Ive known my best friend 4 almost 9 years now, and broke up with my ex of 3 years last year. My ex who at the beginning of our relationship made me choose between him an my best friend, coz my best friend has always liked me. I chose my ex, i was so infactuated with him at that time (which i now regret). My ex best friend is now back in my life and tells me nothing has changed he still has those feelings 4 me. Im single, and im confused. Hes hansome, got a gr8 body, good job and treats girls right. He now has alot of other girlfriends and im a very jelous person. I dont know whether to give him that chance that hes always asked for or just keep it as m8s. I dont want to ruin our friendship again over something stupid, and it feels kinda strange to me. Our parents are also best friends. So much more to tell, but on what i just told you, what do you think i should do? Should i just keep it friends and not give him that chance? Im not sure on how im feeling...
2007-03-08 19:11:41 · 7 answers · asked by louise 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Don't regret your choice before. At that time it was exactly what you wanted, and you were happy with it. I understand where you are coming from. I can't however tell you what to do. You have to take risks to get some things in life. If you choose to just stay friends you will never know what could have been. If you can be happy with that then just stay friends. If you feel in your heart that you have or could have feelings for him then go for it. But remember how you felt when you had to choose between friends and love and don't push him into the same thing. Be honest and open with him from the start. I married my best friend and it was the best choice I ever made, but it wasn't easy getting there. Good luck. Follow your heart.
2007-03-08 19:19:39 · answer #1 · answered by sukesgirl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, it is quite a mess. is he sincere when he says that he has feelings for you? is he the playboy type, or could he be one of those people who are love being in love more than the person they are in love with?
these are questions to which you need to find answers. however, based on what you have said, this guy seems to be pretty serious about you.
i understand how having feuding parents can put a damper on your possible relationship. again, why are your parents not on the best terms? is is something related to the two of you?
if you do get into a relationship with this guy, will you keep it a secret? if you feel that this guy is worth lying to your parents for, then by all means go ahead and give it a shot.
from where i'm standing, i think that you should give this guy a chance. after all, if he harbours no grudge because you chose your ex over him so many years ago, it show that he is at least a nice person. if you feel like the two of you could have a future together, then i think you should get into a relationship with him. however, you should make it clear to him that you are still confused and that you might change your mind half-way through. you should also tell him how you feel about his other girlfriends and suggest that if he wants you, perhaps he should consider a having monogamous relationship.
all things said and done, a sour relationship could ruin your friendship, but a missed opportunity hurts far worse. take it from a voice of experience.
2007-03-09 03:27:24 · answer #2 · answered by silivren 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd give it some time, you just reunited with him as friends and you and he may not be the same people you were 3 years ago. If you are jealous of his girlfriends (plural?) then obviously you have some sort of feelings for him, but if you rush into this on the rebound you're only going to get hurt. Wait until you can be happy being just by yourself then worry about getting into another relationship. Make sure the only reason you picked the ex was infatuation and not something else. Good Luck and God Bless.
2007-03-09 03:17:22 · answer #3 · answered by tylw85 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
before you do you must tell him all that you feel... first that you are very jealous and you may get jealous because of your friends... 2 you dont want to ruin your guys friendship again..... and 3 have him talk to you about what he wants before you guys start something you may regret.... you (like everyone else) have made a mistake about alot of thinks so remember that the world always tuns toward you
2007-03-09 03:18:29 · answer #4 · answered by Weirdo 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You will have to take a decision yourself as it is a very personal question. may be you could spend some time with him so that you will be able to understand what is in his mind.If you are sure you can get along with him it is fine but if you have the slightest doubt keep him as a friend.
2007-03-09 03:24:33 · answer #5 · answered by anand_e_j 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you need to go rent "When Harry Met Sally" post-haste. It took me 19 years to figure out that my "best friend" was actually the one for me. In the end, we all get old and ugly. The person you should spend your life with is the one you get along with the best.
2007-03-09 03:15:20 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you're on the 'rebound' and should take a breather for both your sakes. Especially since this guy seems like 'good material.' I think you're wondering if you should sleep with him. I think. Probably not. See other guys. Take things casually, and when you're ready......make the move!!!
2007-03-09 03:19:13 · answer #7 · answered by Huguenot 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋