Why is it okay for girls to hit guys but for guys to hit girls its a BIG deal.?

Question

I'm just looking for opinions on why our culture is so fixed on this idea. I know that hitting is wrong in general but so many times i have seen girls in school bugging a guy and then guy would be like i would hit you if you werent a guy....see its okay for girls to hit girls and for girls to hit guys but a guy raises a fist to a girl and...well suddenly hes a horrible person....

Answer 1

yea i know what you mean, but i seen it different sometimes. i saw a guy grab a girl right by her big boobs one time, because she was hitting him so much. let me tell ya, she stopped hitting him pretty fast after he did that. she was a bit on the chubby side, but he was so strong that he lifted her almost right off her feet and against the wall. i laughed so hard!

Answer 2

It is a matter of it not being an equal fight between a man and a woman. Look at it this way. If a guy was in the Marines and is now out. He is considered himself to be a deadly weapon based on his training. So if he was to get into a bar fight with some "normal" guy then he will face a more harsh punishment because the marine is to understand what he is capable of doing to the other in the fight. But if the marine tries to back down from the fight and warns the other guy that he is a Marine, but the other still tries to fight he has the right to defend himself with necessary force. Should be the same for guys when they get hit by girls, but it isn't. Sometimes I think that is exactly why a girl hits a guy to push his buttons or knows that she won't get hit back. How many times have you said that you would do something if you knew you could get away with it?

Answer 3

An intriguing question to be asked on International Women's Day!

Well, I'm from an older generation, but even then the debate and adaptations in culture had started to take place regarding how okay it might or might not be for either sex to hit the other.

I think the outlook expressed by your question title is fairly recent historically speaking, as even towards the end of the Victorian era it was usually acceptable in common society for the husband to beat the wife. In higher stratas of western civilization, as well as possibly others, hitting women was frowned upon, as the educated elite professed (at least publically) and attempted to model the principles of chivalry - whereby one should exhibit pity and compassion for those less fortunate or strong (ie: women who were generally speaking less physically/combatively developed at the time).

Perhaps there's no direct relation to the emancipation of women movement, but a correlation may be found - as through the 20th century it became more and more acceptable for a woman to slap a man, and less so vice versa. Perhaps it was the trickle down effect of chivalric ideals (stronger should not pick on weaker)?

I think that although we are far, far away from a true equality or even equity between men and women worldwide - the recognition by society that either gender can hurt the other by hitting them, and making it more and more unacceptable for one to hit the other is a move in a positive direction.

Answer 4

I agree. It's a throwback to old culture, when women were raised to believe that they were helpless.

Okay, some people will say "but aren't women weaker than men?" Sure, on average. Those people will use that fact to justify that men shouldn't hit women (whilst the other way around is no big deal). However, what about female bodybuilders? I'll bet most of them are FAR stronger than I am. Does that mean that it's OK for me to hit them but not the other way around? Or are we going by the average strength of the respective sexes?

In the end, women are capable of everything men are. I think it's a real problem that people look at others on the basis of gender. In the end, we're all equal. In my opinion, it's best to see violence as equally terrible in any regard.

Answer 5

Differences in strength, fighting ability, and so on create a WHOLE different context. I.e., a man hitting a woman is putting her in fear of her life and exercising control over her. A woman hitting a man is just being annoying.

That's the base case. However, it's also a little behind the times. For example, in some US states, the law treats a woman who attacks her husband EXACTLY the same way it treats a man who attacks his wife.

Or in a case closer to what you were talking about -- when I was much younger (in 1973, actually) , a girl blocked my way on a tour bus. I said something mildly insulting about it, and she slapped my face for the insult. Thinking this was ridiculous, I slapped her back, obviously no harder than she had slapped me.

I don't think anybody thought I was in the wrong.

By the way, don't underrate all those wrestling classes and martial arts classes and football games and so on we guys get into. I have a hunch a lot of today's buff 20-something women could outlift me in a weight room. But I could beat most of them in a serious fight even so.

Answer 6

Hitting: by a guy hitting a gal--is considered domestic violence. Same for a girl hitting a guy. Especially when as adults, there is a fight, cops get called, most if not all states require a 24 hr. cooling off period for the person who did the hitting--in jail. Somehow society looks at girls hitting guys as a way that girls let the guys know they like them. WRONG way to think! As women have been victims of domestic violence by men, men have also been effected by domestic violence by women. Maybe not as much, but it does happen. Probably the way to stop all this hitting stuff is for girls not to hit guys either-for any reason or excuse. Same for guys hitting gals. I hope this helps with your question. Take care.

Answer 7

My ex-wife had a problem with hitting/kicking/scratching. She was 5'0 and 115 pounds. She never once was able to hurt me in any way. I am 6'0, 185 pounds and trained. If I were to punch her even once I could easily have shattered her jaw or orbital socket. Hitting as a form of expressing yourself is wrong for everyone but a guy who would hit with such an advantage in size and strength is a complete coward.
The difference is in the consequences of the strike.

Answer 8

Because society says you can't do that. The guy is stronger so naturally that's bad. The woman can bug him and not back down and then maybe hit him. Then he hits her and he gets blamed because naturally a woman wouldn't abuse a guy. It happens and most guys would rather die than admit it happened.

Answer 9

You might not like my answer, but a lot of it is sexism. Women are viewed as a weaker sex, and consequently our society has equated hitting a woman to that of hitting an animal. On one side it is good that our society isn't tolerant to this violent behavior (like some), but doing it with the reasoning that women are defenseless creatures isn't right.

Answer 10

For the most part guys hit much harder. And it's the type of hitting too, if a girl slugs you in your shoulder you just shrug it off. If she co-****** you across the face and drew blood, you would probably strike her back, girl or not.