Threesome bad or good idea?

Question

Three some good idea?
My wife has been pushing me to have a3 some. most of u prolly think with a guy but quite the oppisite with a girl. I really dont have an opinion either way I guess but she wants me to find the girl. how the hell do i do that? any one ever been in this situation? any advise womans oppinion. how do i get the girl? btw we are a very very young couple, 20's.

ok ive decided that we are going to do it but now i need to know where i should look for this woman and wut to say when i find her. my wife doesnt really care wut she looks like as long as shes very attractive and has a nice chest. shes a knock out so the chances of her getting jelous is slim to non.

Answer 1

It will be great for a while until your wife realizes its not what she wanted. First of all, she may be just trying to make you happy because she may not feel like she is completely satisfying you. After a while she will know she is not enough for you. One thing will lead to another. She will want 2 guys (to test you). Once this all starts the dominos will tip. At the end of the dominoe you will hate each other or just part your ways. This may take a few years but it only took my marriage 1 year. I became religious after that. I was not religious at the time so religion had nothing to do with it. I know its tempting. 2 women are great but not worth it. Be a man and love your wife. You took vows for better or worse. Do not corrupt the marriage. If this is truly her idea and she wants a women then what are you doing wrong? She will end up with the women in the end and you to blame for bringing her home. She may be setting you up for the blame. Even if its not like all that, you still need to look at the bigger picture and look ahead. Guaranteed, it will come to an end.

Answer 2

As a man who has had a few threesomes with my wife that went well, have her find the girl. Too many questions and issues can come up if you go looking for another girl. There's always going to be a question in her mind as to why you choose *that* girl, and insecurities about how *that* girl might be better. If she finds the girl, then you don't have to deal with that.

If she insists that you find a girl, find out why it's important that you do it. Being able to trust goes a long way on something like this, so a female friend might be a good place to start. Also (don't ask me why) but flirting with a stranger at a bar or whatever has always been easier and more successful for me with my wife there.

Answer 3

If it's something you both truly want to do and you both share this as your fantasy together, then you'll have a great time at it.

How do you find someone? Well, YOU don't. YOU BOTH do. This is something you do as a couple FOR the couple. So you both need to look for the lucky third in your little fantasy. You can't choose who she'll be sexually attracted to anymore then she can choose someone for you. There is either sexual chemistry or there isn't. Besides, doing it together is fun. It's your naughty little thing together.

How to find someone? The first place to start is a swinger's dating site like AdultFriendFinder, Swingular, SwingLifestyle, or Swappernet. As a word of experience here, you'll find lots and lots of single guys on these sites hoping to get lucky and not a whole lot of women. But there are some single, bi-sexual females on these sites. Some of the profiles are planted by the site owners to attract single guys and couples looking for single women, though. So you have to weed through them and contact quite a few before you find some that are for real.

Then you arrange to meet her and go out on a date as a threesome. If things click between you all then it's game-on. If not you move-on. Just like back when you were single and dating, just now you are doing it as a couple.

The next thing to do is get out where singles go (like night clubs) and be sociable. Meet people.

From experience I can tell you that every MFM threesome my wife and I have had has been planned. Every FMF threesome we've had has just happened out of the blue. We just met a woman at a club or such and things just clicked with us all.

Hope that helps.

Answer 4

Bad idea. Stick with just the two of you. I think it is extremely gross. I really don't know why you would want to do that! But if you insist just ask him. If he says no, its no don't persist. If he says Yes,...good luck. Its disguising. And, I don't think it matters how many people on here say their threesomes have been great or gross. Every relationship is different. Also, If he is your fiance and you've been together for 4 years WHY in the h are you thinking about adding another person? Your eyes should be on him...and no one else.

Answer 5

My husband and I have had a threesome with a friend of mine(girl). Honestly, it was great! Just make sure your wife can handle seeing you with another woman. She might say she's ok with it now, but it's different when it is actually happening. Personally, I was fine with it. I trust my husband and my friend 100%. It spices things up and makes a fun night. Be safe and protected and know your boundaries, make sure you know if there is anything your wife does not want you to do to the other woman. And make sure that even though there is going to be 2 woman there, make your wife feel special! Good luck! As far as finding a girl, see if your wife has any friends she would feel comfortable with.

Answer 6

well.... i thnk if you both trust eachother and have a secure enough relationship then it willbring you closer together where as if there is any jealousy or mistrust it could tear you apart.... so weigh it carefully.... As for finding a girl, youshould BOTH choose a girl... try swingers clubs or log on to Adultfriendfinder.com or a site similar. Good luck-

By the way,.. if you do it, and it works out well it will be GREAT... a completely amazing experience that in the end will bring you both closer together.

Answer 7

You need to be sure she REALLY wants to...or you'll be in a world of ****!!!
Since you are a couple...I think she should find the girl...
That usually how it works...Usually wife want a particular type of girl...or it won't work...Like she will get jelious if the other woman is sexier or has bigger breast and such...
All girls know someone who is bi....Make her find her.

That way you can throw that in her face if she later/after decides it wasn't such a good idea after all.
Trust me....I know what Im saying!!!

Answer 8

would be cool as hell but maybe this is a test to see if you love her or not and if youd get with another girl you could be getting set up to be in a spot of after it happens she wants a guy or worse thinks that you want the other woman and the divorce. In my opnion NO NO NO don't do it man if you love your wife really don't do it

Answer 9

The moment someone else is allowed into your bedroom, it really wrecks havoc in your INTIMACY, that is why it's called that, because it is only between two people.

I understand you're both young, but this is the reason why you're supposed to get all that stuff out of your system BEFORE you get married.

If she still wants this experience, then she was never ready to settle down in the first place. I hope you guys can talk through this maturely.

Answer 10

It is the best idea that could occur.
Let the threesome be on. The three people in your bedroom should be you, your wife and your never ending love.
If that really happens I ensure you will have a time of life.