What should i do about my boyfreinds addiction to ciggarettes??

Question

i never imagined myself dating a smoker...but i am for about 2 years now he makes me really happy!! and we love eachother!! but i hate that he smokes .. i wana help him quit..i hate the smell on him..and how he will smoke his own Cig Butts when he runs out & when he doesnt have one in 2 hours he starts being really quiet..and igonorant..i dont know how hard it is to quit...for a smoker..but he has asthma and i dont want him to die...anybody have ideas or how they quit??

Answer 1

It isn't that easy giving up something that is so much a part of what he does every day.

but... may be try to tell him the benefits of quitin - like saving money, better health, for his future children, no smelly clothes, mouth and hair or because life's good and you want to live longer to enjoy it. also talk to him about the impacts that ciggarette have on his life tell him that smoking is a slow way to die. The strain put on his body by smoking often causes years of suffering. Each time he have a cigarette he put himself at risk of Emphysema, Lung Cancer, Heart Disease and Stroke, and a host of other serious conditions.

Answer 2

Well I don't know where is priorities are (obviously not with you if he remains a smoke despite your objections). But to tell an addict "quit or I'll leave you" is not much motivation. *Sometimes* it works. The only way to get him to quit is to get him to want to quit. He has to first make the decision to do so. Very seldomly does an addict say "oh well, I'm bored, I think I'll quit".. They need a convincing reason.

I can tell you that no matter how much my girlfriend told me "I hate you smoking" or "I cant stand it" (she's a non-smoker) it never compelled me to quit. What compelled me was just finally having it click in my mind that I don't want to die a slow painful death. I watched my best friends father die of lung cancer (not from smoking, but still)... it's not fun.

What worked from me was laser therapy. It's kind of like accupuncture but they use lasers. I know... sounds like a bunch of hoo-hah medicine.. but it actually worked. I've seen plenty of people quit smoking, dipping, etc by doing this.

You go in for an appointment, they put the laser up to several points on your arms, wrist, and face. You leave there with no desire to smoke and a few hours later get really sleepy. When you awake you feel a little disconnected for a few days while your body readjusts (great time to find something to occupy your attention and speed recovery)... and thats it! TO be successful, remove all signs of smoking (ie. ashtrays, empty packs, lighters, febreeze the house, car, etc.)

Answer 3

For YOUR sake, leave him and his butts behind.
Otherwise you're stuck with stinkin' cigarette breath on you whenever he's within 10 feet...you'll be cleaning out his dirty "overflowing with cigarette butts" ashtrays (or whatever else he will use as a depository) for the rest of "his" (not yours) life.
You'll be awoken during each and every night with his hacking cough as he tries desperately to get up some phlegm that he will then spit into your bathroom sink (or worse)...and then, right after he will light up another cigarette.
You'll be worried when the doctor warns him that he's on the road to contracting esophagus or lung cancer if he doesn't quit...which he will continue to promise you that he will "quit soon."
And to really point out his death wish, he has asthma...and yet he continues to smoke cigarettes, the one deadly ingredient that will ensure his early grave.
Oh, and just as an aside...do a little math for yourself...
how many packs per day does he smoke?...
how much per pack?...
times 365 = annual cigarette expense (or money that could best be used for other, life-enhancing things).

Answer 4

Maybe try to take up a hobby or something with him to keep him busy. You might also try to get away for a vacation and keep him in bed all weekend giving him all the love and attention and sex you can to maybe help him keep his mind off cigarettes and his attention on you. Good luck I know its hard to stop cause I have stopped once and I now currently smoke and what makes it hard for me to stop this time is living with another smoker. Everytime I have tried to stop my husband just has it around and I see him smoking so it makes me want one.

Answer 5

Well it seems like you want him to stop, but does he?
If he is motivated and committed to quit meaning right now right here.
I been smoking since 15 years old and it got to be a really problem... so I committed myself and throed away all my cigs and lighters and ashtrays... and got some help from doctors. Depending on his cravings and nicotine addiction the doctor will normally prescribe him what he needs.

The main factor in quitting is Commitment

Answer 6

My dad used to smoke and then he gave up. you should hide every packet he gets or take him to this special show about smoking and make him realise that smoking could kill him later. Even better is that you organise a show or a meeting with some doctor who tells u to quit smoking and abt the consequnces of smoking...and take your bf there. He'll realise..i'm sure.

Answer 7

I got and idea you could start smoking too, that would make him really happy, and you both would die early; and nobody is stuck widowed that way. Just have kids really early in life. What? It's and "out of the box" solution.....

Answer 8

make him realize its implications. tell him if he wanna die of lung cancer, don't include you. you are a passive smoker and smoke will affect you more than it will affect him.

It is quite impossible to see changes abruptly so you have to cut his addiction slowly. Ask him to try reducing his sticks slowly, or replace his cigarette with alternatives such as nicotine patches, then gradually remove it to his lifestyle.

Answer 9

make an effort to make him loose his addiction, also convince him to have more of water intake, and carrots as well as lime. Since, tobacco reduces the vitamin C intake drastically, which further leads to poor absorption of Iron. help him if you love him, or else dump him

Answer 10

.... 1st dont break up or dont stop talking to him.... cus he'll probably stick with the cigs.....
2nd ... dont tip toe ... tell him that you hate them to his face
3rd... let him know that you love him very much and that the distructive behavior hurts you too
lastly .... ask him why he loves them and if he loves them more than yourself ....
(the last one is a low blow ... so save that untill your desprate.... and expect him to be angry for a day or 2... but then he'll get over it....)