Engaged a year. He has been hanging out with his male friends almost every free waking minute since. I have invited him to go out with couples to dance, he won't go(says he only goes to those places to meet someone, he already has someone, but he doesn't mind if I go without him??) He won't go to movies, etc. This weekend they had a 'boys night out'. This hurt. he can go out with his friends but not me? I decided to go out also. Little did I know he was going to be where I decided to go. I went up and said hi and he completely ignored me. So, I went dancing with another guy. I came home when the club closed. He didn't come home until 6am and won't tell me where he was. We barley talked since. Then, I started telling him why I did it. (I was hurt he ignored me and I didn't expect to see him there he told me they were going somewhere else. I am also hurt he doesn't go anywhere with me.) He said 'I don't want to deal with you now.' and he said I should move out If. Did he ever care?
2007-03-08 16:05:06 · 15 answers · asked by Lexy2134 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Oh my, you poor dear. Men can be very cruel sometimes. Chances are he really did not want to get married in the first place. Looks as if he was not man enough to express his emotions to you verbally. Instead he choose to be childish and selfish to the point where he did not care if he hurt you or not. He may have liked/loved you at one time, but the realization of marrige tweeked a mental muscle and made him resort to immature behavior. I must admit, I'm no angel. I have done this exact thing to my girlfriend of three years(never engaged, but she wanted to be). She was my first(only) love and I was hers.
Put a spiderman band-aid on your heaart and keep on truckin!!!!
2007-03-08 16:32:32 · answer #1 · answered by FarOut 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont think that he ever did care. sorry. dude he is such a jerk. theres no way in hell you did wrong, He should have never ignored you. but im sure he was ignoring you for a reason. If he came home at 6am that probably means he was with someone else. He probably thought you hooked up with that other guy. plus guy friends are a real pain in the ***, they allways try to get in between a "buddies" relationship when its serious.
2007-03-08 16:12:54 · answer #2 · answered by JUDAS RAGE 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes, he broke up with you
he could have cared, did you ever feel like he really cared? if not, then he probably did not. He has probably found someone else, using male friends as an excuse so you do not know, you pressured him, he lost his cool. unless he is gay with a friend he hangs with, that could be the case, or he just wants to be with his male friends all the time and be free to do what he likes
2007-03-08 16:10:25 · answer #3 · answered by Wendy C 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you were more like a maid instead of a fiance. He picked you up at the club and probably thought that you should take care of all his needs while he goes out to play with others.
2007-03-08 16:10:42 · answer #4 · answered by sw_mn_techguy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I personally thinnk that he's not good enough for you if he's treating you like that. Do you really love him? I think you'll be much happier with a more caring and considerate man. I understand your situation and how tough it can be sometimes, and the best way I would face this is to justs forget about him.
2007-03-08 16:10:27 · answer #5 · answered by skinny piggy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sure he cared at one element or he could have in no way asked you to marry him. now i do no longer think of he's waiting now that he asked u i don't be attentive to under what pretense he asked u to marry him yet possibly he have been given truly scared after he asked u now it like he don't be attentive to a thank you to take no longer be able good do what he needs. so i could merely provide him back his ring and tell him that if he won't have the capacity to do issues with u and consult with u correct to the failings he does then u be attentive to the marriage is unlikely everywhere and u could have greater complication after that. merely get out on a similar time as u can sturdy success with each little thing u do.
2016-12-14 14:32:40 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is one immature, inconsiderate brat. Just be glad that you found out before you got married. Dump him and dont think about what happened earlier. I can tell you with 100% that hes not worth it. And sorry to say, if he acted this way, then no.. maybe not sincerely. Move on
2007-03-08 16:08:46 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
seriously, I don't think so, he might of in the beginning and then he started being controlling and it sounds like you would not have anything to do about that and good for you. It is your life and you need to be in control of you. If he wants you to go then go, if it is your place then tell him to hit the pavement. He sounds like he is really "high" on himself and thinks that he is all that, but you showed him that he is not. So you need to ask yourself do you want to be controlled and "kept" or do you want to be you and have a good life with love and happiness. I think you do and you deserve it.
2007-03-08 16:34:03 · answer #8 · answered by cutsiegirl35 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
thank yourself lucky that you see him for what he truly is now, instead of after marriage. you should get your own place and find some one that will treat you as a woman should be treated. if he gets lonely...let the "boys" deal with him. don't waste your time and chance to find happiness with a sorry meatsack like him.
2007-03-08 16:11:44 · answer #9 · answered by allkoei 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Frankly, I think not at all. The way you described him makes he an uncaring individual who seeks his own pleasure and only has his own world. You can forget about him and call off the engagement.
2007-03-08 16:10:16 · answer #10 · answered by Ashley 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋