My sister seem to be talking to everyone but me about my personal life. what should I do?
Two weeks ago they posted a question on here called My sister is living with some one ... what should i do?
They have yet to talk to me about it and I find it rude that they think it is perfectly to ok to ask for advise from people they don't know yet they refuse to confront me about it.
I am 21 years old andcurrently living with my Fiance . We have the date set and venues reserved yet they don't like my Fiance Marc and refuses to tell me about it. They act a little weird but they never told me they hated him or that they wanted nothing to do with him.... What should I do? Just ignore them ?
2007-03-08 18:00:10 · 7 answers · asked by Branwen 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Dear adult sister with Fiancee,
What you do about your personal life is your business. You are the one who will have to live with any of your choices and that's alright; they are your lessons to learn and grow even more as an adult. Learn with any knowledge that comes your way in life. More than that, seek knowledge as the application of accurate knowledge in your life brings you wisdom and that is one thing that no money can buy.
Trust is earned and when it is lost, it takes time to come back, if ever. (You might want to show this to your sister!) LOL
Learn who to trust and when you can't, act accordingly. Ignore the ignorants as you'll always be at least 2 steps ahead of them when they are busy talking behind your back. Usually when people do this sort of stuff, it's because of jealousy or envy. So they are almost to be pitied. Just don't allow your heart to hate as that would be hurting you and never hold a grudge. Why should you? We get stuck at home with the grudge while the object of our grudge is out dancing? No thank you!!! Be happy and believe me... You can be as happy as you make up your mind to be. You control your mind and heart and what goes in it. An idea pops up that's not good, throw it out and replace it with a good one. Go about your business and be happy. Before long, they'll be coming to you as they will be too curious about the causes of your true reasons for being so independant and happy and will want to find out why (don't show her this after all!) Just be you. I wish you every happiness with your fiancee.
2007-03-09 22:18:47 · answer #1 · answered by Teri 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
I believe in laying things out on the table so everyone is aware of their respective places. I think you should nonchalantly ask your sister what she thinks of your fiance' or something similar. My sisters and I are close enough that we would talk this through. Hopefully if you ask a superficial question it will spark a conversation that you can expand on and get her perspective on your life/plans with Marc. I wouldn't mention that you saw the question on Y/A. It really doesn't matter.... hard as it is, just try to put that aside. Also, sometimes it's helpful to get the perspectives of people who aren't somehow connected to the situation, i.e. yahoo answers. I'm sure she didn't do it to hurt you but rather to honestly get opinions from people who are not related to the situation in any way. I wouldn't let that bother me. However, I would want to get her honest opinions about my fiance'. Then you can do what you want with her answers. Contemplate them, or throw them out. Good luck to you all. And congrats on the engagement!
2007-03-09 02:13:23 · answer #2 · answered by squealy68 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
you are mistaken may dear.. i did talk to you about it but i love you a will support you anyhow. You know that i don't agree with living with him and told you that the divorce rate goes up if you do. I don't want you to be heartbroken and want to see you as an independent person first... i don't hate him (maybe you ment the rest of the family) but then sometimes i also felt like a black sheep so what do i know. I love you Sis and i always will! i can't wait to go shopping with you next week!
2007-03-09 21:20:39 · answer #3 · answered by Annie: Mommy to Sid and Liz 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No sweety they are a part of your family never ignor any one in your family . but try to stay quite for some time then they will come to you and ask then tell them that what u are feeling about them . or it might be that your sisters are older then you and u got engaged befor them that's why . or it can be that one of your sisters love ur fiance find out
2007-03-09 02:08:19 · answer #4 · answered by etranger_souriree 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey, I love you, but living with Marc is wrong. I can't believe you're doing it and you lie about it. Yes, when you FINALLY admit you're living with Marc, we will treat you differently because what you are doing is wrong and you seem to be asking for approval from up and we CANNOT give it.
Why do you want us to approve your lifestyle when you know it's impossible. Yes you can ignore our asking advice on Y/A because I wasn't sure how to address the issue to you and now I find I care less about you and the situation. Whatever, live in sin if it makes you happy, just don't expect to talk to me about it or anything relating to him, his family, or your 'wedding'.
Later chicka...
2007-03-09 21:41:56 · answer #5 · answered by svs_g 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
The best thing is open communication.
Tell your sister you know she is talking behind your back and that you feel hurt and ask her to please stop.
2007-03-09 02:04:58 · answer #6 · answered by clcalifornia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let it be their problem. Dont make it yours. They probably have nothing else to do.
2007-03-09 03:39:56 · answer #7 · answered by Dovahkiin 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋