My husband is six feet tall and weighs about 275 pounds. He has gained about 100 pounds in the past 8 years. He has gone from a size 34 pants to a size 44 and now wears a size XXL shirt. I can't even walk down the hallway in our house at the same time as him because he is so large. We don't even fit in our bed together anymore. His butt crack shows all the time because his clothes don't fit right. His triglyceride level is 252 and it should be under 150. I try to be nice about it and encourage him to lose weight because I care about him and I want him to live a long time, but he does not see his weight as a problem. I buy and cook nothing but healthy food which makes no difference because he eats doughnuts, fast food, and drink sodas all day at work. I offer to exercise with him but he is not interested. ANY OTHER SUGGESTIONS????? PLEASE!!!
2007-03-08 16:52:30 · 7 answers · asked by snowangel_az 4 in Health ➔ Diet & Fitness
Tough love. You're going to have to come out and just tell him how you feel. The fact is that if it matters to you, then it is a problem, regardless of what he thinks. Sit him down, and tell him you love him... but his weight problem scares you, and you find it unattractive. Tell him everything you just mentioned here. You are unhappy, and you want him to see a doctor. It will be hard, it will hurt his feelings, and he may not take it well, but the fact is that you will be doing him a favor in the long run. Be supportive, but tell him you will not put up with it anymore. If he won't do something about it, then make him go to a marriage counselor so you can discuss your relationship. Otherwise you're going to be unhappy, and that is going to lead to divorce. You don't want that. Best of luck! It is a hard thing to tell someone about a problem like this.
2007-03-08 17:03:52 · answer #1 · answered by Mr. Taco 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u may have to let him know that altho u love him and always will u are beginning to find urself less attracted to him. if u have already told him u just want him to be healthy so the two of u can grow old together and this hasnt worked maybe appealing to his ego and his manhood might. Good luck with that.
2007-03-09 00:59:30 · answer #2 · answered by suzi Q 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
have you flat out told him that you are concerned for his health? maybe you could explain that it's like he's an alcohol or drug addict; slowly but surely his bad habits are killing him. it does seem that you are doing a lot of good things to encourage him (cooking healthy food and offering to work out with him). you could make a deal with him that you will give up something that annoys him for losing weight. do you spend a lot of money shopping? or perhaps you could do something that he enjoys. for every twenty pounds he loses you could buy new lingerie... i don't know, but i do love that you are concerned and proactive. keep up the good work and good luck!
2007-03-09 01:08:55 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well it is his life and he will choose what he feels is best for him. He can choose to cheat on you or divorce you. You can choose to divorce him.
If you tell him that you want a healthy husband not one who may die, then he could say that he will change. Or he might say "Fine, I will be happy to get divorced." If he chooses to change he can use what is below. Do you put salt in his "healthy" food. If you don't want to follow the above, take out a life insurance policy on him.
Nourish your body thin, instead of starving your body fat. Good carbs like celery and carrots will never make you fat. Bad carbs like cake will, but you don't need to know the whole science of glycemic load. You need to re-learn how to eat so you can become thin and healthy. Salt has no calories but makes you fat and burning more calories does not help this fatness.
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2007-03-09 01:05:48 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
I used to be a really fat frikken jerk until my wife came out and told me she could not even find my schlong under the rolls of gutlard. So I lost alot and now am down to 380 lbs on a 5'4" frame, which is now pretty sexy. You really have to shame him. Maybe start humping another guy.
2007-03-09 00:57:03 · answer #5 · answered by randy_beastwood 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
There are some nice videos here which I think will motivate him
2007-03-09 00:59:55 · answer #6 · answered by Tashi Khoo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hunny he is a lost cause
2007-03-09 01:05:46 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋