I got involved with a man who has a fiancee. They were going to marry, and she was pregnant. Then I gave him gonorrhoea. I told him not to tell anyone, and we self-treated it. I got some pills from my friend-doctor, under the counter.
Then she found it out. She got tested and came back negative, yet she is not threatening to sue me, and she is making scandal, and is altogether nasty. She says she wants to sue me because she was pregnant then and it could have damaged the foetus.
Can I sue her back for harassment?
2007-03-08 19:12:25 · 29 answers · asked by epilot 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I wrote a complaint about her, that she sent me bad e-mails, to the police. She did not send, but I did not like her. Then she found out that I wrote that complaint, and she said that she would sue me. And she says that she would tell people about it.
Can I get money from her, too, for this?
2007-03-08 19:33:56 · update #1
I don't know..... address this to an Attorney for free advice. n
2007-03-08 19:16:33 · answer #1 · answered by Nikki 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ma'am, you have to step back and look at the whole
picture. Who was at fault in the first place? I'm afraid
that it was you. Of course I can't help but wonder where
the "man" in all of this is. Regardless, if tests came
back negative, I doubt seriously that she has any basis
for a lawsuit. As for sueing her back....you can do anything
you want....but you'll only lose. . And if you do sue, then SHE will have grounds for sueing you back for harassment.
In actuality, it boils down to a fight over a man and it would
be thrown out of court if I were the judge. Courts were not
intended to referee spats over a man. You barged in on a
relationship. If I were you, I would barge out and consider
this as just a bad, learning experience.
2007-03-17 01:53:52 · answer #2 · answered by Northwest Womps 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well it's sad that this happened to you. Are you sure you gave him gonorrhea and he didn't give it to you? If he was engaged to her and supposed to marry her but he was sleeping with you then whats to say he wasn't sleeping with anyone else? She can't sue you. She can go after the guy because he cheated on her. It's not like you knew you had it. Then again like I said who's to say he didn't have it and give it to you. If she continues to harrass you then make a complaint. You can get a restraining order but you can't sue her unless she is jeopardizing your job. You can't sue the guy and if he told you that he didn't have gonorrhea before he slept with you ...well don't believe what he tells you. Think about it. He cheated on his pregnant fiance so he will lie about anything. Becareful and make sure to always be prepared when it comes to the possiblity of intercourse.
2007-03-17 00:56:41 · answer #3 · answered by { Me } 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
How many times I have heard women/men ask what they can do when they get involved with someone elses wife/husband/bf/gf/or fiancee...She found out you gave the father of her baby a disease which could have infected their unborn child..Anyone can see why she would be so upset...Most american women would be upset over things like that...There are so many men/women in this world I have yet to understand why people go after someone already taken or those who are taken go acting like they are single...If you dont love the one who you are married to or fixin to marry,,then let them go and find someone else..Aint no sense to just keep destroying people who are trusting you..
She sued due to hurt..Her man cheated on her,,on their love,,on their family,,of course she is goin to be upset...You wont get nothing from anyone for her...Im sure the man in question is hearing it to...In fact I wouldnt be surprised it she left him...Think about this,,,how would you have felt if it did effect the baby and the baby was born with severe medical problems or born dead and the disease was the cause..That baby has a right to life and to be protected ...I pray things will smooth over for you but please be more careful.
2007-03-17 02:06:32 · answer #4 · answered by glowworm 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You need to figure out why you are not upset about getting gonorrhea in the first place, not to mention sleeping with a guy who was obviously taken.
That being said, you should drop it, leave her alone, and stop sleeping with married men. If your self-esteem is that low, then maybe you should maybe looking into counseling.
I am not making fun of you, but it sounds like you may have a couple of issues going on in your life. You should pick your partners wisely in the future.
This girl did not do anything to you. She could have lost the baby because of the STD. I think you should never speak to either of them again.
2007-03-16 23:43:46 · answer #5 · answered by kmf77 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Are you gay? Giving someone gonorrhea is altogether nasty and hiding it, especially from his fiance is worse. If you are gay, why would you be screwing around with a man who is engaged to be married, other than to get your tensions released? Yes, she ought to be angry and yes it could have damaged the foetus. So, go ahead and try to sue her for harassment - it will call more attention to your own status as a Loser in this situation. Although, I must say, the guy you were screwing runs a close second in that race...
2007-03-16 23:15:33 · answer #6 · answered by kathyw 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You made many mistakes. The first was sleeping with a guy who's engaged.You can't sue someone for telling the truth.So if shes saying nasty things about you to others, like, that you infected her fiancee, who in turn infected you. You can't sue her. But she can sue you for infecting her indirectly, especially if you knew you were infected. Its worse because she was pregnant. I'm not sure but isn't it harmful to her unborn child if she contacts gonorrhea? You should apologize to her. You owe her that much.
2007-03-17 02:30:45 · answer #7 · answered by chicklette0008 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What is wrong with you!! Why would you even get involved with someone that engaged. Of course his fiance is going to dislike you. What did you expect? for her to give you a present for sleeping with her fiance? She should sue you and it could've hurt her unborn child. You on the other have no right to sue especially if said she sent u e-mails and didn't Your'e lucky she is nice.
2007-03-17 01:47:33 · answer #8 · answered by cswtp 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to quit sleeping around with different people, and the man you got involved with has been sleeping with other people too. as far as the scandel what she is saying is true you gave her fiance a sexually transmitted disease. but your best bet is to leave them both alone they already have issue in their relationship, but you did right by reporting the harassment if it gets worse file a report again, and please check the men out before you hop in the bed again there are other diseases out there that can cause a lifetime heartache from a night of passion. be safe...
2007-03-16 23:45:56 · answer #9 · answered by kyowa 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i think that sueing is not the answer but try to talk things out. is she harassing you physically or verbally? if it is verbally, then it is not as bad as physical. But if it is pyhsical, then you should take some action. Also, did u know you had gonorrhoea before you got intimate? If so, then it is your fault.
2007-03-09 03:20:09 · answer #10 · answered by Cheerios17 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No you can't sue her.
My question to you.......why in the world are you with another women's man. THEY ARE OFF LIMITS!!!!
And, the fact that she's pregnant and you gave her man gonorrhea...you put her and her baby at risk. How dare you?
And your placing complaints against her? You have a lot to learn about people.
2007-03-17 01:19:37 · answer #11 · answered by Easton'smommy 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋