I start talking to a guy in september over internet .......cuz he was in Iraq........we talked a lot about everything...........and after 1 month he told me that he loves me and that iam the woman he was looking for,,,,,,,,,,and that he wana marry me..........and that he want babys with me..................!!! He told me he came back in February......................so we were in contact the whole time ......he called me..............and wwe emailed..............but 2 weeks before he came...............he didnt emailed that much and he told me he cant call me........!!!! When he was back.......he came over to me 1 time..........and he told me iamhis dream woman and that he love me..........but after that i never heard something from him.......he didnt answerd the phone no more..............he didnt answerd an email..........now its 2 1/2 week ago ......i heard from him the last time........what should i do....it hurts......by the way.....he is a soldier!!!!!!!!!!
Help me please!!!!
2007-03-08 17:58:09 · 7 answers · asked by night_age_germany 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He sounds like a total a$$! Please forget about him and move on with your life. He's clearly not worth it.
You were his life line when he didnt have any and now that he feels he doesnt need you anymore, he's very calmly moved on without you.
Forget him!
2007-03-08 18:03:31 · answer #1 · answered by Wanda 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First I would like to thank him for keeping me safe, and fighting terrorism.
To answer your question. He was not lying to you when he told you he loved you, he thought he meant it. You have to understand that he was very very lonely out there.
There can be a couple of reasons for his behavior, I don't know which one it is but read them and see if any of them make sense.
When he came back he did come to see you, and he was still overwhelmed by coming home. He thought he still loved you But when he came down to earth after being home for a while, he started to have seconed thoughts?
Or if you will notice you wrote that 2 weeks before he came home he did not email you that much, and he told you that he can't call you. So he himself or maybe his buddies told him that he should cool it. He really only knows you through the internet.
Or it could be that after he met you, and told his parents about his relationship with this girl that he met on the internet and he wants to start a life with you. It hit them like a ton of bricks, and explained to him that he is still young, was away at war, and he himself does not know what he wants.
They might have convinced him, and he does not know how to handle it in a mature way, and explain to you his mixed emotions.
I don't know the real answer, and neither do you. However, I believe that you will meet someone else. (please not on the internet) and eventually get over him.. He sounds imature to me anyway, and you should find someone else.
I know it is hard but your lucky that things didn't get more serious when he came back, and then broke up with you. Then you would have not just felt bad but you would have had a broken heart. So look at it from that perspective.
Hope I helped.
2007-03-08 18:27:16 · answer #2 · answered by michelebaruch 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey, you can't control what this guy does...
People who write to you on the Internet don't feel the same social responsibities as people you know in person. They say things that help them get through the day, that they want you or need you, but it's not real to them..
Of course it hurts, this rejection, but it's not real. It never was. It was a fantasy you had that this person was genuine and real and worthy of loving you. But he wasn't.
Don't write to guys on the Internet anymore. Meet a real person; go to your church or your school and meet people who see you in person and who you can go out to dinner with and learn to know.. ok?
Let this go. It was a dream, not real. He is not coming back, and if he contacts you again, it will only be to hurt you again, because he is not a sincere person. ok?
2007-03-08 18:04:39 · answer #3 · answered by Golfcarmel 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It seems this guy is a schizophrenic and you should avoid him. I mean, what kind of a guy says they love someone while just meeting them online? He never met you in person and doesn't know how you are like in person and he says he loves you? This guy is a creep and you should just get over him.
2007-03-08 18:06:31 · answer #4 · answered by Eric L 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Take it as a lesson he was lonely probably didn't no if he would make it back, just be friends o.k. and don't believe every thing you hear and half what you see good luck
2007-03-08 18:03:24 · answer #5 · answered by Dianna S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do your best to find him and tell him how you feel. If it doesn't work out move on.
2007-03-08 18:01:28 · answer #6 · answered by ginzawasabi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just...just... sorry,I doesn't know.
sorry just for laugh 'gags'
2007-03-08 18:03:29 · answer #7 · answered by Jauhar 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋