My g/f is soon to become new to the "CluB" lifestyle. With the way her friends are its a matter of time till she gets a chance to go. But when that night comes, that she goes with another g/f or maybe a few more. Am i wrong to tell her i dont want her "Dancing" on/with other guys at these clubs? I really wouldnt like her to dance with other guys. Goin to these clubs i dont care if she goes or not. But I just dont want my girls *** on another guys junk. If i tell her not to and she says somthing along the lines of "Well thats what you do at a club" or "then its no fun" Do you guys think i have the right to get mad? Theres somethings you just dont do, and to me thats one. No SANE guy wants his girl at a club dancing with other guys. I dont care if she goes with girlfriends of hers and dances with them. But 1 on 1 with my girls *** to someother guys junk doesnt flow with me. What do i do if she says that in her defense about me not wanting her to do that? Any ideas on how to take it?
2007-03-08 18:22:29 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
the one person before me has a point. as long as YOU wouldnt do it EITHER (no double standards here!), then i think it's fine to say that to her (in a nice, as non-possesive way as possible). just tell her that you trust her, but you don't trust other guys' intentions and that you arent comfortable with them being all over her. ask her to respect your wishes and please only dance with her girlfriends. or you could ask if you and your boys could join, make it a group outting.
2007-03-08 18:32:05 · answer #1 · answered by crazydaisyodu 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't believe in "rights", so I'm not going to answer that aspect of this question. However, I do think it's detrimental and more than a little silly to tell your girlfriend what she can and can't do with her own time. Getting mad at it isn't going to solve anything. But since you are aware that that would probably be your reaction, I think the best thing to do would be to figure out where your flaw lies. That's right, i said YOUR flaw. Not everyone sees this sort of situation as a problem, but obviously you do, so what's your weakness? Are you worried about losing her? Insecure? Possessive? This is an excellent opportunity to examine yourself and see how you can grow stronger. Either that, or to accept that aspect of yourself, and find a girl who will accept and respect it as well (assuming your current girlfriend won't). Getting mad won't solve things. Be a man, make a decision and stick with it.
2007-03-09 02:38:37 · answer #2 · answered by JudasHero 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes to both of your questions.You have every right to tell your girlfriend how you feel about it. You should tell her soon before she takes any more action at the club. I know that if I had a boyfriend that went to clubs where other girls would be hitting on him, I would tell him how I feel. Its only natural to be hesitant about her hanging around other guys that you don't know. If anything, you should go to the club with her and her friends so you're the one dancing with her and not some other guy!
2007-03-09 02:30:48 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If your out at the club doing it then there is no reason why she cant. If she is grinding up on some dude's junk, why aren't you dancing with her, and if she's grinding up on some dude, why are you two together. You don't own her, and you can't turn a hoe into a housewife
2007-03-09 02:28:39 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that if she really loves you, she'd have the respect for you not to do that in the first place..... I could be wrong, I have been before, but when I'm serious with a guy the last thing I'm going to do is hump some strangers leg......
2007-03-09 02:29:22 · answer #5 · answered by Miss Aly 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first of all make sure you arent setting double standards with your g/f. if you're telling her not to go out then it is likely that she will tell you the same. and if she does how would you feel towards her? you should trust her enough to let her have her fun. trust is something that you should have in a relationship in order to get through it im sure you know. you shouldnt worry yourself over something like this because it could only lead to more problems.
2007-03-09 02:32:36 · answer #6 · answered by boo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think if she loves you she wouldn't want to do that anyway. If she DOES want to do it then yes, you have a right to state your dissatisfaction with it. My husband certainly would. Hopefully, she just loves you and respects you enough to not let another man's junk rub against her trunk.
2007-03-09 02:30:09 · answer #7 · answered by squealy68 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yup, if she won't respect you and keep herself away from them get a new gf.
2007-03-09 02:35:24 · answer #8 · answered by Elle W 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you do it,then she can too.If you don't than tell her straight up.
2007-03-09 02:29:19 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋