I have a huge crush on my professor and believe that he is attracted to me too. He told me recently that he is going through a divorce right now. I will wait until he is completely done with his divorce before I pursue anything, but at the same time I don't really know how he feels about dating a student. I know and respect that he is attached to his job, but can't help but want to test the water out a bit. I do not want to tell him how I feel until I am done with this class and until I get more cues from him as to how he feels about me. I know that he won't outwardly express his feelings for me, especially while I'm in his class but am I silly for thinking subtle cues are enough to read someone??? Please help....
2007-03-08 19:55:34 · 9 answers · asked by forbidden96 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Hey there! I got your email! Well, it's good to know there's someone else out there like me! To answer the question in the email, no, I didn't tell him my feelings, mainly because I'm painfully shy and don't take rejection well. I'm thinking of maybe sending him a letter that is a little suggestive of my feelings.
Your case: Good job for looking into every aspect of a possible relationship with him. You looked into his current intimate relationship--which is going in the garbage; yes!--and are careful not to jump into things with him. That really shows you care about him; you're willing to put your feelings aside in order for him to gather himself. You're right to not make any move while you're in his class. You probably won't get in trouble, but it will definitely be awkward for both of you--whether he reciprocates the attraction or not. Is a relationship between you and him possible? I don't know, but consider the age gap, differing interests, and if you truly see a lasting relationship with him. Also consider if you really want a man who's willing to date his STUDENT, and be careful he doesn't take his authority position to his advantage.
Bottom line: I say, once the class is over, go for it. Tell him how you feel. If you can take the possibility that maybe he won't be ready for a relationship, what do you have to lose? If you don't do it now, you'll be left wondering what could have happened. Depending on his moral standards, he may not want a relationship with a student at his school...even though the student may not be one of his. But believe me, you would want him to be a little reluctant, because that just means he has high scruples.
Good luck with everything and remember: anything is possible!
2007-03-10 13:43:25 · answer #1 · answered by JenYA 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Assuming that if you're in a university setting, you're over 18...why wait until he's through with his divorce to go after him? He's most vulnerable while he's going through his anger and loss stage. Get in and get out, it isn't in the cards for a long-term relationship, but you might have a fun fling that gets him through the divorce and satisfies your youthful itch...
2007-03-08 20:04:32 · answer #2 · answered by wetdreamdiver 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its okay for professors to have romance with their students but only if its outside the school or classrooms. This is to ensure he is not bias when comes to marking those exam papers. You are right to wait until his divorce is finalised. Meanwhile, I would suggest you go mix with your other friends and not just wait for him or else you may be disapointed if he's not interested in you.
2007-03-08 20:01:41 · answer #3 · answered by SGElite 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
How old are you? Chances are, him being a professor, he's an adult. Adults generally are old enough to appreciate straightforwardness. Once you are no longer a student at the school, tell him how you feel.
2007-03-08 20:00:53 · answer #4 · answered by Jenny J 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't advise it. If you feel that strong about him and he feels that way about you, wait until you leave the school or you are no longer his student. He could be risking his job getting involved with you. Or he could be one of those guys who prey on young, naive students to have sex with them. I'm not saying he is, but it happens. I wouldn't do anything until I knew for sure what his feelings truly are.
2007-03-08 20:32:05 · answer #5 · answered by Cocoa 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Leave the guy alone. You will get him into hot water. Just give him a quick BJ under the desk and then scram.
2007-03-08 20:12:50 · answer #6 · answered by Ted Bundy 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Unlikely? I don't know.
Unwise? Definitely.
2007-03-08 21:58:54 · answer #7 · answered by Liz 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well... if you guys do date..chances are, he will get fired when the school finds out.
2007-03-08 20:04:22 · answer #8 · answered by cheeryviola 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
not only is it unlikely, it's unprofessional
2007-03-08 20:01:38 · answer #9 · answered by SRSLY?! 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋