I have 4 children aged 6, 3 and twins 6 months. Since I had my twins my 3 year old daughter who was previously fully toilet trained including nights has been wetting herself. I think its because she sees the babies in the diapers. What should i do?
2007-03-08 17:37:28 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
I do let her help me with the babies, she helps me when i change their diapers, i let her pick out their clothes, and she does try to give them their bottles if i have expressed. She knows Mommy loves her and we have mommy and mia time on a saturday when daddy is home.
2007-03-08 17:53:03 · update #1
I have tried getting her to go to the toilet when i get up in the night with the babies, but she wont sleep once woken up. And she very cranky the next day. I have tried rewards, sticker charts and i always praise her. I do not want to put pull ups on her as I think that would be going backwards with her.
2007-03-08 18:05:53 · update #2
It sounds to me like it was the change from being the baby to having 2 little babies in her spot that's the issue. Children often revert because of change. It will probably just pass but you should make a point to have special "her" time each day...if you can since you have twins. To her, the spot she once held no longer exists and has been taken over by not one but two other children, in a way she has lost her identity and that's rough. You could also try having rewards for going potty in the toilet; stickers, dollar store toys, a couple m-n-m's or even reading her favorite story to her.
2007-03-08 18:47:34 · answer #1 · answered by chrissy757 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I truely believe mother's should get some sort of badge when they finally get their children on the toilet!! and off the diaper's. This is the hardest thing I've ever had to do. We hope and pray that we are doing the right thing but in the end we are just making it up as we go along. Too bad we can't just send them to potty training school... anybody out there is there a potty training school?
I guess I'm saying good luck and just be patient soon she'll be going on date and not wetting herself will be the farthest thing from your mind!! :)
2007-03-09 03:23:24 · answer #2 · answered by th1despina 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry to say that there is really no sure way to cure this, just continued love and support from you will reassure her that she wants to be a big girl. If she is wetting her clothes, while your changing her and cleaning her up, let her know that big girls need to go on the potty because big girls don't want to have wet and dirty clothes, only baby's pee and poo in their clothes. Give her examples of things she does that babies can't do, maybe showing her it is a good thing to be a big girl, big girls go potty on the toilet and big girls can have stickers, or a treat of some sort.
Good luck, it won't last forever although it seems that way.
2007-03-09 08:48:51 · answer #3 · answered by chefck26 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Get her some pull-ups and try and spend a bit more time with her. She is probably feeling very insecure, so she really needs to know that even though the twins have come along, she is still very important in your eyes. Constantly hug her and even get her to help you out with the twins like a big sister and she will soon feel more secure and will stop wetting herself. Hope this helps. God bless you!!!
2007-03-09 01:48:21 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
May be, the duration of your attention to the 3 yr old has reduced due to the arrival the little twins. Specially during nights ask her to go to toilet just before going to bed. When you wake-up to attend your toddlers, and if you happen to see the 3 yr old not asleep then, you can ask her if she wants to go to toilet. Remember she is just 3 yrs and is still very small who needs parent's attention. She will be okay soon as she grows up.
Regards
Jagan
In the nights when you get up don't force her and wake her up to get to the toilet. That way she will lose her sleep for the rest of the night. Just lift her and take to toilet. She will be half sleep. Talk less to her then. Mostly she will avail. Bring her back and lay on the bed. Slowly pat on her back to make her continue her sleep. It has worked for me.
2007-03-09 01:58:43 · answer #5 · answered by Jagan 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
when i first started to toilet train my son who is now fully toilet trained and turning 3 in June we would make a really big deal out of him going to the toilet, we would give him a clap and a cheer and he quickly worked out that going to the toilet was a good thing. Maybe you could try rewarding her with one of her favorite treats or something when she makes it through the day without any accidents
good luck anyway
2007-03-09 01:48:20 · answer #6 · answered by mel_leno 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sounds like shes feeling the pressure of the babies. Try encouraging her to show the babies that she is a "big girl". Let her help out with them as much as possible.. letting her know she is not left out. Letting her help will also make her feel like a big girl. Hope it helps! Good Luck!
2007-03-09 01:47:27 · answer #7 · answered by nunya 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
you should check out parents.com click 3 year olds and scroll down to potty training. it gives serveral articals on why this is happening and what to do. good luck
2007-03-09 05:50:34 · answer #8 · answered by abbyland@sbcglobal.net 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get some pull ups until she out grows this phase.
2007-03-09 01:45:39 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Ignore the wetting and give her
a lot of positive attention for the
good things she is doing..........
2007-03-09 01:46:42 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋