I have been dating my boyfriend for about 3 months. Nothing too serius going on so far but I am his first girlfriend ever..He is 22 and I am 18. It kind of scared me when he first told me he loved me because I have been with 2 other serious guys and he has been with no one and I did not know how to respond. But now things seem to be changing. I am in college as well and working part time. He always has t-w-th off from work and I try to work around his scehdule to try and spend time with him. But lately I have been working more and school is challening again so I have a hard time fitting him into my schedule. My main concern for this problem is that I feel like crap if I don't see him after 3 days and then when I do see him I am not at all excited. I am considering telling him how I feel in a few minutes and hopefully things will go alright. Any "helpful" comments would be nice. Hope this was not too cliche.
2007-03-08 17:33:58 · 9 answers · asked by MoMoChan 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Its not that he is too clingy. He does not go to college and I do so it is kind of weird. All he does is work part-time and play video games all the time. He is really great and all but sometimes I question if he will go somewhere in life like I am. We are planning on taking Japanese this summer in college. Hopefully this will bring us closer together. And again..I am working a lot of hours and school full-time so it is hard to balance time.
2007-03-08 17:49:43 · update #1
first make sure how you really feel....i mean dont break up if you really dont want to break up. then if youdo, talk to him first about how you feel and how difficult and tell him its not fair to either f you if can hardly see eachother. tell him theres no one else you just think its better for both of youto focus on eachother for now. just ike you dont get a puppy if you dont have time to love for it/...its not fair when they can be getting love from someone else who actually has the time.
2007-03-08 17:40:44 · answer #1 · answered by amor_dove 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think it is always good to be truthful in a relationship. Trust and understanding is the best ingredient for a good relationship. You should always tell the truth because in the end you would also want the truth from him.
I think it is just important to do it in a loving way, to tell him he is a good person, a friend, and you are just telling him this in concern for where this relationship is actually going. You would hate to spend time with someone who you know it will never work with because it takes you both away from actually meeting other people (IF that is how you feel, that you don't really want to be with him).
On the other hand if you are just concerned about leaving him behind because of all the things you are doing in your life, tell him. Ask him to be understanding and if he feels it is too much to tell you so that you both can move on, and maybe even develop a wonderful friendship.
2007-03-08 17:40:47 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
maybe school is taking all the excitement out of you. Or maybe he is just 'friend' material. I broke up with my boyfriend recently because I didn't feel anything between us. I was never excited to see him, so I know how you feel. School is definitely more important than a boyfriend for you especially now that its becoming more difficult. He sounds a little too clingy. You should just tell him to take it slower and let you concentrate on school. Good luck!
2007-03-08 17:42:43 · answer #3 · answered by thepinkpipster 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Be as honest with him as possible. If you don't have time for him and u don't tell him your true thoughts and feelings he could turn into a monster (i am not sure i don't know him) as some guys do by saying nasty things about u. Maybe he would be willing to be your best mate not your partner. Some guys can do this without wanting to take it further. I hope this helps a little.
2007-03-08 17:41:19 · answer #4 · answered by Shaz 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Definately talk to him about how you feel. Maybe you both are feeling the same way. And maybe the reason you miss him after not being around him for several days is because you are missing the ideal that you wish he was, but then once you spend time with him, he's not really what you are missing.
2007-03-08 17:39:59 · answer #5 · answered by ppodjames 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
this is what happen to me with my gf i guess we were going out for 8 months and things were serious though and we said we loved each other and everything and we planned a life and everything and wanted to be together forever after 8 months she just said she dont feel the same about me anymore and broke up with me she said it was because i was sometimes to protective i wish she would of just talked to me about it and gave me a chance to change or do something like you are doing the right thing by talking to him and telling him how you feel
2007-03-08 17:41:18 · answer #6 · answered by Brandon D 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well i think you should talk to him about this and try it from a nice soft way ease into how you feel and just be honest dont lie to him cuz lying will hurt more
2007-03-08 17:39:23 · answer #7 · answered by spayhappy 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Be honest with him and see what happens. If he's honest with you thn either you work it out or move on. What's the alternative?
2007-03-08 17:41:55 · answer #8 · answered by ginzawasabi 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just tell him how you feel.
2007-03-08 17:41:37 · answer #9 · answered by Infinite 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋