My boyfriend and I were together for over a year, and with one simply stupid fight, it ened, on such bad terms. But the thing was that three days later he got together with another girl. Sad to say they are still together. However all the while him and I were not able to easily let go. We still talk, flirt, make out, ...and other things. To me he still devotes love, though it is not the same as before obviously, but any love is better than none, right? Well this affair has been going on for almost five months since we first broke up, (there was only like a five day intervel that we were not "together" ). Yes, I understand that he is cheating on her and I'm just letting it happen, but somewhere in my helpless romantic self I still really believe that he will leave her for me, though he has never told me that he actually will. But everytime we are together he alludes to just that, that give this all time and we will be together.
2007-03-08 16:42:31 · 10 answers · asked by razzmatazz2121 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I've been there and it sucks! It's like demotion, and NOT kudos to our self-esteem..
My story ended like this; I was like a mistress forever, and eventually wanted out bcoz I was getting jealous and hurt, and it was not healthy for my morale....
Probably, he likes somethin else in the girl which u lack, for instance I'm getting the idea that maybe u like to argue a lot?
Some guys hate women who can''t give them peace of mind from constant nagging...Maybe he finds his sanity from the other girl, but he still feels you been a special part of his life, and maybe you have a lot chemistry, which is why he can't let go. It was also the case with my ex.
I suggest you let it dwell for another month or two, and then make a verdict. He's obviously cheating, taking advantage of you and ur vulnerabilty-while he is feeling like a king having two women for himself. 2nd best is heartbreaking and wil tear you apart.
It's up to you to choose, but I suggest u move on it seems u will remain his mistress for the next 20 yrs!
2007-03-08 16:58:43 · answer #1 · answered by She-whom-shall-not-be-named 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Anyone who has ever been truly and deeply in love or had very strong feelings for someone can honestly say that it's NEVER easy to just let go.............These are powerful emotions. Unless this person treated you like dirt, it's not something that you can leave behind and never look back. Therefore, you need support and understanding from others. If being with him in any way makes you happy, then go for it. Life is unpredictable, who knows what can happen tomorrow, next month or year. If a man is not married yet, he's still fair game!!! We're all human and you either choose to be with the one that loves you or the one that you love....... If you can find a relationship that works both ways, then you're set!
2007-03-08 17:20:03 · answer #2 · answered by artutina 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Look you already know that what you are doing is not that cool with your headline. Not to judge you or anything but let him go and find another. Think of how you would feel if you were in her spot and your man was cheating on you with his ex? Wouldn't feel to good right? The only thing going on is he's using you to get what he wants. He gets to have his cake and eat it to and you play right along with his plan. Besides he doesn't really think too highly of you like you may think. Not to many men or woman for that matter can think too highly of the mistresses in their lives otherwise they would leave their current relationship for you but as you said he's not gonna leave you for her he's already had you and continues to haved you so he has no reason at all to leave her. Good luck
2007-03-08 17:00:11 · answer #3 · answered by ltwatkins77 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't listen to these other people. If letting him do you on the side makes you happy then let him do you on the side. Who knows maybe one day she'll stop giving it to him and then he'll be coming back to you. So let him enjoy himself for the time being.
2007-03-08 16:50:10 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
what you do is leave him along, he playing games, he want
his cake and his pie as well. he know what he doing he
does not care about either one of you. and if you truly care
for your self you would not let him disrespect you. you deserve
that. and the fact that he cheating on her with you. sound
pretty bad, and for the record. sweetheart. i would rather
be along then to be with a man that would disrespect
me. that not love at all.
2007-03-08 16:48:49 · answer #5 · answered by luckystar 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Where's your Brain woman?
Snap out of it!
If you believe this nonsense then you're just fooling yourself,forget this jerk and move on to better things.
2007-03-08 16:55:15 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey hun, I agree with everyone else. You should let him go. If he was to leave her and go with you again, who's to say that he wont cheat on you with someone else?
2007-03-08 16:51:43 · answer #7 · answered by baffled 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's not going to leave her because he has the best of both worlds right now.Leave him alone because you're only lying to your heart and you're tearing yourself apart.
2007-03-08 16:45:41 · answer #8 · answered by DiamondXxx 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Have love for yourself and leave, move on.....
2007-03-08 16:47:35 · answer #9 · answered by ☠Naz☠ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
COME ON! U LETTING HIM HAVE THE BEST OF BOTH WORLDS????
HW FOOLISH!
2007-03-08 16:45:44 · answer #10 · answered by sylll 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋