I have 4 children, a son 6, a daughter 3 and twins 6months boy/girl. Before the twins came my daughter was fully toilet trained, including nights, hadnt used a pacifier in 2 years or a bottle. Since the twins came, my daughter has started to go backwards. She is now wetting/soiling herself, screaming for a pacifier or taking one of the babies, and wants a bottle instead of her cup. Help?!?
2007-03-08 20:27:29 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
She has been fully toilet trained since she was 20months. I have been praising her and aking a big deal when she goes to the toilet now, and have tried a sticker chart and rewards to no avail.
I do try and get her to be involved with the twins as much as possible, she picks out their outfits in the morning, bruses their hair, tries to give them their bottles, helps bath them and she gets lots of hugs.
We do have mommy/ mia time, where i take her out to the park and out for icecream, just ,me and her.
And she knows that she is a big girl now, cos she says to me every morning "mommy i a big girl now"
2007-03-08 20:32:15 · update #1
Let her act like a baby and even treat her like one for a while and never say a condescending word. Meanwhile try giving her examples of how nice it is to be grown up because grown up people can do things that babies can't do. For ex. "Oh, see how your brother can kick that ball - he's all grown up. I bet you can do it as well as he does." Gradually go to examples with feeding herself, dressing herself, using the potty. Show her some priviledges that she enjoys because she is older: "Yes, you can watch video because you are grown up and babies are not allowed to do that", etc. Be patient, the time will come when she will decide it is more fun and more profitable to be grown-up than a small baby.
After reading your additional details: You are doing the right things. Maybe she just wants to try what it is like being a baby - children at that age imitate a lot and want to do what other children do. Again let her do it for a while, maybe she will get tired of it soon.
2007-03-08 20:39:03 · answer #1 · answered by petyado 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like your daughter is having a time adjusting to her new siblings. She is used to being the baby in the home and is not liking her placing being taken by the twins. You need to impress upon her that she is a big sister, and a big girl, not a baby. Only babies wet/soil themselves, because they don't know how to use the "big-girl potty". Only babies drink from a bottle because they don't know how to use a cup. Help her be the big sister by giving her little jobs to do with you in taking care of the twins. Show her how to be the big sister. Also, set aside a time during the day, for example, when the twins are napping, that is just for you and her. Maybe sit with her and color a picture or read a book. Special Mommy-Daughter time. I did this with my son, when his sister was born. It lets them know Mommy still loves them. Good luck.
2007-03-09 04:38:26 · answer #2 · answered by Kat 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have a 7yr old boy, a 4yr old girl, and a 3mo old boy. My daughter did the same thing to me. Although she didn't mess her pants, she did ask to wear a diaper and drink a bottle! I think it's just a stage that kids go thru when there is a new addition to the family. It could be jealousy or just wanting the attention they see mommy giving the babies.
As long as you are showing attention to your older ones, it will get better soon. Having twins is hard enough on their own, but having two older ones is even harder when you have twins! Hang in there and keep trying.
Good luck and congrats on the twins. I think twins truely are a gift.
2007-03-09 04:33:59 · answer #3 · answered by impossiblemama 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes the child just wants more attention. She was the baby for 3 years and now that you have the new ones they get the attention. Not because you love them more but because they need it. She is reverting back because she thinks if she acts this way that she will get your attention and you affection.
She will get over it soon try rewarding her for being a big girl show her how good it is to be big... Then it should make her want to act older
2007-03-09 04:32:27 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Attention
2007-03-09 08:46:48 · answer #5 · answered by cweetepye 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its a natural reaction to try and get attention of you, my sister did this when I had my little girl, she was only two at the time. She grew out of it when my baby was about six months or so. Just try and comfort her as best you can but explain to her that the pacifiers arent hers and that big girls dont need them, but also try and give her more attention if you can.
2007-03-09 04:32:19 · answer #6 · answered by angelcakes 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its an attention thing, she thinks she is being left out. She sees you attending to the twins changing nappies, feeding & giving a pacifier to sooth them so basically she sees it that if she does the same she will get more of your attention. Its a common problem & you will get through it just don't give in to her & try to make her see that doing the naughty things won't get your attention BUT good things will
2007-03-09 04:33:16 · answer #7 · answered by Denise W 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like she is needing attention. I am sure you love all your kids the same and make time for them but the truth is when you do have small babies, the bigger kids do not get as much attention as they did before the baby(s) came along. She is proably just needing a little attention.
2007-03-09 04:33:15 · answer #8 · answered by ஐ♥Julian'sMommy♥ஐ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
get her into playgroup once she is spending time with kids around her age she will slowly stop
to get her useing her own cup show her that becoz she is a big girl she gets chocy milk instead of plain like the twins
not much kids won`t do for chocy lol
2007-03-09 05:41:27 · answer #9 · answered by james_cokies 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like shes jealous of the twins to me!!!
2007-03-09 04:30:54 · answer #10 · answered by x_ampz_x 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋