my bf of 12 years said when i went to get in bed with him said i dont want u in my bed. yuk yuk yuk! guys answ

Question

he was drinking that day.
we had an aguement over most men (my opion)dont want to pay or support women in relastionships or marriage like the old day.

my question is yuk yuk was that directed to me that he is not attracted to me. he use to ask to marry me early in relationship but i said wait till our kids (prior marriages)were older. they are 17 now he told me 2 years ago when i asked where r we going in this rship he answed he would not mary me. he said he didnt luv me yet most the time he does unles drinking then he get self ego and mentally treats me poorly. im heartbroken and confused. i getting old now and feel thats his turn off

wow i cant believe people acually take time to respond. thank you all. but i dont have the energy for this . my mistake. im so alone , broke down , heartbroken , i can barely think anymore.i wasted the best years on a comminment that turns out to be one sided. how do u deal with that. i look at myself and see nothing to look forward to. i feel used up,angry, hurt alone. mad as hell sad as sad i ever want to be. i just realized this is way to big for me to internet it. how the heck did i end up here. what does that say. thanks to whoever the hell u all are,but im excusesing myself. bye

Answer 1

So you got in an argument and he got mad at you. What is the question?

Answer 2

Some guys are in heaven if they can have all the sex they want, have someone to mother them and have absolutely no responsibilities, financial or emotional. But there is a woman who lets him get away with it. If your guy was drunk and his behaviour was not typical you should have waited until the next day and given him the rounds of the kitchen for what he said. Tell him you just don't put up with this sort of thing. If when drunk, he's unreasonable just don't try to talk seriously with him, wait until he's sober

Answer 3

U say he was drunk, do he meant what he say that day? Ask yourself can believe what he said? why is that, we woman can support ourselves, men support us only when we get married that the only time he gave us support, girl see what he want he really mean when he woke not so drunk the next day. He will tell u something else believe me.

Answer 4

Men shouldn't have to pay or support women like in the old day. Learn to take care of yourself, he may not be around forever.

Answer 5

join the club. I have a boyfriend of thirteen years and he will not marry me. He says he has issues with me.It is always something different i am to quiet and can't communicate or i am too loud and or i distance myself or yadda yadda I am beginning to believe it isn't me IT:S HIM he has issues period. I am getting old too and now i look back and wonder did he ever love me?who knows If your boyfriend drinks and you think it affects his way of thinking think again sounds like he is taking you on the same ride i am on a ...................ride to NO where we are going nowhere honey but lost time.you want to know why you argued over that particular subject? because he knows he is wrong. and you are right that's why he becomes defensive about it Hey it is me stayin alive we need to talk to each other because i am in the very exact same position that you are in the very same thing HEYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYY TALKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKK TO ME TALK TO ME PLEASE

Answer 6

First of all you kind of left out the question. Second of all, why were you even talking about "most men" with him if he was drinking?

Answer 7

you've been with this man 12 yrs? that means you have seen him drunk before..has he acted like that before? and excuse me for asking, but after 12yrs...who doesn't want marriage? if it's him then lost cause move on. if it's you then maybe you should be asking yourself a few question about what you want.

Answer 8

He was being drunk and stupid but still he was in the wrong. Wait until he is sober then when he asked you to have sex with him, remind him that he doesnt want you in his bed.

Answer 9

I don't see a question here. But it sure looks like you nailed him on the head.

Answer 10

hes probably pissed from the conversation, and drinking tends not to make us think. We're very impulsive without alcohol, our veiws change quickly, it probably doesn't reflect how he usually feels.