I have known him for 4 years. Broke up because of my foolishness. He went out to sea for 15 months, when He got back he got in contact with me. He came looking for me even after he said he would NEVER speak to me again. I began to move out to california to be with him. Around that time his mother passed away, but being the girlfriend he needed I went to be with him as soon as I could. But the day after his mothers memorial service he tells me he wants me to move back to AZ. I have been back for over a month and a half and I found out I am pregnant and just let him know. He seems to care but also seems hesitant. Am I foolish for discussing to move back to CA for the baby?? Am I foolish for holding on so tightly??
2007-03-08 16:45:16 · 7 answers · asked by The Raven 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Wow, thats a heavy load. The emotional burden that you are bearing right now is very heavy. I think that you should hold on. If he hasnt expressly said to you that he does not want to pursue a relationship with you, then I say go get your man.
2007-03-08 16:47:22 · answer #1 · answered by dionne m 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Obviously he does still have feelings for you otherwise he wouldn't have got back in contact with you. Not knowing how you were foolish makes it hard to answer your question so all I can say is take it slowly and don't pressure him, keep him informed of the progress of your pregnancy and if he would like to be involved ie: going to appointments with you etc. If he doesn't say that's fine, ask him if he wants to be part of the baby's life and that you would like him to be. Hopefully he may forget the foolishness or forgive you and you may be able to start again or even ask if you could start again and leave it at that, if he is still interested he will hang around more and more. Let him come at his own pace guys don't like being pushed into a corner and if it is meant to be it will happen if it doesn't tell him you would like to remain on speaking terms (if you can) and move on, it will be hard but time does heal even if it takes a couple of years you will have your baby to fill your days and nights and this will distract you from the pain you will suffer but it will become less and less and you will see someone else eventually and be happy once more. Anyway, I hope this helps and good luck with him and your coming baby.
2007-03-09 00:59:37 · answer #2 · answered by kawasakigpx 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No Ur not... i think that u were trying to be more then his girl @ that time.As fare as the baby is concern..... he should not send u back is his kid n he needs to be responsible 4 it. Look like he wants to leave u w the child.... But so far Ur doing the right thing.
2007-03-09 00:56:46 · answer #3 · answered by eliezezer 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
so you moved to where Ca or AZ ?
does the baby belong to him also ?
you lost me ,somehow.
if hes in AZ go get your man ,if hes Ca go get him also .
shoot you making this more complicated .
2007-03-09 00:52:59 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
why dont u ask him what he wants? no matter what you have to have contact with him for the next 18 yrs....better for things if you live close by if he's going to be involved.
2007-03-09 00:48:51 · answer #5 · answered by tryinthis2 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love isn't important...
Just take care of yourself and your baby...
Men don't know what they want, they are so confused
and only think about themselves.
2007-03-09 01:34:10 · answer #6 · answered by Jagger Otto 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is your soul mate, and the two of you have a child to raise.
2007-03-09 00:48:38 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋