How can I solve this religious suffering & depression I am going through?

Question

If any of you are able, I really need your honest help & answers.

I am very depressed right now because of a religious burden I can't seem to get off my mind. It is driving me, almost suicidal at times.

What is wrong is, I am being taught, there is a heaven or hell, free will is why we are here, to choose whether to serve God or not because "God don't want robots".

I know about heaven, but don't want to go, because no matter how good I do, am, or teach, too many family members or friends will go to hell.

I don't want to lose anyone, I love people too death. I don't care if they did wrong, I can't stop loving them, it is impossible.

I can't go to heaven & leave them.

I am scared to go to heaven, cause I lose people I love, I am scared to go to hell cause that is painful, I am scared to die because I will be punished in hell for that sin.

I don't want to be here in this mess, I just want to be rescued from this depression but don't know how.

What can I do? Please help! I'm scared

I have to add this. I don't hate God, but I can't love him for destroying people like this...,

I just don't know what to do, the pain is killing me inside.

I wish I was as though I never were. But I am told this is helplessly impossible. Not my will will be done, but God's will. And God's will is to either burn me or send me happily to heaven where forever I will be tormented by those I love that went to hell.

I know, he will wipe all tears?

I think I just commit suicide in heaven. I can't take all this pain. It is too much. Why did God do this to me, stick me in this life, it is too much for me, I can't handle it!

I don't want to live at all anywhere anymore.

No way I turn is perfect, heaven, hell, living or dead.

Answer 1

Let Go.

Don't believe everything you read or hear, research their validity. Do you really, honestly, full-heartedly believe there are people on lounge chairs sipping Bacardi wearing long white robes and listening to harp music floating on clouds? Or a hot, firey, torturing chamber in the earth's crust? This isn't about heaven and hell, it's about right or wrong, live or die.
Well, if you do more rights than wrong, you'll be rewarded ten fold- Karma.
If you kill yourself you'll hurt everyone you love, miss out on the wonders of groowing up, and probably reincarnate as a rat or ant. Find a mission- your reason of being here- something you're passionate about and Just Do It! Nike
And when there's nothing you can believe in, believe in yourself- first and foremost!
Read some books, educate yourself of the billions of possibilities out there if you'd only let go of whatever's holding you back.
Chin up, dude! Only you can help yourself! Soldier on!

Answer 2

I think God is dealing with your heart right now, and if you will be patient, I think you will come out of this a much better person. Please do not give up and take your life. Because I know that God has great things planned for you on the other side of this hurdle you are now dealing with.

I think that the love you have for people is reflective of the very love that God has for people. God does not want people to suffer in hell. If you cannot bear to think of that happening, then how could God bear to let it happen? I do not believe that God sends people to hell, at least not eternally. I am a religious studies major, and I have learned the development of the idea of hell in Christianity. Knowing how it developed, it is very hard for me to accept that that idea came from God. If there is a hell, then why didn't God let Moses know about it? There is no mention of anything like that in the Torah (the Law of Moses). The idea was made by man, and came about quite late in the history of Judaism. Even to this day, Jews do not really believe in a "hell." And I think they are really in line with the Hebrew Scriptures to reject that belief.

In short, I just know too much about how the idea of hell evolved in the minds of humans, to accept that the idea came from God.

And furthermore, it is not in line with a God of love.

Please go see a doctor about maybe getting some anti-depressants. When you are depressed, the issues like this can feel overwhelming to you. You may think that you are depressed because of the religious issue - however, it is much more likely that the the religious issue is bothering you so much, BECAUSE you are ALREADY depressed in the 1st place. I know this because I've been there. I once got so depressed, and I thought it was because of a religious issue. I thought that there was no good reason that God created the world, and that there was no justification for the suffering in the world, and I thought that was why I was hopeless and depressed. But once I got on the right anti-depressants, I suddenly realized that it was depression itself that made me see the world that way.

Depression can make you feel so bad, and it makes you think that the reason you feel bad is such-and-such a thing. But in reality, it is a clinical problem, that needs treated clinically. Once you get the right medication, you will be able to think clearly about the religious issues - you will be able to see how depression had put a cloud over your eyes and made you think things were bad, when they were really not so bad. It is hard to believe right now, but you'll see it later when you are no longer depressed. Again, I'm speaking completely from experience.

All the best to you!

Answer 3

Hell is pictured pretty clearly as a horrible place, and not a place where people will be partying, so people who will go there will be alone. If they go there there though the fact you were in heaven would probably give them a tiny bit of solace. So going there wouldn't help support any relatives who end up there.
You can pray for them. Experientially for me its hard to deny that I came into a new relationship with God after conversion, before I wasn't really, except under occasional hard circumstances, even sparing a thought for God. So people do need to be reconciled with God, even if totally uninterested, sceptical or hostile.
Satan may be messing with your mind and emotions, so learn how to counteract that from your bible and church.

Answer 4

my dear, you don't need to go through this self torment. If you give your life and heart completely to the Lord and let Him live in you, then you can have an effective powerful prayer life that will change your family and friends. Also, it doesn't make sense to go to hell because you have loved ones there - there is no "fellowship" or communication in hell with others. You are totally alone in your torments. Let God use you as a prayer warrior and intercessor to "rescue" those you love from hell....but you can't do that if you are on the road to hell yourself. You must love God supremely, more than your family, spouse, kids, or anyone else. HE must be your FIRST and greatest love - that is why we want to go to heaven. When you come to that place in Him, His peace will reign in you and then you can be effective in the lives of those others that you are concerned about. The best cure for depression is empowerment and direction and God gives both. God bless.

Answer 5

i dont believe it because i too think the same way
but i cant say that God can do any thing wrong and that is why i worship Him all our disequilibriums ,tumultions.depressions ,anxities get sort out when we take refuge in God's shelter i suggest you to read the english translation of the Holy Quran and if all your troubles are not sorted out you can call me what ever you like

Answer 6

Go live in a forest for some time, all hermit style... learn how to preserve yourself biologically... and then try again. You are trying too hard for something that is completely simple. Relax and shed some skin.

Answer 7

what can I tell you.
How plain can it be?
Look at my nickname!
What do you see.

Answer 8

take a chill pill!

Answer 9

Wimp!There now you don't love me.Problem solved.