My 15 year old gf wants a baby what should I do?

Question

Ok my gf is 15 going on 16 and me I'm about to finish up high school in june. Today we were fooling around and I was joking when I said lets do it without a condom and she said yeah at first I thought she was joking and I told her to quit playing around but she said she wasnt joking around. So I asked her why and she said "i want a baby with you because i love you, and i want a part of you and me to be together" So after talking to her about this for about 4 hours I came home and I'm in shock about the whole thing and have no clue on what to do. What is her deal? What should I do? What is there to do?

Answer 1

You need money to support a child. I don't think either of you are ready for it.

Answer 2

Sounds like a very immature , young girllfriend. I definitely wouldn't be sexually involved until she is more resposible. You will be the one paying child support for the next 18 years. Is that what you want? A baby is not a way to show someone you love them. A baby is a lifelong commitment to another human being. A baby is just a baby for a few years, then it is a toddler, a child, a teenager who maybe wants to have a baby to prove her love. It's a vicious circle. Most young people who get pregnant (I was 40 years ago and unwed and had the good sense to put my baby up for adoption) are not mature enough to raise a child. Often they don't even think any farther than the 'passion' of the moment. Stand back and think this situation over very hard. If you have a planned parenthood clinic near you, I believe it would be very helpful to talk with one of the counselors there. Good luck

Answer 3

First of all, 15 is way too young to be having sex. Second of all, do you really want to ruin your lives? I mean, think about it, she would be a teenage mother. She would have to drop out of school to take care of the baby. That's no education for her. Then there is you. You have a responsibility to this child for the next 18 years, regardless if you stay with her or not. That is 18 years of child support. You can kiss your college good-bye. You can kiss going out good-bye. Babies are a lot of money. When it is all said and done, both of you will look back on it as a mistake and you will blame each other. There is so much that both of you should do before even thinking about children. Not to mention the fact you you guys are still teenagers. Your emotions are fickle. You are about to finish school and probably go to college. Do you really think that a high school relationship is going to last that long? She still has 2-3 years to go. Emotions change. You can love one person one day and hate them the next in high school. What if that happens? What if, after having this baby, you or she decided that you aren't in love anymore? What then? You are trapped for the next 18 years. My mother had me at 14. I watched her struggle for 17 years to get to where she is today. At one point, we had no money and were living in a car. The only way we were able to eat was my mom stripped. Do you really want that for her? You have your whole lives ahead of you. There is so much that you need to go do and experience before you have a child. If she loves you the way she "claims" she does, she will respect your wishes. If not, if she pitches a little drama queen fit, she does not love you and you should not stay in that relationship. I know this sounds really harsh, but I saw this first hand. Neither of you need that burden .

Answer 4

You have control over this situation first off DO NOT have sex without a condom. If she presses the issue then abstain all together for a while. Neither one of you are old enough to even think about being parents...although I do not doubt you love each other because I remember my first love at 15. Just remember that you have so much to experience in life before children and when you are ready and old enough it will be a wonderful journey. Right now at this point in life be a kid, enjoy the simplicity of life you have years to experience all of the complications later on :) Good Luck

Answer 5

USE A CONDOM! Also you are both wayyyyyyy too young to be even thinking of having a baby. I was a single parent at 20 and that was too young...it was hard raising a child when all your friends are out having fun and your staying home changing diapers. Don't get me wrong I love my child but looking back now I know I was too young and needed time to grow up, get an education and have fun with my friends. Also chances are if you were to have a child with your girlfriend because you are both so young you would probably end up broken up. It would be harder on the child to be raised by two single parents and later on down the road blended families are not easy. I speak from experience...please don't do this or allow yourself to be romanticized into doing it by your girlfriend.

Answer 6

Please don't consider it. You both are to young. You have plenty of time to have children.
Having a child takes a lot of responsibility that will last a life time.
My son has a son, his gf was 17 and he was 18 ( will be 21 soon). They are no longer together and although this child is loved, he (My grandson) is being bounced from one house to another. My son has primary custody. My grandson was born with Down Syndrome. So my son has to invest more time since his son is a Special needs child. My grandson will be 3 in June. So since my son has been 18 he has spent most of his time working and caring for his son, with out the mothers help, the mother sees him about 1 week out of a month.
Your gf is not thinking in the terms of long term.
She may love you.
See where your relationship is later on down the road.
Plan your future. Finish School and she needs to finish school.
Having a baby doesn't prove your love for one another.
Enjoy your youth, don't let her pressure you.

Answer 7

You already know this answer. You conscience has spoken. Neither of you is ready to have a baby. A baby needs to born to two parents able to assume all the responsibilites parenting brings. Never, never have unprotected sex with this young lady again. She is young, too young to even be having sex in the first place. Her emotions are clearly all over the place, and since you are older, please assume some responsibility and tell her that all will work out in time or whatever it takes to convince her. You will likely move on after high school, and where, oh where, does this leave this poor misguided little girl who has has sex and confused it for true love? Please be kind, and protect her.

Answer 8

Honestly, having a baby at this age is totally wrong. You cant believe the amount of responsibilty and time a baby needs. If she loves you, she should have patience to wait. Tell her that you love her too (well, that's only if you really do too) and its for her own good to wait until you guys are ready. Taking care of newborn babies can be rewarding, but you must sacrafice so much someone still in high school wouldnt be able to handle.

Answer 9

How will y'all care for a baby at ur age?? u haven't even experienced life yet, and u tell her this.

As hard as it may be to except, u need to tell her that u love her but there is no guarantee that u'll be together for always (this might make her even more determined)

How could make a stupid joke like that anyway??

Condomise each time, do it ur self, &check ur condoms (she might just sabatoge it) if she doesnt quite her train of thought, abstain until she gets how serious u are.

Answer 10

First of all both of you are still young and raising a child is a big responsibility. This is nothing more then a phase she is going through at this time because this may be her first real experience with having strong feelings for someone. You both need to finish school and in 5 years ( if you are still 2gether) you might want to discuss marriage first.

Answer 11

WHAT? Is she crazy? I mean a baby in High School is stupid and immature. You need money to support a baby, medical fees. You need income, which is kinda hard considering you only 16! I honestly think she is having a rush of hormones right now and needs to calm down and think about what she is saying. Having a baby does not make you cool, it would complicate your life. It would be foolish. If she is serious about having a baby I would leave her. You are young but when you have a baby, your life is over. Think about it!