my brother got married in 2005 and in october 2006 he got a baby boy ... My Sister in law is working ,
My mom is sick she is having daibeties, hypertension, cervical, forzen shoulders....she cannot take of the baby , baby as my nature are too demanding . She cannot do it ..... but my brother and his wife refuse to understand my momz problem . so please suggest me what my mom should do . Being tied to the house with a crying baby is driving my daibetic and hypertensed mom crazy ...........so please suggest me some way methods in which i can help her . i am quiet far for my mom i mean....... in another country..she cries a lot on phone every time i call her ..........
My SIL refuses to quit work.........so please help me
Thanx for ur serious replies
2007-03-08 20:22:27 · 11 answers · asked by may_minu 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
You should call your brother up and explain to him that its wrong. They wanted a baby so they should take care of it. You can report them because it is basically like abuse and not to mention neglectful.You mom should stand her ground too and if all else fails, have a doctor declare in black and white that she is unfit for taking care of a baby. I do hope this situation gets better.
2007-03-08 20:30:56 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Seems like in this situation there are two choices for your mom. Either the parents act like parents and take care of the child. Or you have to bite the bullet and give the child up to someone who can take care of it. Its hard but its not worth your mom or the babies health to keep it the way things are.
2007-03-08 20:29:49 · answer #2 · answered by Gecko 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it's not fair that your brother and his wife expect your mother to take care of their child. If they're both working, can't they afford to pay for child care? Even if you mother only has the child one or two days a week, that should help a bit.
I think you're right to be concerned - this situation won't be helping your mother's health at all. Can you talk to your brother? This his child (and his mother) too, and as such it is his responsibility to do the right thing.
2007-03-08 20:53:12 · answer #3 · answered by Deborah C 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should call ur brother and tell him what trouble ur mom is having and what he should do with him own baby. if ur sister in law doesn't understand ur mom it in some way could be understood but if ur brother doen't stop this and he even does the same to ur mom who gave him his life and his everything then he really should be blamed. if this still doesn't work i think for your mom's happiness you should go back to her however busy u r and help her solve the problem.
2007-03-08 20:33:21 · answer #4 · answered by Dorothy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u suggest ur mother to demand a maid for look after ur brothers baby. I think she can manage a maid. Or if ur brother will refuse to do this u can take ur mother wiht u. After all she is urs mother too. I should take care of her or u should talk with ur brother.
2007-03-08 20:31:21 · answer #5 · answered by sona 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds to me like your brother and sil should not have been so irresponsible when they wanted to play dunk the weinie... it is not your mom's responsibility to babysit their little baby...
your mom needs to let those two know that she already raised her kids,,, and now it is time for her son and daughter in law to do the same as she has done in the past...
if they don't like it then too ******* bad.... mom has better things to do and worry about than taking care of someone elses brat....
2007-03-08 21:23:26 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
this is potentially unsafe for both your mother and the baby. what if something happened to either of them? contact social services in the county where your mother resides. have a professional assess the situation if you are unable to step and help personally. you may carry guilt if an accident occurs otherwise.
2007-03-08 21:00:41 · answer #7 · answered by KitKat 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that you should tell your brother how sick your mum really is, and your brother and his wife need to find someone else to look after there baby. this is not good for your mum and it is not a safe situation for the baby either.
2007-03-08 23:21:51 · answer #8 · answered by helpless mum 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
have your mother go to her doctor to see if she passes a physical to be a caretaker of a baby.
Stress makes diabetes worse.
Your mamma loves her grandbaby.
It's best you talk to your brother and mother and do a conference call. have them go to the doctor with her.
If she were to fall and injure that baby, they would be really angry.
get the facts, about her health condition, get the doctor's okay or NO and send them a copy of it.
then but out!
2007-03-08 20:28:31 · answer #9 · answered by Lilly 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if u can take ur mom with urself at ur place .take her away from the place where she is treated in a way which is bad,atleast don let her cry in this age if ur brother can't understand this then u can.
2007-03-08 20:28:01 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋