Im with this guy at the moment, but think i am falling once again for my best friend. He and I have history but things didn't work out back then. I think I will always have feelings for him, I feel so comfortable with him and everything always seems so right. He likes another girl and talks to me about her. What do I do? Please help =) lol the guy I am with at the moment is really nice but i just dont think it's right. Is that a good enough reason to breakup?
2007-03-08 19:04:59 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If you don't think it's right, then of course you should break up with the current guy. There's no point continuing a relationship if it's not going anywhere. It's too much work, and if you match really well with someone, it won't be hard work. Work is what we get paid to do from 9-5. lol
Since things are unresolved between you and your best friend, I think you should let him figure out his feelings for the other girl. It's much better if that doesn't work out, or if he decides that he's not into her. He should DECIDE for himself that it's you he really wants.
Even if he's not into it, I think that you should break up with your current guy. This is not really fair to him, you're really having an emotional relationship with someone else. Anyway, being single is GREAT!
Just make sure you're not confusing a great friendship with being interested (with your best friend). It's hard to figure it out, but make sure you really want him before you say anything to him. And make sure that he's really single and available at the time.
Good luck!
2007-03-08 19:14:16 · answer #1 · answered by Snow White 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Common problem. You have a case of "the grass is always greener on the other side." Obviously you are not totally into your new relationship. If you are unsatisfied, bored, or unhappy then you will naturally start to create an "ideal" person in your head. Sometimes it is a celebrity. Sometimes it is a neighbor. Sometimes it is that hot guy at Starbucks. A lot of times it is a friend or ex. Two things to consider:
1. The ideal is not real. It never is. It never will be. Perfect people do not exist, and the ideal you have created is highly likely to result in you being disappointed. The best thing you can do is work on your current relationship and make it work... or break it off and start from scratch. True love is something you cultivate and work on. If you "don't think its right" then it isn't right.
2. Don't go back to your "friend." Things didn't work out before for a reason, and if he likes another girl, you're just asking for trouble. That is not love. Odds are you're going to either end up with this guy, or you're going to have a bad breakup in your friendship. 9 times out of 10, it is going to be the latter. Proceed with caution. It is likely not worth it. If it was, you'd know it and wouldn't be here asking strangers about it.
I'll tell you another thing. When you find the real deal, you won't "always have feelings" for anyone but your real love. When you're feeling the itch for someone else, it is usually not the someone else. It is usually you.
2007-03-08 19:17:27 · answer #2 · answered by Mr. Taco 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1.) If your best friend doesn't have feelings for you and likes someone else, your feelings for him should not be grounds to break up a perfectly good relationship
2.) It is unfair however to date someone if your truely in love with someone else, it means they're not getting your all.
3.) If you don't think it's right, gut feelings are usually a good thing to go on, but don't dump him and hurt him, unless you're 100% positive it won't work.
2007-03-08 19:10:47 · answer #3 · answered by Celeste 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're not going to be with your "friend", you REALLY need to get over him. You can't spend the rest of your life hanging on to a deadbeat relationship. Yes, if you don't feel the guy you're with is "right" for you, it's a good reason to break up. But as long as you're dragging past baggage around, you're running a risk of overlooking someone who *might* be right for you.
2007-03-08 19:10:27 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Think about how you would feel if the shoe was on the other foot, so to speak. What would you want your boyfriend to do if he was falling (again) for someone else? Would you want him to tell you? Or simply stay with you and wonder about what could have been?
2007-03-08 19:09:27 · answer #5 · answered by Tess O 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
see, i think it will be better for you to be with the one with whom u r right now because when the first guy doesnt love you and he loves someone else, there is no use wasting your life for him. you have your own life, so go ahead with the guy who loves you. now you should not cheat him.
in any case, there is a saying,
always marry the one who loves you, not with the one whom you love.
so go ahead with the guy who really loves you bcoz he can give you all the happiness of the life and just forget the one who doesnt love you and avoid meeting him as the more you will meet him, the more problem you will face.
best of luck
2007-03-08 19:19:18 · answer #6 · answered by friend1 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok look man you need to STOP BEING LIKE THIS..
i dont mean to be mean but you wont find any relationship when you have this everlasting feeling hanging in the background... of course you dont like your boyfriend because you have the friend allways around you WHO YOU KNOW YOU LIKE and now you are going to ruin somthing that could be because you cant make amence with the past..... hope is good but not lust..
2007-03-08 19:12:11 · answer #7 · answered by Weirdo 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well jus tell ur current bf dat u want 2 see other people 4 a little while n den jus start spendin more time wit ur bestfriend and hope dat he falls 4 u 2
2007-03-08 19:09:47 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
no thats not a good reason.
2007-03-08 19:07:52 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋