I love my one year old daughter.but it my ex she just give so much problems i tried work things out to see my daughter every two weeks but she always complan that my daughter is too much but when I get her i have no problem at all she just a baby but mx always tell her friend what going on and her friend will call me and tell me thatr i don't love my baby... hello i hve a job... what should i do? help!!!
2007-03-08 17:49:06 · 9 answers · asked by JT 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
listen to them for a change
2007-03-08 17:54:23 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 3⤋
You say you are trying to see your daughter every two weeks. Is your job or your ex keeping you from seeing her more? Everyone works and that doesn't give you an excuse to only see your daughter every two weeks. If you have time to go out or hang with friends, then you have time to see her. Can you take her to dinner one night a week as well? This will let you spend more time with your daughter and give your ex some free time. It is very demanding being a single parent and she needs a break once in awhile. I really doubt if you had to work and take care of your daughter that you wouldn't be stressed out. Spending a day or two with her every other week doesn't even compare to the responsibility your ex has every day. I know you love your daughter, so you need to make time to see her and help your ex. It's good for you, your ex and your daughter.
2007-03-09 03:14:17 · answer #2 · answered by Swim Mom 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To be honest, coming from a home that had the every two week thing, you have a job? So does she right? And being a full time mom is a job. She doesn't get to go out after work because its a 24 hour job.
I HATED that excuse when my dad used it on me growing up. But my mom worked and even if she didn't, I still wanted to see my dad more often than 5 days a month.
See if you can take the kid in the middle of the week like after work and bring her back by bedtime to her mom's. Or something like that. That way the mom (ex being less overwhelmed means less problems for you) doesn't feel so overwhelmed, and you get to see your daughter more often.
2007-03-09 01:55:50 · answer #3 · answered by Rae M 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Possible suggestions:
1)Support your wife and baby well enough that their life is not so terrible. 'Visiting' with a baby is not the same as all the work surrounding a baby's care.
2)If your wife has a job 'on top of' the heavy load of caring for a baby find out how you can fix the situation.
3)If you wife has a paid job and so do you, then you have to help with the work involved in that childcare.
4)Consider counselling to see where you went wrong in you marriage and see if you can find practical and FAIR solutions to your marital differences.
5)Think about the next 20 years of your child's lfe - if her mother has harships, so will your child. Do you want you daughter to be disadvantaged? Of course she will be, if the circumstances stay the same, so how can you help her and her mother?
2007-03-09 02:19:31 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What would you do for your Daughter? Hopefully the correct question should be, What wouldn't you do for your daughter? If you love her you have to make a decision right now to be there for her ALWAYS (at least till she's 18 years old). OR spare her the excuses she'll hear for 18 years! Your ex may still have issues with why you guys aren't still together (depending on who left who and why) Remember it takes two to argue but only one to leave. IGNORE your ex's friend! Love your daughter and respect the mother of your child (in spite of herself). This will help everyone involved get through the next 17 years. Be fair to your daughter first!
2007-03-09 02:08:05 · answer #5 · answered by Hahn 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
File for full custody of your daughter. Rearrange your life a bit because you have a child. Every two weeks doesn't cut it. Your ex's friend has no business in your family life. She is fueling the issue. Tell her to mind her own business.
A lot of people have children and jobs. They juggle both. The job should accommodate the need of the child. Your ex sees that you're slacking in your part of childcare. Don't let her hold that against you. Be MORE involved.
2007-03-09 02:18:50 · answer #6 · answered by fatcatkeepers 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Just show her you can be responsible. Keep telling her you want visitation. As the baby gets older, she will probably relax more. I gotta tell you, when my babies were little, I trusted my husband very much, but it was still very difficult to leave the kids with him because he always seemed uneasy around them. As they got older it was easier. If you are irresponsible in other ways that may be why she doesn't trust you. You might have to earn some trust with her first. Just keep trying though.
2007-03-09 02:21:42 · answer #7 · answered by truthseeker221 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep trying in good faith to be there for your daughter. Lead by example.
2007-03-09 01:57:06 · answer #8 · answered by Pseudo Obscure 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should make sure you only make babies with people you can stick with, so you don't totally screw up your next kid.
2007-03-09 01:54:04 · answer #9 · answered by cassandra 6 · 2⤊ 5⤋