i liked this girl in my school for about 3 years, i never took any interest in any girls past this 3 years except her, every opportunities i got to having a girl friend i let down because i really liked this girl. we used to talk a little back than but now our onces in a while conversation is hi. its so hard to talk to her, i make a fool out of my self everytime i see her because when i see her everything in my head just dies out. and now our senior year is going to end this year and prom is coming. to be honest i never asked a person out i had a girlfriend but it was a different story, and it was long time ago. im really feeling down because im scared of rejections. can anyone help me understand how girls think, and just give me advice on winning this girl/taking her to prom. thank
2007-03-08 18:16:49 · 24 answers · asked by egg 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
yeah u just need to go for it. Senior prom is coming up and it'll all be over if you let his opportunity go. Why don't you try to make small, simple conversations with her at school ? everybody is scared (of rejection) but if you let it hold you back you will never get to experience opportunities and you'll miss out on the best things in life. Most people hide it behind smiles, but a lot of people are nervous. You'll liked her for so long, so go for it. Your senior year's going to end .. don't be the guy who regrets it and says 'i wish i asked her. ' You might never see her again. What have you got to lose ? And if she says no, you can accept it and move on with your life, not dwell in the past.
2007-03-08 18:21:37 · answer #1 · answered by rainbowstylin 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm a shy person and I know what you mean! You have to expect these sort of emotions to find you when you really like a person.
The best method that had worked for me was to just confront the person on what I wanted from them...
If you get rejected, take it as learning experience.
The most important thing is that the person would like you for who you are.
Tell her that you aren't exactly good with words and then ask her to the prom that way. In your best interest, I feel that you should be polite and exact.
Well I'm a girl and that's how I would want a guy to do it.
I will tell you however, for too long have I missed out on many oppertunities because of my shyness and fear of rejection.
Hurry before some guy steals her away!
In my worst case scenarios, video games cheered me up. Maybe you can find an activity that will take the pain away from being rejected.
Sorry about the long answer...but writing your emotions down may really help you get over the unwanted feelings of rejection as well.
Well that's my opinion...
2007-03-09 02:27:55 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The fear of rejection is a scary thing, but if you've had a
crush on this girl all through high school, you'll really regret
it if you don't try to get a chance to know her better. Think
positively. Start by trying to start up your casual conversations
again. A little flirting couldn't hurt either. If she responds, ask her if she'd like to go out sometime. If she says yes, great. Go and have fun. That'll be a perfect preclude to asking her to the prom. Remember, girls are just people too. Don't be afraid to ask. It's better to take a chance and ask and see where things go, than to regret not taking that first step. Good luck to you. Hope you have a great time at the prom!!
2007-03-09 02:35:47 · answer #3 · answered by karonj 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Every person is different of course; but as a woman, I would say that direct, straight-forward approach is usually attractive. I'm guessing that she already senses that you like her, so it won't be a complete surprise to her if you ask her to to go to the prom with you. Don't let the fear of rejection stop you; yes, it's a gamble, but the jackpot is worth it, yes? Gather up your confidence to approach her and ask her; there's a good chance that this will make her *really* notice you. Don't be too nervous - you have to realize that she herself is probably not quite sure how to act around the opposite sex; she might be as nervous about it as you are. Yes, she might say no. But then you will at least know where she stands, and perhaps you will move on and pay more attention to other girls; she's not the only fish in the sea. You have to start somewhere; confidence comes with practice. I certainly hope she says yes. Good luck!
2007-03-09 02:29:00 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok...., i never answer questions that don't have the right answer, and i know i have the right answer to this one.
Everything you have written in your question is the key to winning this girl. I would literally let her know by letter or by person how you feel. I only suggest you keep in mind her personality, if she is shy, she is going to feel kind of uncomfortable with the whole declaration in person, so just play it wisely in deciding how to let her know you like her. I don't suggest that you just go and ask her to go to prom with you, because you said you never talk, so its not going to be a surprise if she says no, however with a previous declaration of how you feel about her will link, and bond you guys together, to the point that she is going to feel that something special could come out of this.
Please DO NOT, and i repeat DO NOT, let this situation go, you will regret it. I will also tell you that if unfortunately she says no, you will get over it with time and learn from the experience, so its only a win-win situation.
You really sound like a caring and special person, and if she doesn't appreciate that and rejects you, then its time to move on.
Get all the energy and braveness to go to her from all the strong feelings that you have for her.
I hope the best for you and this girl.
2007-03-09 02:37:55 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should start talking to her before you ask her to prom. First ask her out on a date. Maybe the movies or something. If you get the date then ask her to prom after a few dates. Better move quick. Dont be afraid of rejection. You will be rejected many times in your life....If you get rejected by her, youll laugh at it one day because women are all odds and statistics. More rejections you get the more your trying and the more yes' you will get. Your a senior, time to grow some balls.
2007-03-09 02:24:09 · answer #6 · answered by mrcarl92807 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, you have to stop being nervous to talk to her. She's just a person. you need to find out if she likes you too. Have lunch w/ her. And then ask her to the prom. you have a 50% chance she'll say yes and if she doesn't ask someone else and have a good time. But you're dragging this crush on too long and not giving yourself time to enjoy your high school years, which are ending. Get an answer either way it will help you move on w/ or w/out her.
2007-03-09 02:22:17 · answer #7 · answered by uknowme 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be yourself. Just ask her. All she can do is say no. Think of it like asking your parents for a brand new car. They say no and life goes on. Rejection is part of life. It's about confidence. Do you think you're a good-hearted person? You better have answered yes. That's all you need. Girls can get weird depending on who they hang around. Generally, the company you keep is a reflection of you. If your friends are snotty, you tend to act that way. High school is like that. People are like schools of fish. Girls can be the same way. Just ask if she wants to be YOUR prom date. There's a first for everything.
If for some reason, she declines your invitation, don't be heartbroken. Prom is supposed to be fun! Ask a good friend.
2007-03-09 02:33:59 · answer #8 · answered by fatcatkeepers 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most girls go to prom with guys they have been dating or great friends with. It doesn't sound like you have that with her. I would focus on going with a good friend and possibly dancing with this other girl once you are there. Prom is NOTHING once you get in the real world, and it will be a good memory just for you to go and experience. It doesn't matter what happens with "her". You will forget all about her when you leave high school and meet tons of new hot chicks! You will prob be the smart, rich guy that everyone is after and SHE will be looking for YOU!!!
2007-03-09 02:27:47 · answer #9 · answered by bubblingbroo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you could a)continue to be scared of rejection and watch your opportunity go out the door orb)say this is senior year let me be bold i encountered the same problem before but mine was different the guy liked me first but i avoided him cause i was really shy and wasnt ready for a boyfriend and let him ask out another girl and wished i had went on and been his girlfriend but i gave him a note while he was dating the girl he kept trying to get me alone to talk but i was always with my friends and so was he and i was branded the school slut by the girl's friends even though i hadnt even touched him if you are really scared of rejection you could try to get her alone and talk to her or write a short letter give it to her or stick it in her locker or go farther and get a funny card and write how you feel in it ask her to prom stick it in her locker or give it to her and put in it if the answer is yes write you back or meet you at a certain spot so you wont have that ackward feeling if the answer is no hope my advice helped and good luck
2007-03-09 02:28:17 · answer #10 · answered by shyababy05 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋