I have been with this loser for 9 years! last 5 has been terriable, I Finally told him that its over! He was very cold and rude, he didn't care for me at all in noway,was never there and always talked me down especially infront of his homies,PLUSSS He did not want to except that I had 2 kids plus one of HIS own!!!!!!!!!!!! he was very jealous of them and whatever I did or said, I was wrong!! I had my faults to don't get me wrong! ANYWAYS, I got away from him, but he just isn't getting it,he thinks its a joke,he still is around like hes with me,and he calls and acts like hes mad cause I wasn't where he thinks I should of been! WHY WON"T HE LET GO,What his DEAL? How DO I KNOCK IT IN HIS HEAD THAT ITS TRUELY OVER????
2007-03-08 18:44:43 · 17 answers · asked by ~FliZo~ 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He does not love you, its an ego thing. Dont fall 4 his crap. If i was you i would move away and change my number. That way he will take it seriously when he cant see or contact you anymore. Good luck
2007-03-08 18:49:56 · answer #1 · answered by wonder 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well, lets see, given that for the past 5 years, your guy's relationship was a joke and you probably went back and forth more than once over leaving each other. You may have left him once or more and vice versa but then you all got back together - In this case, it would make sense why he wouldnt' let go - why shoudl he take it seriously now?
On top of that, you are playing with his emktions - keeping up a relationship - talking to him - this is all leading him on - that's why he wont' let it go?.. how the hell does he know?
He did that stuff in front of his homies and was an *** because he was insecure. We also teach people how to treat us. If you had put a stop to it or dropped him the VERY FIRST TIME he was an ***, he wouldnt' treat youthat way. One of youwoudl have left cuz it wasn't worth it, or he would have shaped up, so as not to lose you............
2007-03-09 02:51:24 · answer #2 · answered by jennainhiding 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hello Hun! i was talking to you yesterday and added you to my list of fav's hope you don't mind! You really are having a rough trot aren't you!?I agree that you are doing the right thing you just don't need the negativity in your life! I like the answer above about the phone call! that's classic! I know you need to keep the contact for your daughters sake, but get a third party to do it for you!They can take and pick up your child for access visits, that way you don't have to have any contact with him at all. There would be many organisation's that will help you with this free of charge, because he is stalking you. And he sounds dangerous if you ask me and it could get very ugly if you keep it going... Your guides( u know who i mean) are doing their best to protect you and give you the confidence you need, but they can only do so much for you. You have to use the strength they are giving you to do what has to be done..Ask them for guidance and you will get it! I dare say that they are protecting your children too. The negativity that has been around you for so long has dulled your 'openness' to your special friends, now that he is gone,partly at least, they will step up their efforts to be active in making your life a more beautifull peacefull place, because you will be more open to them. If you ever need to talk my email address's are on my profile page.Love respect and light to you my friend...xxx
2007-03-09 03:30:25 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
In my opinion, for now, just cut all ties with him. Change your phone number or move to another city if necessary. You have a child together, so you need to see a lawyer to get the visitation/custody taken care of. If he starts to scare you, get a restraining order. You need to take care of yourself and your child.
..Good Luck!!
2007-03-09 02:56:41 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you need to cut ALL ties...Don't even talk to him on the phone...If he comes over and trys to start crap...call the police.....Just be sure you are not toying with him...CUT him off means -totally....You shouldnt talk to him at all except about your kid...If you do, this gives him false hope and makes you the bad guy!!! Don't say it's over---show him it's over!!!
2007-03-09 02:52:45 · answer #5 · answered by Lisa Kay 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
COMPLETELY DISCONNECT FROM THE GUY. Don't talk to him. Move to a different place. He doesn't think you're serious about it. If you've left him before and came back, he thinks you're bluffing.
Don't have any contact at all. Get a restraint order.
2007-03-09 02:50:08 · answer #6 · answered by fatcatkeepers 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It will be tough because you've let him come back before - so basically you've already trained this dog.
Just stick to your guns, move along with your life, see others and only communicate with him when it's about his daughter. Good luck
2007-03-09 02:49:35 · answer #7 · answered by Brainiac 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you answer the phone....
You: "Hello?"
Him... Heya, hello, ..etc...
you: "I'm away from the phone right now, If you were someone I wanted to talk to I wouldn't be acting like this was an answering machine. Because it isn't. It IS me and i'm wainting for a REAL man to call .... " ~~~Click~~~~
2007-03-09 02:55:50 · answer #8 · answered by Renoirs_Dream 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Speak some senses to him. Let him know that you've given him too many chances but he blew them away. It time you both go your separate ways and lead a separate life.
2007-03-09 02:50:36 · answer #9 · answered by SGElite 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Be brave and completely cut all the ties with him. Walk away and never look back.
2007-03-09 02:49:31 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋