I have been dating a guy for 3 Months now, and when i started going out with him there were romous that he is married but he says he is not. I belive him because i have been spending everyday wit him since i met him. he say they say his married because when he dates someone he dates one person at a time. He is a cool guy but i have my douts with him cause of phone calls that he gets some times, he has never given me any reason to dout that he is only dating me and no one else but its just my insticts. Is he for real or what?
2007-03-08 20:02:25 · 8 answers · asked by Thandazo A 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
always believe your guts
2007-03-08 20:05:40 · answer #1 · answered by jacky 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
3 months is not long enough to trust a person. 3 months he could tell his wife he's with his dying mother and she has cancer, and poof you have a 6month gap to do as he pleases. Your heart and gut lie to you, please dont rely on those alone. If he's married first tell you how much you like his hands, and look at them under the light, look for the tan line of a wedding ring. Next, pick up that cell phone, check incooming call history, hop on whitepages.com, enter the number that you saw. If his name pops up, or a woman with the same name, you have something to think about. Basically dont trust someone because you think you should, trust them because you TRUELY have no reason not to. An example of Who you should trust, listen to people who "answer" you, and dont give you the "answer it yourself" bullcrap. Anyone who tells you, trust your gut, you'll figure it out, I'm sure it's not that bad, is someone you cannot trust. Because they are being "false". Anyhow, investigate, dont confront. If you confont him he will just cover his tracks and show you all the things to prove his side. Anyhow, good luck, and i hope it is as he says and you guys stay together for a long time.
2007-03-09 04:15:14 · answer #2 · answered by Kyle E 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Usually, when you hear rumors of marriage in a man, he is married. My soon to be ex-husband saw 3 women that I know of and I am sure that they all thought he was single, since he quit wearing his wedding ring. He would see his women every day while I was working. I also called him, I'm sure during his "dating while married" affairs. Also, he could spend every day with a woman, since I worked everyday. My husband was also a cool guy. Go with your instincts. If you have doubts now, then you'll never have trust.
2007-03-09 04:19:57 · answer #3 · answered by wrknggrl4848 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should find out about him sooner. He may be married or he may be some one who is cool enough to date a number of girls. The more you spend your time with him the more you will fall into him and you will make a complicated relationship. So you should be able to get information about his marriage or the other things he may be doing and decide what to do about him.
Good Luck!
2007-03-09 04:54:08 · answer #4 · answered by Sam 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have doubts about this guy and I think you don't know him well enough. You may need more time and I mean, longer period, like a year later to decide on the kind of relationship and direction it is taking you ...Maybe the question will be more relevant then?
2007-03-09 04:09:17 · answer #5 · answered by happy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl go with your instinct we as women are usually right.First of all don't make accusations that you are sure of just wait it out and the truth will come out i promise you.Do your homework on the side act like it doesn't bother you and he will slip it never fails men are clumsy like that.When they think you don't care they get careless and all the dirt starts to come out.Keep your eyes open and your heart locked.
2007-03-09 04:10:17 · answer #6 · answered by Carol H. 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Listen to your heart.
2007-03-09 04:06:37 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hard to say if he is for real or not. n
2007-03-09 04:09:08 · answer #8 · answered by Nikki 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋