Do you have a long list to tick off be4 u choose someone to be with?

Question

like

job,
education,
social class,
looks,
integrity....

or

it is enuff if the person is nice, honest and interested in you?

Answer 1

I had a list and a lot of my friends laughed at me or tried to tell me I was wrong. But I'd had enough of dating people who just weren't into what I was into and it causing problems.

I met someone who ticked most of the boxes (and it was a long list) - it really was quite freaky how similar we were even down hating the smell of eggs cooking. Tonight some friends are taking us out to dinner to celebrate the fact that we got married two weeks ago.

My list looked something like this

Good Education (I enjoy intellectual converstations so must be well educated and read)
Likes to dance
Good looking enough to stop my eye wandering
Creative
Likes the theatre
Has a passion for something
Lives to eat rather than eats to live
Kind to other people and animals
Tall (sorry, I jut don't fancy short people)
Well spoken
Sociable
Shared sense of humour
A sensate
Likes to give and receive
Not afraid of showing feelings (didn't quite get this one)
Spontaneous
Accepting
Not easily embarrassed (because I do occassionally stupid things in publc)

That's about it!

Answer 2

I have a basic list, but it all comes back to the type of person I like. I have never actually thought of it as a list though. They have to be willing to work, have morals similar to mine, some similar interests. Typically, I'm not attracted to someone that doesn't meet those criteria. Get to know the person, and you'll know whether or not to proceed. Nice, honest, and interested is definitely a good start if you are interested too.

Answer 3

Yes. First, he must have a job or some independent source of income so he isn't borrowing money off of me.
He must have a vehicle so he isn't asking for rides or borrowing my car.
He must have his own house or apartment so he isn't asking to move in with me (or at least not right away)
He must be educated to at least the 8th grade (most of us don't remember much of it after that anyway)
He must have some 'integrity' so he isn't out drinking all night, then come back and bat me around. This has nothing to do with social class, but everything to do with having some class.
Looks don't really matter, but I don't want to be embarrassed to be seen with him in public either. I also don't want to kiss someone who doesn't brush his teeth, or sleep with someone who has poor personal hygiene.
So I guess that's a long list. Does that mean I'm too hard to satisfy? I don't think so.

Answer 4

Those aren't all on my list, but oh yeah, I have a very very long list. In fact, I have a whole dating routine to test whether or not a girl meets my standards. If she doesn't pass every test, it's a no go.
Being nice, honest and interested in me is not enough. There are plenty of people like that.

Answer 5

i'm not so bothered about looks, most of the things on my 'list' are personality traits. i like a guy who likes similar music to me (music is an important part of my life, so it really matters to me) it's also important that he has a steady job. i don't care if he's making loads of money or not, just as long as i can see that he's capable of being responsible enough to hold down a job. i'd be put off if he had a criminal record, mainly because i used to work in a prison, and i know how that having a criminal record can really screw up your life. it effects your ability to get credit, (makes getting a mortgage difficult ) improve your job prospects, etc, etc.... the other things that matter to me are kindness and honesty. i would never date a violent guy, or one who lied to me.

Answer 6

It's a personal decision. Personally as long as me and her are happy and we treat each other right; the rest will work itself out. Some people are caught up with money, social status, and power. That's fun, but most of the time you will not be happy. I do have a list of stuff that I will not put up with and she can kick rocks if she does any of them.

Answer 7

Absolutely not. It all goes on the connections. Its the chemistry between two people. You just get lucky if there good looking and all that other stuff. If they aren't all that stuff well, you are still lucky if the Love is there. Some people go there entire lives without falling in Love, and that to me is very sad.

Answer 8

I don't have a list but I go by my gut feeling. When I met my fiance, I couldn't stop smiling or didn't eat for about a week. I knew something could happen there.

I believe in trying things out to see what happens.

Answer 9

Throw away the list. You will never be happy if you are just trying to tick off points. Get out there have some fun and see what comes your way that fits you.

Answer 10

if u are looking for a serious relationship that might end up in marriage then i think having a list is important. u dont wanna live ur life regretting why u didnt have ther list from the begginging.