And what did you feel / what did you do about it?
2007-03-08 18:54:24 · 15 answers · asked by purringout 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
yes. i have been in this situation. it was one of those times when everyone around you was trying to warn you, but you just didnt want to listen because you felt that somehow they were wrong and they didnt know what they were talkin about. when i finally realized i had been played i felt horrible. it was like everyone's expression was like "i told you so" i confronted the person and told them how i felt, and that i couldn't believe that they would have done that to me. of course the "BABY BABY PLEASE BELIEVE ME" bull crap followed. it just depends on how far you're into the relationship with that person and what kind of understanding you have with each other. i mean my feelings were really hurt. for awhile i felt empowered because i realized that i didnt need that person if they were gonna do me like that. no one does.
2007-03-08 19:06:32 · answer #1 · answered by boo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think we feel blue because we can't believe we didn't see this person for who they were, that the wool was completely pull over our eyes...
I found when I was in this situation I had a hard time forgiving myself for not realizing what was going on... I was a smart girl how did I miss it...
Some people are just very good at manipulating and sometimes when we really like someone we only see what we want to see or ignore things we shouldn't....
Unfortunately time is the only thing that will heal this, you could talk to a professional it helps too... But if someone manipulated you shame on them not shame on you...
Learn from it but stay strong, you will bounce, they might have knocked you down but you will get right back up, dust yourself off and keep going. Never let those losers win
2007-03-08 19:03:15 · answer #2 · answered by Twigglet 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best thing to do if you are SEVERELY depressed is to talk to your doctor about it, regardless of the reason.
That said, the best thing to do about being "played" is just to move on. Go out with your friends. Have some fun. Work. Read. Study. Join a club. Get involved. Be yourself. Get lots of exercise. Eat right. The sooner you move on and fill your life with activities, the sooner you'll just get over it. Then take a lesson from what happened, and you'll be a better person for it.
Good luck!
2007-03-08 18:59:21 · answer #3 · answered by Mr. Taco 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YES, I actually had to go for therapy, there was more to the story, but in the end I did get "played", and 9 months later and I reliaze he played himself, because the girl he left me for is completely what he thought she wasnt. They are not together anymore. I let him have it, that was my true therapy, I told him exactly what i thought of him, and I dont care if it effected him, because I know its the truth. And I can tell you im sure he feels the same way deep down but he will never admit that he's scum.
Just try to surround yourself around positive friends and family and do good things for yourself to bring your self esteem back up. And dont ever give that person the time of day. In the end, people like this are not happy in life and will do it to the next person. And remember Karma, she handles the things we cant in life:)
Best Wishes
2007-03-08 19:11:28 · answer #4 · answered by maria s 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have felt extremly depressed after I found out I was palyed and the girl that he cheated on me with gave me an std. I really thought that he wouldn't do that to me. Before I realized I had the std I confronted him about cheating and he called me crazy but I didn't care cause I felt crazy and went off on him. When I found out about the std it was too late cause he had moved away because of his job. I felt so horrible that I even trusted him and I felt ashamed of myself. Because I trusted him I have to live with the consequences for the rest of my life. He is a jerk! Luckily I found a man that understood and now I am married to him. So I know exactly how it feels to be played.
2007-03-08 19:02:17 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
yeah, I hear you, hun. Three months ago, roughly, I was absolutely heartbroken when the guy I loved broke my heart. It really is the most awful thing getting over it, when you're crazy about someone, but a very kind Yahoo! user gave me a good piece of advice: they told me to focus on re-building my own internal self-confidence. Just by doing little things, like taking the dog for a walk, or treating yourself to a manicure, or just singing in the shower! these things all help you feel a little bit better. Of course, I spent about a week just crying, but after a lot of tisues (and many chocolate bars) I felt ready to start fresh. I emersed myself in just enjoying being single again- I stayed home on saturday nights instead of being dragged out to nightclubs by my well-meaning friends and just watched a movie, and just allowed myself the time I needed to get over him. It was tough, but after a while, you'll feel ready to get back into dating and relationships. First though, I recommend that you give yourself the time you need to move on, and to rebuild your self-confidence. It's normal to feel depressed after being played by a guy- so don't worry!! I hope that you feel better soon!! :)
2007-03-08 19:04:11 · answer #6 · answered by jemm4president 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Every time.
But depression's my usual reaction, because I can't believe I was as big a fool as I was.
Then, after I kick myself for a satisfactory amount of time, I clearly determine the lesson that I have learned, and drop it. I haven't made the same mistake twice yet.
2007-03-08 18:59:31 · answer #7 · answered by Tess O 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The subtle ones are so good that you actually believed that the person cares for you. I felt dumb and hurt, but you play it outside as if everything was okay. Of course it's a little bit different for guys.
2007-03-08 18:59:15 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
its always a slap in the face when you get cheated on. You just have to pick up the pieces and realize that it wasnt your fault. When someone cheats on you, it can play on your self-esteem and your always wondering what if i did this.. its always about the what if.. dont blame yourself.. Yeah it sounds impossible now to think about yourself moving on from it but when you start realizing that he was just a jerk and that it wasnt your fault that he cheated on you you'll start healing. good luck
2007-03-08 19:00:13 · answer #9 · answered by BugHugz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well i did got playd by my best friend i liked her like for 5 years and we were a cuple and 1 day i saw her whit a guy and she acted like we were only friends and that broke my heart i feel you
2007-03-08 18:59:44 · answer #10 · answered by ino 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋