decided to be friends w/benefits cause either of us ave never tryed it. well he did and he started telling me he had strong feelings for me and that he cared alot about me all of a sudden i was starting to fell the same way. One day i notice he seemed to be a little distant i asked him what was wrong and he said he didnt want to get hurt and thats why he's pulling away. So days go and we talk and he tells me that he just got a girlfriend like a couple of days ago and i'm thinking what the ****? so everything he said he felt for me was a lie? what went wrong? i have all theses questions. But he tells me i still want us to be friends and i did have feelings for you.. So my question is what the hell happened here. I feel so hurt and confused. help.....
2007-03-08 21:38:42 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Oh you poor thing. Guys NEVER change - those @ssholes. I had a very similar first experience. We were both virgins, we weren't boyfriend/girlfriend, we weren't the best of friends but we had a lot of fun hanging out. One night we both just gave it up and had sex and he dropped me like a turd in his hand very very quickly after that. It felt awful. I felt so used, hurt, and confused. I still to this day don't know exactly what happened... that was about 8-9 years ago when I was 16. We went to high school together and I probably shoved it in the back of my mind cause we still hung out in the same group, and we'd give each other weird looks in the hall. Anyways - about 4 years later... almost 2 years out of high school, I saw him coming out of the grocery store... he actually just out of the blue apologized for being a jerk and said that we were just young and it just freaked him out. I was shocked... I just smiled and that's all I needed to hear. A couple of years later we actually dated for a while but I soon discovered that once again I was just being used and dropped him like a turd in my hand. The point is - you will never stop getting weak in the knees at the sight of this guy but he will also never change. In fact my guy actually got a girlfriend very soon after this all happened too. Go through the emotions girl. Get some ice cream, some chick flicks, some tissues and have a girls night. You deserve it. Whatever you do don't feel ashamed or bad. You felt right about it and you can't feel bad about that. Just be very careful about who you choose in the future. Be sure that you are in love with that person and that they love you back and there will be no regrets. I regret more than 50% of the men I've been with because I did not respect myself enough to be with men that truly cared about me. Just because you are not a virgin anymore does not mean that you are wasted goods and you might as well just sleep with every guy you like. Every person you have sex with means just as much as the first guy... don't let yourself get hurt again cause it hurts just as much every time a guy drops you.
2007-03-08 22:03:40 · answer #1 · answered by THATgirl 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He's just a jerk who doesn't have the guts to tell you the truth. To be honest I don't really understand why that happens...especially if the roles were reversed and you would have told the truth...but thats life I spose. I've read that men tell you what you want to hear...for what purpose?...to get lucky I guess. Moral of the story...friends w/benefits is not a good idea because you end up getting hurt just the same as in a relationship. Next time wait it out for someone who is worthy of you and wants all of you all of the time...not just whenever there is 'spare' time. Cheer up...you will feel better soon.
2007-03-08 21:47:20 · answer #2 · answered by bundy_bee 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He was lonely..and like the louse he is, he turned to you at that time...but he found someone else and dumped you again.
Don't be a fool...there are some great people around..you don't need this treatment...
Respect yourself and realise you are special...
2007-03-08 21:43:21 · answer #3 · answered by Maggi 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well no one may know except for himself.
But, IMO i think he moved on because you thought you didn't have any feelings for him back.
I'm sorry you're hurt,
just wait & he might come back crawling to you.
2007-03-08 21:42:48 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
he liked being your friend but, he also liked your p*ssy as well...he was just saying that to please you. Take it as a mistake .It's not like he promised to love you forever if the two of you slept together.
It's good to have questions...evebn better to know the truth.....you two are friends, good friends ....nothing more
2007-03-08 21:49:25 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
It's hard to be friends after that line has been crossed. Lesson learned????
2007-03-08 21:43:09 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
the word s l u t comes to mind for some reason
2007-03-08 21:41:48 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋