I met a guy at work i thought was cute until I learned he had a fiance. Recently he has been very flirtatious, and has taken me out a few times. He has initiated the kissing, and the holding hands, calls me baby, tells me he loves me, even gets me presents But, he is getting married to his fiance in 4 months. Is it a last minute fling, or a way out? How can i get him to choose who he wants? And admit if he is ready for marriage.
2007-03-08 19:19:41 · 8 answers · asked by blushing blonde 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He's definitely not ready for marriage if he is doing that behind his fiance's back! n
2007-03-08 19:26:13 · answer #1 · answered by Nikki 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know about him... he doesn't seem like he can commit to you or that other woman since he's seeing the both of you at the same time. A man like that doesn't seem ready for commitment at all- even if it is a last minute fling, there is no excuse. If he is trying to find a way out, then he's pretty much a coward! If you continue your relationship even further (like, another hour, another day) without saying anything, then he'd go on thinking about you condone it and that everything is perfectly alright, even with this "fiancee" on the side. Either keep your dignity and respect yourself by LEAVING him (as long as he is with her) OR give him an ultimatum. Anyhow, keep in mind that you should keep yourself in mind and respect yourself, because this man doesn't seem like he is.
2007-03-08 19:25:26 · answer #2 · answered by purringout 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would reckon it's a last minute fling. Imagine yourself marrying to a two timing liar like him where he has the potential to be both engaged and tell another co-worker he "loves" her? hmmm.... suspiciously insecure
2007-03-08 20:43:38 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's not taking you out, you're letting him take you out. He's not doing anything you're not allowing him to do. If you had any self-respect, you'd not even get involved with this guy since he's already spoken for. Do you really want to be a fling?
2007-03-08 19:26:30 · answer #4 · answered by WingNo19 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Back the train up - you're messing around with another woman's fiancee? If you want to be used - that's your choice. Just remember that you have to live with the consequences; and also what comes around goes around. Hopefully if you are ever engaged you fiancee will not play you as well as another one of his co-workers.
Sucker born every minute....
2007-03-08 19:28:32 · answer #5 · answered by Brainiac 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As long as you continue to allow him to use you he doesn't HAVE to choose. And WHY should he admit to you whether he is or isn't ready for marriage...men very rarely marry the women they use on the side.
2007-03-08 19:24:13 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
tell him how you feel ask him for the truth and maybe hes just married for fun.. :/ who knows cept for himself.
2007-03-08 19:24:20 · answer #7 · answered by vivilovy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why? Find someone else.
2007-03-08 19:29:02 · answer #8 · answered by Jenny J 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why are you wasting your time with an idiot like that? Duh!!!
2007-03-08 19:24:56 · answer #9 · answered by Troy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋