has any one or is any one waiting until they are married to have sex? and if so why?? just wondering :D
2007-03-08 20:47:06 · 12 answers · asked by hello 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Yes! We are.
For us, our reasons are because we both have had past relationships and have experienced the heartache of giving your whole self to someone in such an intimate way, and then the relationship ending.
We (all people) were not created to give pieces of ourselves away to different partners...we are meant for a (one) beautiful, passionate and intimate relationship with a partner who will stay faithful and true - someone you are completely committed too and who is completely committed to you. And marriage is the ultimate expression of being completely committed to one another.
My fiance and I met after we had both became Christians and because of our past experiences we are able to see why God's plan for his people is to wait till you're married to have sexual intercourse. We believe that sharing such an intimate act as sexual intercourse is what makes a couple 'become one' - God created us, and he wants the best for us and so he hasn't given us a book full of rules and regulations...he's given us a book that tells us how we can achieve the best for our lives. We have free will, and my fiance and I have both used our free will in our pasts to do as we pleased and enjoyed sexual relationships outside of marriage - which is why we can now see the heartache and damage that it caused to each of us as individuals, and we're able to see the pain and heartache it causes others. We know that God's command to save sexual intimacy for marriage is because he wants to spare us from that heartache...he wants us to experience that intimacy in the way He meant for us too, which is within the boundaries of marriage.
So, that's why we are waiting. And ya know, as well as because we know waiting is what God would want for us, we also can say that we have something amazing to look forward too. How excited we are about our wedding night...we love each other and are thrilled to be spending the rest of our lives together, and knowing that our wedding night will be the night we 'become one' is a very exciting thing to look forward too....our marriage will not soon become boring :-) And our wedding night won't just be an excuse to stay in a hotel, like it is for so many who have chosen to sleep together before they got married.
These are the reasons we're waiting...thanks for asking :-)
2007-03-09 00:14:55 · answer #1 · answered by emay02 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We didn't wait, but I wish we had. The sacredness of marriage has all but disappeared. What's a honeymoon for if not to be together for time and experience each other away from family and friends. In earlier days, weddings lasted for days! The marriage bed was blessed. Why would you give someone a gift that has already been open?
If I could do it again I would certainly wait. Ignorance is not bliss. If you believe the 80 or 90 percent of people nowadays, you too will fall for hype. You are worth waiting for. Make it special the first time. You can only give the gift of your virginity ONE time. I applaud those who wait. I have no doubt they will be glad they did.
2007-03-09 23:22:50 · answer #2 · answered by lost again 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Alot of people do it because that is what the bible teaches. I think it is awesome for 2 people to wait to give themselves to each other whole heartedly especially if they are both virgins. Very romantic. As far as being sexually compatible well if neither of you have ever had sex then you won't know the difference and I think anyone who loves one another will be sexually compatible no matter what. Making love is alot different then just sex. Hold out I think it is awesome if you are waiting. You will be glad you did one day.
2007-03-09 08:58:25 · answer #3 · answered by Ladybugs77 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it depends on the person's religious beliefs. I was certainly not promiscuous, but I had intimate relationships with all long-term boyfriends. Waiting because you think it is more "special" seems like a silly reason. It is just as special if you are in love with someone, whether you are married or not.
So, yes and no - it's worth it to wait if you are very religious.
2007-03-09 14:22:20 · answer #4 · answered by duritzgirl4 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
we're waiting...and we've been together since we were 15 (8 years) i'm not saying that it's easy, but i know it'll be worth it.
it's biblical, but i also just think it'll mean a lot more if my 'first' time is with my husband...and i know we'll have a blessed marriage...i'm not at all worried about the "compatibility" as some above stated.
2007-03-09 23:02:10 · answer #5 · answered by jennyvee 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Oh, we're definitely waiting. It's not easy, lol, that's for sure...but it's definitely going to be worth it. Our faith is really important to us, and we feel that it's better that those sorts of things (sleeping together, living together, etc.) are better saved till we're married. That way things are special, and those experiences can be sacred and shared between us.
2007-03-09 11:17:54 · answer #6 · answered by Constellation 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I didnt and am glad I didnt. its soooo overrated to wait. giving yourself to your husband/wife on your wedding night? gimme a break. in order to fully connect with a person before marriage you need to connect on the intimacy level. I have been in relationships where the sex was just plain BAD! how would you know that if you didnt try it before you buy it? if people what to wait then thats up to them and none of my business, but I have never understood the concept of waiting.
2007-03-09 09:03:27 · answer #7 · answered by Jenn ♥Cadence Jade's mum♥ 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Some wait, some don't. I didn't, my husband did. It's a personal choice, and should be respected either way.
2007-03-09 08:27:45 · answer #8 · answered by Poppet 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nope. Definitely not! I was raised that way and my parents certainly think that I am, but personally, I think the argument for it is ridiculous!
2007-03-09 05:26:43 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I didn't, but as a mother of two daughters, I wish they would :), but with that said, I wouldn't buy a car without taking it for a test drive either.
2007-03-09 06:13:12 · answer #10 · answered by abc 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋