When was the last time you had alone time with your significant other?
I've been with my boyfriend for a little over a year.
The last time we had alone time was a month ago.
We kinda talked about this before.. but he's scared of having alone time with me because we may end up having sex... and I want to wait till marriage. That just shows how much he respects me and I love him for that.
I just miss spending time with JUST HIM.
I don't want to mention it again because it may sound pushy.
But it's just something I'm craving. I just want to spend quality time with him only.
We're going out tomorrow... but I don't know if I should tell him tomorrow, when he calls before he heads to my place, that I want to spend time with ONLY HIM. It may be too last minute. He may have already told his friends about it. Should I tell him or just wait after Spring Break to finally have a NON-GROUP date?
2007-03-08 15:58:52 · 5 answers · asked by Rita 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
plan a date for the two of you. Surprise him. For instance, pack a picnic. Find a day that he's not busy, and pick him up to go to the park, or something. That way, it is a public place and you won't be tempted to do anything, but you can still have that quality time with just him. Good luck!
2007-03-08 16:04:12 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you ever heard of picnics in the park, walking hand in hand along the beach, having dinner in an intimate restaurant. There are lots of ways to be alone that you can also minimise the opportuntiy for sex. It is not uncommon to see couples being very close and kissing in the park, people don't really take that much notice these days.
2007-03-08 16:02:52 · answer #2 · answered by smilingtalker_au 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your boyfriend sounds like he knows he's not ready for having a relationship, and you're pushing him for more. Give him the space he needs, until he craves what you crave. If you're not ready for sex, you have to understand that he's not ready for emotional intimacy in the way you are.
If he's really just afraid of wanting sex, you can be alone in a museum or a cafe where there are other people nearby, but you're just together talking.
2007-03-08 16:02:41 · answer #3 · answered by Katherine W 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the last time I had a significate other my friends would ask when would I get friend time. I volunteered to spend all the time I could with her & wheather it was alone or not was up to her usually we had her son so it was quite nights in with movies but it was time i loved with two people I cared & would give the world for even now. Heck their both in my will which should show that even now I still care.
2007-03-08 16:04:50 · answer #4 · answered by mas8baller 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's why a shower or clean the attic time is so wonderful. Oh, that's right, NO SEX.
What does he want to do with you that doesn't involve sex? What are his likes. Don't say cuddling because that leads to more sex. You say No Sex, but Sex may rear it's ugly head, so to speak, enough times to make him very uncomfortable.
So, you need to find approved activities that don't lead to sex. Things that he will like too. Drinking releases the libido but also inhibits the actual act. No slow dancing. In fact, ball;room dancing is so erotic, you make not even want to watch it on tv.
Sorry, hormones are something that work inspite of any brain activity. How did Joan Collins say it, :That men will try to check out the boobs on the nurse trying to put the Electra-shock to his heart to re-start it.. Or something like that.
Trouble is, everything is leading to sex, except abstinence and being apart.
2007-03-08 16:13:52 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋