reading a double meaning in his words, or I ask him question trying to check if hes lying or fooling me. I know that im not affectionate enough, even though i have no proof of him ever treating me wrong.
why do i do this?
i really like him, and i have done it again, and this time im sure hes gonna leave me.
2007-03-08 20:28:52 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Truth is girl.... your "subconscious" is really trying to reach out to you and in truth... wants you not to be with your bf
2007-03-08 20:33:59 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
have u ever been hurt by someone? i think maybe before you've been hurt once very badly and you just couldn't forget that experience though you are always trying ur best to. maybe this fear is still incide ur deep memory so you found it kinda difficult to believe in someone totally again and that's why the more you wants to be with him the further you are pushing him away. you're so afraid of being hurt again. so i suggest you should give both him and urself a chance to change this current situation. try to trust him if you realy do love him and tell him all of ur secrets no matter it's happy or sad just share it with him. if he loves you he will help you with ur inner problem and you will soon be fine. meanwhile ur relationship will be strengthen as well.
2007-03-08 20:43:03 · answer #2 · answered by Dorothy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sound like you have a problem trusting others. Did you get burned in a relationship or something? Did you have a sibling who acted like this or get treated like this? Parents? Some people are just like this.
You should apologize to him and try to explain why you are the way you are. Figure that part out first! Tell him you'll work on it (and you will)
2007-03-08 20:33:48 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Affraid of being hurt. You have to trust him. Specially since he has never given you a reason not to. If you keep pushing him away long enough he wont come back. Stop reading into what he says and just take him at his word.
2007-03-08 20:35:47 · answer #4 · answered by Gecko 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its a psychological thing. You're one of those people who are afraid of good things. I'll be real with you babe, sometimes, you have to *****-slap yourself (in your mind) whenever the urge to mess up a good thing comes up. Part of the many thoughts that whiz past your mind are "its too good to be true" or "He's too good, I don't deserve him" and these thoughts are stemed from some deep-seated insecurity. And then when the "warm feeling" of his deeds are about to sink in, this insecurity quickly converts it into something else, creating thoughts that pertain to suspicion and the like.
You must get rid of that insecurity and accept that you DO in fact deserve something good. You should also refrain from being selfish and think more about what this guy feels and maybe then you can begin to see why he loves you like he does.
2007-03-08 20:40:57 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
you are such an idiot!!!(im sorry if i say that)do you know that just 20% or less you can find a guy like that and you just let it go,maybe you need a theraphy.Why dont you jst accept him and try to understand.Ignore your being such a suspicious mind.This time try to think something that can mke him happy and not jst think yourself..think of him!!dont be selfish.Hving a good relationship the secret is ``TRUST``.If theres a problem go and talk to it and dont jst passed the day w/o talking.And if you cnt do that..the best thing you can do is LET HIM GO..let him find another one that can mke him happy.
2007-03-08 20:40:55 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe psychologically you feel as though you don't deserve the special treatment he's giving you, and if you give in to his good treatment and then he takes it away or leaves, your feelings will be hurt. Maybe psychologically he is afraid of losing you and not genuinely a nice person. People will do anything not to get hurt.
2007-03-08 20:34:29 · answer #7 · answered by South Beach 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i don't understand why you have been pushing him away once you like him dearly? isn't it organic to be a prepared spouse whilst your husband needs intimacy? a common female in love along with her husband is often excited to be on the factor of him. in case you pick, attempt to bypass to a psychologist and ask approximately those unusual thoughts you have in the direction of your husband.
2016-12-18 09:05:50 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you are scared of getting hurt. Learn to trust him and tell him that you are sorry. Treat him the way that he deserves to be treated. Appreciate him. He sounds like a cute guy. Hold on to him. Men like that is few.
2007-03-08 20:33:05 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do you feel that you don't deserve this affection? Makes me think someone hurt you bad in the past. Since you don't trust ANYTHING I'd say you have alot of work to do on yourself.
2007-03-08 20:35:42 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe you are scared of committing to him, that if you open yourself up to him without question that you'll get hurt....there area any number of reasons why you do it...maybe you were hurt in a previous relationship or something like that...sit down and talk to him and tell what it is that is bothering you...i reckon you know what it is deep down too...tell him why you keep pushing him away....whether its fear or low self esteem, he should he may even help you ....good luck
2007-03-08 20:34:06 · answer #11 · answered by deni 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋