I love women and really treat them as weaker vessel. But they always use me. My girlfriend even told me that she is tired of my soft approach and kindness! How do i treat women? Am confused.
2007-03-08 21:16:59 · 19 answers · asked by lovely 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
More importantly bro, you should be more concerned with how you treat yourself. If you are naturally nice, then don't change that. A girl with an actual brain in her skull will enjoy you for that in the future. You should, however, NEVER accept a disrespect from a girl.
I'll tell you right now, girls for the most part are highly confused themselves. They want to be sure that you are the kind of person that would NEVER EVER let them step out of line because they tend to just do that occasionally...and they dont seem to like it when they do.
So, be stern with your decisions and in all you do, resonate a calm and confidence that makes everyone, especially her, realize that you are NOT dependant on her to be considered a man.
This is the probably the most logical way to explain something so illogical.
2007-03-08 21:28:55 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
The thing is this: All your life women are going to nag you about becoming softer, more sensitive, more interested in what they like, basically more like a woman. And when they finally succeed. They won't love you anymore. You'll be boring to them. What does a woman need more exposure to femininity for? She wants what she doesn't already have. That is manliness. And as unpopular as it is to say that there is no real "masculine" or "feminine" in the traditional sense. Really, there is. And if you are acting like a femme before she even gets a chance to try and soften you, then she feels like, "what's the point?" It's like the old story of the superhero getting a chance to kill the supervillain and then not doing it because existence would be sad and boring without the constant battling.
So, don't make yourself more emo or nerdy or whatever because your fairy tale movies have told you that those guys ultimately end up with the real sweethearts. Just be real. Be completely honest to yourself. (and if you are naturally a femme, then I don't know what to do for you) Nature is a lot older than you are, and you aren't going to beat it by playing any kind of role.
2007-03-09 05:30:32 · answer #2 · answered by Nivk 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All people are different and have differen needs. There are a so many women who would really appreciate your soft approach and kindness. Some women won't. So instead of changing yourself, maybe (and I really hate to give advice like that) you two should consider if you are suitable for each other. Some women would despise soft men thinking that they are weak. And you don't need to be in a relationship in which the woman despises you.
2007-03-09 05:24:50 · answer #3 · answered by petyado 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Its not that women like tough guys... I mean its nice sometimes. But there is such thing as being TOO NICE. Females can do almost all the things a guy can do. So you shouldn't treat them as a "weaker vessel". Just be yourself around women. Don't change to super nice guy and tend to your every whim guy because a girl is near you. Just be you.
PLUS, when you treat girls too good all the time, they take it for granted. So do it every now and again but not like every minute of every day.
2007-03-09 05:21:35 · answer #4 · answered by ash 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Well I am just speaking for myself but no absolutely not. Harsh and tough men dont get more respect. The men that get respect are the ones that respect themselves and other people.
Perhaps you dont respect yourself enough and she see this as a weakness, which is why she doesnt respect you. If you believe in yourself, have confidence and a storng charater then girls will stop treating you the way you described.
2007-03-09 05:22:15 · answer #5 · answered by f_jayce 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You are wrong, it's not tough and harsh, but strong and confident. You need to have conviction in what you do. Everyone is attracted more to confident people, and that denotes strength. Would you rather have someone sure in their skill to fix your car? The same when it comes to interpersonal skills. Would you rather have someone that knows them self or someone that is insecure? And if you yourself are secure then it goes doubly. That's why people of the same level of maturity usually end up together. But hey, it's not like I know what I'm talking about... right?
2007-03-09 05:19:32 · answer #6 · answered by Waddy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
the answer to your question is YES unfortunately due to the existing system it is primarily unconsciously assumed that male is a symbol of power and strength and has authority over weaker gender our women are also brought up in this system and mentally accept superiority of men
so their response automatically gets in this shape
i am sorry but keep it up u r doing what actually is right
2007-03-09 05:31:46 · answer #7 · answered by Caring 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok, listen. Girls say they like caring and sensitive guys, which they do to an extent. But if you're more sensitive and caring then they are, they don't like it.
In reality, girls go for the challenges, a.k.a. the assholes. And then whenever our boyfriends (the asshole ones) are being jerks, we bi tch and complain. It's like a never ending circle.
Try to toughen up a bit. Don't be a jerk off to her, but don't be super polite and kind 24/7...she'll stick around longer.
Messed up, but true.
2007-03-09 05:21:30 · answer #8 · answered by Wendy 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
my boyfriend isn't harsh or tough. and i have a huge amount of respect for him. my sons father however......is the exact opposite and i hate his guts. i think you need to stop worrying about being a decent person..... because thats what you are, i think your girlfriend needs to realise that there are young women out there who are not as lucky as she is!
2007-03-09 05:26:12 · answer #9 · answered by Bird 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is real, women only like harsh and tough men. If we are soft and kind hearted, they try to eat us up...
2007-03-09 05:22:31 · answer #10 · answered by funxxxnxxx 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋