I came across a question she asked about what she should do when I yell at her for no reason. My heart was breaking with each comment I read. Yelling to her is ANYTHING above a "nice" conversation. I don't know what to do. The advice people gave her borke my heart because I don't yell at her and if I raise my voice in the slightest she accuses me of yelling. Trust me there is normally a reason. Failing classes on a regular basis. She lost a text book and I asked her why she had not told me sooner...her response..."what are you going to do pull it out of your butt." My voice may have been a little raised when I told her she was being very disrespectful. She wants to stay the night at a friends house, we tell her no because she is failing and we get accused of ruining everything. I offered to pay her $10 a week to clean two bathrooms and take out all the garbage. She does absolutly nothing around the house...I get frustrated...raise my voice...and get accused of yelling...for no reason.
2007-03-08 18:04:55 · 7 answers · asked by raisingmy3kids 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
It is sad we are giving advice to people who are only giving one side of the situation. Thats how it is though. She isnt about to tell us what shes doing to contribute to the problem, nor is anyone else who really just comes in here to look for yes-men.
She sounds like a 10 year old child. Hopefully she will mature before she turns 18 or she will have a rude awakening in the real world.
2007-03-08 18:50:28 · answer #1 · answered by Dovahkiin 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Giver her a hug tell her you love her. I know its hard when you fighting with your daughter. Ask her why she feels that you are attacking her ash her what would help the two of you. She sounds like she needs your support more now than ever and she is uptight. This is a very tense situation sometimes a little breathing room or release of tension is all it takes. Try a different approach. Put yourself in her shoes and visa versa explain your feelings as well. My mom died not so long ago, and we fought until we stopped talking. One day My grandma said both of you are wrong stop fighting and quit being stubborn. You need to make the first step and give her the chance to heal the gap too. I did a week later on New Years she passed away. I'm glad I made peace, but I wished to God I had done it two years earlier. She never got to know my son. I miss her so much! Please try to keep this from happening to the both of you. Love and forgive.
2007-03-08 18:25:10 · answer #2 · answered by ? 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Before you and hubby got married you should of set out expectations of have to deal with his child.
You and dad need to be a united front.
I would suggest a list of expectations for her and the consquences of what happens if she doesn't fallow through.
Thus, the list is the boss not you.
When it comes right down to it your husband is her father. If she lost a text book, it isn't your problem.......it is between you her, the school and her dad. Dad will need to know that you need to step outside of the mother role. Both of you need to make the decision of how to handle this girl. or there will be constant stress. And she will divide the two of you
2007-03-08 18:17:09 · answer #3 · answered by clcalifornia 7 · 3⤊ 1⤋
NO. i don't think of you will desire to call the police officers. i think of you will desire to call your husband abode from paintings and have him take the two ladies to the well being facility to be appeared at and he can call the police officers from there. You calling the police officers can finally end up hurting the youngsters greater interior the long-term in the event that they don would desire to bypass back over there. If the court docket did not have self assurance your husband then he desires to make beneficial he records all interest like this as a manner to take her back to court docket and report for finished custody. Make him get his butt abode and get the females to the well being facility!
2016-12-18 09:03:02 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Where is your husband in this mess? It is his daughter and he should be doing something about this. Certainly he should back you up with rules and discipline but he should be the first to discipline, etc. Sounds like you need family counseling.
2007-03-16 11:56:55 · answer #5 · answered by Marilyn S 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
take what she says and go with it talk to her more in a more calm mature voice you both know she can hear you without all the screaming your not her mother and you have to respect that but dont let her take advantage of you
2007-03-16 11:54:00 · answer #6 · answered by me 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
she sounds like a spoiled brat to me, she needs discipline and structure, i wouldn't bow down to her, it will only make her worse, stick to your guns, she'll appreciate it in the long run, so will you, dint worry about being her friend, she dint need you to be a friend, she needs you to be the adult,the stepmother, it s hard with teenagers especially when there your step children,dint let her run you over, you'll never forgive yourself
2007-03-08 18:15:34 · answer #7 · answered by debbie d 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋