hi..well my son is 20 months i am expecting in about 2 weeks..i am curious to know of any tricks or tips..to handle him..he throws food gets fussy with everyone when he doesn't get his way..i guess i just need to know that i am not the only one out there...
2007-03-08 17:25:02 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
DEAR
PLEASE ONE WORD SPANKING HIS LITTLE BOTTOM WORKS TRUST ME OK
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2007-03-09 20:22:14 · answer #1 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is probably noticing that all the attention is no longer on him. When he misbehaves, make it very clear that those actions get no reactions or attention. He only gets what he wants when he behaves appropriately. If he throws a tantrum, act like he doesnt even exist. Its important to not reward negative behavior by giving him attention, even if its negative attention, its still attention. Keep your chin up, and keep calm. The transition from one to two children is supposed to be the hardest because the first child is not used to having a sibling and sharing attention and time. Try to get some books on the subject. And remember, even if he is throwing himself on the floor screaming, walk out of the room. A tantrum needs an audience. Also, make it clear to him what he is doing wrong. Speak in clear sentences. "No. You do NOT throw your food. No more food until you are good"
2007-03-09 01:38:51 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
That's absolutely NORMAL behavior. My Kids knew what they liked and didn't like the minute they started on solid food (after trying a few). Always be "on his side" and work WITH him (this gives him a sense that he's getting his way). Guide him in a positive direction (for food or behavior). You've got about 2 years left to "shape" your son (formative years). The "Fussy with everyone" part seems like he likes being with you only. If it helps, my wife calls our kids "magnets". They will gravitate and stick to her every chance they get. If it's not the norm, let your son stick to you (within reason) this will alleviate any parting issues he may have. He'll eventually tire of this. Before you know it he'll be off to school and you'll miss him. Enjoy these days together!
2007-03-09 01:38:35 · answer #3 · answered by Hahn 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You aren't the only one. My son is 17 months and he's just started to throw tantrums. I've heard of "time out" but I'd have to strap my son in to get him to do time out so that's not a good option for us. We have started to swat him. He knows we are serious when we do that. So many people don't believe in spanking and I don't think a toddler should be "spanked" like you would do a 6 yr old , but a little sting isn't going to hurt anything. I just wonder how parents who don't spank control their kids. They sure have more patience than I do.
With whatever tactic you come up with, good luck. Maybe in a couple of weeks after you have the baby your son can "help" and it will make him feel better and give him something more to occupy his time.
2007-03-09 01:37:12 · answer #4 · answered by mommycat 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
i have the same problem..except im not expecting. i have a 22 month old and he misbehaves all the time. hes always messy w/ his food after he's done eating, gets into the dogs water bowl and well to sum it up..he's bad! but he's still little and very curious. that's the only way he's gonna learn what is what. he sometimes throws himself on the floor and starts screaming till he turns red and i just stare and him and smile. he knows he's doing it for attention. just have patience and hope that his mood will change when your little one does ..if not get some help...your probably going to need it.
2007-03-09 02:27:56 · answer #5 · answered by elizabeth 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
you need to let him know that his behavior is unexceptable. this can be a simple as saying, " that does not make mommy happy" to turning them around at the dinner table and not paying attention to them. You can put him in time out too. One minute for each year they are old. Make sure that you are consistant everyone has to treat him the same way or the behavior will not stop.
when he does not get his way and he starts to throw a tantrum put him in time out. I don't recommend the crib because i feel that sleeping is not a punishment and I wouldn't want to associate those feelings with that space. Put him in a place that let him know his in trouble and don't pay attention to him. he'll cry don't pick him up till he agrees to stop and when he finally is done with time out get on his level, be it you to him or him to you, and reiterate why he was in time out and then you can give hugs or a kiss. good luck soon just the mention of time out will curb his bad attitude.
2007-03-09 03:33:28 · answer #6 · answered by th1despina 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
first you need to understand why he is misbehaving. Is he misbehaving because he does not know any better OR because he is wanting attention?
Remember, we teach our kids how to behave. If they feel rewarded for their behavior (negative or positive), they are going to continue to do it.
2007-03-09 01:28:55 · answer #7 · answered by jennainhiding 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
i have this same issue but what i did was give spankings and to tell her that her behavior is unacceptable! one or two on her behind or hands or meaty places!!! have a serious face and she stopped that behavior! works for potty training also!! but you have to e mail me for that and exacts!!
2007-03-09 02:52:50 · answer #8 · answered by some girl 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
time outs!! but be consistent! sit him down and keep sittin him down when he gets up. consistency is the key. use lots of communication too...'youre doing time out cuz of what you did (explain) ' things like that.
2007-03-09 01:36:01 · answer #9 · answered by Chel 1 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Are you serious ........................... EXACTLY who's the parent here.................................... He needs direction, discipline, respect and the meaning of the word NO (as long as you know how to say it...)!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
First, and foremost, YOU are the parent - not him!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
2007-03-09 10:39:50 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋