so a while ago my ex broke up with me because he "needed a break" but told me that he really wanted to be together again in the future, and blah blah. well a little bit after the break up, we started arguing and really stopped talking. now months have passed, and we really haven't talked too much at all.
well now, he kind of knows that ive moved on a bit, and like someone else (an old flame which i guess never ended) and i really dont know how he's reacting, since i dont see him ever. but recently he sent me a random IM saying "nice" and then left without saying anything else.
what could this possibly mean? or am i just thinking about it too much?
2007-03-08 17:28:25 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
maybe the IM was an accident, and he meant to send it to someone else?
2007-03-08 17:33:01 · update #1
He's just playing a game. My ex did that junk. He would say something really random and leave. It's just so you'll have him on your mind.
2007-03-08 17:31:26 · answer #1 · answered by Brown-eyed girl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's throwing out some bait so you'll do exactly what you're doing--thinking about him. Only he's hoping that instead of asking about in on Yahoo that you'll contact him and ask him what he meant. If I were you I'd ignore it. He wanted a break, maybe you don't do breaks. That's offensive. What did he mean by "break" anyway? Was he trying to keep you on the line, so to speak, have you keep him in the back of your mind so it would be difficult for you to move forward? Yeah, what's this "break" thing. He knew he'd get horny later so he wanted to let you know he'd be back when he felt like it? Please do yourself a favor and concentrate your energies elsewhere, and I promise you'll get your "reward" when he has knots in his stomach because you're not taking his bait like you probably had knots in yours when he said he wanted to take a "break".
2007-03-09 01:39:50 · answer #2 · answered by itry007 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok ready for the honest truth?.This comes from a veteran ,insecure,control freak, un experienced,ex bf many times over....who has taken the better part of the last 20 years overcoming all the aforementioned!
That being said......yes ...he's playing games....yes you are way over thinking this........Ya see the way us "controlling,immature and insecure" guys are wired is ...our philosophy is any contact is good contact.....which means if I'm pissing ya off or leaving ya cryptic messages ...only to have you HAVE to inquire back to me as to what they are about ...Bam! theres contact....negative ...but contact non the less.....and unfortunately time seems to be the only thing to stop this.....Now my advice to you ...is if it IS truly
over with Mr x ....then make it 100% over.....any and all contact you have with him in his mind is considered a POSITIVE thing....and there the cycle starts again......You need to be sure its over and make it over ....if you get odd messages (mail-email ,text,or phone) do not reply and if ya can remove those avenues of communication ......regardless of how "curious" you may be etc.....and after this type of lifestyle is started (no communication) don't be surprised when he goes from sweet" Lets just get together and talk" to the biggest dick head on the planet hour by hour! Cause he will ...you will get tears and crying one day and 5 minutes later You are the ultimate ***** and he never wants to see ya again....(remember he is still having contact ...and pos or neg makes no difference in his head ...any contact is a good thing!......be careful.....I have friends that were in similar situations ...and you throw in drugs &/or alcohol to the mix with someone with a temper to boot and you have a major problem just waiting to explode and it will ......!
And finally ....dont throw your new beau back at the old ex ...even in a roundavbout way (via friends ,co workers etc)..you are only adding feul to the fire....if you ARE 100 % done with him be mature and move on in a mature manner.....not a "look who Im seeing now" nah nahnah kinda way.....remember he's still got feeling .(ok theres my male positive plug for the night) hope this helps and watch for the signs,ambiguous email or messages.....needs to swing by to pick up XXX he left there eons ago....how about a drink just as friends.....dramatic (from sweetness to anger) mood swings once communication ceases.......
I wish ya luck/////!!
CB
"and as i tell all my dates ...sorry this thing is so long...bwahahah yeah LOL
2007-03-09 01:56:01 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
u re thinking too much. just dismiss it. he either sent it by mistake, it happened so many times with me when i was sending im by mistake to another person or he is playing those dumb 12 year old kids games. in any case the best way not to think about it and just dismiss it
2007-03-09 01:35:26 · answer #4 · answered by jacky 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hes playing aroung with u ! So dont put up with his *** ok! Girl there are other guys out there for u ! that wouldnt hurt u like he did!
2007-03-09 01:37:17 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop thinking about him....
2007-03-09 01:31:50 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like he's just being a jerk...
2007-03-09 01:32:15 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋