Do you love all your kids the same?

Question

I only have one child (but hoping to change that soon) so I don't know the answer to this one. I was just browsing and I read an answer that said that's it's impossible to love two human beings with the same intensity. He also said the only way they'll know which one they love more is if it was a life and death situation and they had to choose. I believe my mom loves all 3 of her kids the same and I asked her once if she had to choose to lose me, my sister, or brother which one she would choose and she said, "I'd choose myself, I wouldn't want to live anyway if I lost any of you." I believe if I have more children I will love them all equally. Do you believe it's able to love more than one person unconditionally? Just curious.

Do parents really have a "favorite?"

Answer 1

I agree with your mother. I have two children and I love one just as much as the other. I wouldn't want to live if I lost either of them. I'm not sure I would even know how to.
The things I like about their personalties differ from one to the other, but parental love is unconditional and therefore can be just as intense for each child.

Answer 2

I have two sons and initially when my second baby was born after the gap of 4 years, I thought I would not be able to love him the way I love my first child. But gradually as the little one is growing , day by day I feel the same for him. And I think I cannot prefer one over the other. Go ahead in your plans for having another baby. God has made parents like this and specially mothers. This is to remind us that the way we love all our children equally, God also loves all his mankind equally!!! Good Luck!

Answer 3

My wife and I had 4 children. We lost our oldest 3 years ago at the age of 13 to cancer.
My wife is a stay at home mom and she could probably answer this question better than I.
Children are people, and people have different
personalities, strengths and weaknesses. We love all of our kids the same but differently. Make sense?
One thing the loss of a child provides is a deeper sense of
appreciation for your living children.
We take health, life and family for granted.
Unless a child is a real "pain in the *ss" they are all loved the same but it is not uncommon to have deeper bonds with one more than another, because some people relate to each other better than others.

Answer 4

I agree with your mother. You love them both immensely, unconditionally, equally, yet in different ways. Each child will add something to your life, that is from them uniquely. I have a 14 year old daughter and a 13 month old son, I too was afraid that I wouldnt love one as much as the other, but they both mean so much to me that I dont know what I would do without either of them.

Answer 5

My mom has the same answer that your mom did.

Most kids will go through a stage where they'll fight and say "Mom loves you more", "No! Mom loves YOU more!" etc. We always said "Mom loves ME more!" "No! Mom loves ME more!". *grin* So I feel that my mom WAS unconditional in her love for each of us, as each of us (there were 4 of us) TRULY feel like mom loves us the most, or at the very least, we're all loved equally.

My husband and I (barring surprises) only want the one child (we've got a 2 year old daughter). But it's always amazed me when people say that they've got a favorite child......it would never cross my mind to love one child MORE than another.....how COULD you? Yes, you can like certain personality traits of one more than the other, but LOVE? Could you truly have a child and not love it unconditionally, regardless of whether you have another child or not? That blows my mind.

Answer 6

My children are 7 years apart, I feel like I have a stronger bond with my daughter as a baby than I did when my son was a baby. I breastfed and stay home with my daughter. I feel like we're closer but I don't think I can or would I ever love one of them more. I love them both the equally. I do know that with my Mom, she worried more about me, and so she paid more attention to me than to my brother and sister, some even said I was her favorite, but now she is closest to my sister who is the only one left at home. But there is also a specical place in her heart for her son, who makes her very proud. I think parents love their children differently but equally!

Answer 7

I love both of my children the same amount, but not the same way. Since I have both a boy and a girl I just feel like I love them differently, but not any less or more than the other, if that makes any sense. I would never choose between them-how can you make that kind of choice? Growing up with my brother and sister, if any of us ever said to our mother "You love him/her best" she would always agree, no matter who was saying it about whom!

Answer 8

Some parents do love some children more than the others but it is EVIL /BAD Love ur kids equally u were given freely by God not by yourself love them and gain a blessing from above

Answer 9

I'm due today with #5 and i can recall each time thinking how am i going to have enough love to go around for this one and still yet i love them equally but differently.you have to look at God's job,he has an whole world of children and he's never failed me yet!

Answer 10

As a mother of two, I feel differently about each of my kids. Each of them is special but they ultimately fulfill different needs. My older daughter is artistic, plant loving, and very maternal. My other daughter is intelligent, charming and a fitness freak. Neither of them is better than the other you see? They are special in their own ways. It would be boring to love them each the same, because they are so original as individuals.