of politeness. And I think this person just wanted to remain 'friends'. And that's fine.
However, since then it has been really awkward, and we haven't really talked. Late last year I emailed this person. A few weeks later I got an email back where this person said they had been in hospital. Naturally, I was worried. I've tried contacting this person a few times since then but with no reply. I'm still worried and want to keep this person as a friend because we got on really well. However, I also don't want to come across as a 'stalker'. What should I do?
2007-03-08 21:46:54 · 8 answers · asked by Jones2010 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Bit of an update. Called her today (I'm a guy - sorry for being so cryptic before). Left a message, just letting her know I'm worried about her, and if she's not too busy, just let me know how she's going.
I won't pursue it any further. There may be a reason why she won't talk to me. I may have stuffed up somewhere or maybe she's still ill. However, I think it is time to let go.
It's a shame, but I guess I'm better off giving my time to people who value my friendship.
Thanks to everyone for their advice.
2007-03-09 23:35:50 · update #1
Email them again, maybe it went to their spam fodler. Sometimes my sister's do even though she's in teh "not spam" list. If they don't answer that time, might be just time to cut your losses.
Better yet, pick up the phone nad have a real conversation.
2007-03-08 21:50:41 · answer #1 · answered by Betsy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
being concerned about someone because they're in the hospital or jail does not make you a stalker. Just be yourself, don't worry about what othwer people think about you. If it feels right to go visit this person in the Hospital then, follow your feelings though they might wonder why now? all of this attention. Life is short andf precious
2007-03-09 05:53:16 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why do you keep referring to your friend as "this person" instead of "he" or "she"?
Is this person of the same gender as yourself?
If so, is this person even interested in a same gender relationship?
Maybe that is where your problem(s) lie(s), who knows?
But, after reading your additional details, I have the feeling that your friend isn`t that interested in you, for one reason or another, at least not in romantic terms.
Having said that, maybe you should stop emailing this person and call them on the phone instead or drop by their house if you can and if it`s not too far from where you live.
Do you at least both live in the same city or state?
But to be perfectly honest with you, the ball is in your friend`s court now, so to speak.
Let him/her get in touch with you.
Just make sure your friend knows how to reach you and see what happens.
Most importantly, do not push the issue!
Like you stated so well yourself, you don`t want to become anyone`s "stalker", know what I mean?
If it`s meant to happen, it will.
That`s the way I look at things.
Do you even know if your friend is single & available right now by the way?
Worst case scenario; you can always give me a call!
Good luck to you & let me know how things turn out!
2007-03-09 06:05:14 · answer #3 · answered by Devilish Angel 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Just let go, no point in chasing after someone who doesn`t value yr concern and friendship.
There are better fishes in the sea to pick from and who knows you may find a good and sincere one in the near future.Best of luck to you.
2007-03-09 06:33:33 · answer #4 · answered by Carina21 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh you stalker, seriously man, she knows you. I think you have to be a stranger to be a stalker. Just be patient, and try back in a week, or so. You still have about seven weeks, right? If you think that they may be seriously ill, hit up your social network, I am sure someone has her number. Oh, and finish strong, last semester...make it a good one.
2007-03-09 05:52:27 · answer #5 · answered by Heero Yui 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Time brings on new experiences, people grow & change.
If u two r meant to be friends (doesn't matter how much u want it), u will be. Let her email u back, don't start stalking her.
2007-03-09 05:51:41 · answer #6 · answered by Chloe 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask them to lunch or coffee
2007-03-09 05:50:17 · answer #7 · answered by mel s 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
* Yeah totally *
2007-03-09 06:23:16 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋