I had a date set up with my guy for tomorrow night, but on wednesday he was ambivalent, saying that he didn't know if would be able to go because he may be too tired to be good company (he's remodeling a house on his own, lots of manual labor). He said he would call me on thursday or on friday to let me know how he was feeling. It's thursday now, and i haven't heard from him yet. Should I give him the benefit of the doubt and assume he's being honest about being too tired, or should i just assume this is his way of worming out of our date. I gave him the opportunity four times to back out and he said he really wanted to go. Help!
2007-03-08 15:56:46 · 8 answers · asked by sardonicwit 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I would say to give him the benefit of the doubt. Remodeling a house takes a lot of work. If he winds up being too tired and can't go just tell him that you understand and hope that you guys can get together soon. If it become a pattern then ask him outright if he wants to continue to see you. Then you can go from there.
2007-03-08 16:16:04 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You mention that he is your guy, so this is not someone that you're casually dating? Actually, I don't think it really matters. What he's doing all day long is exhausting! He could really be telling the truth! When he wasn't doing the remodeling did he keep his dates with you? I wouldn't back him into a corner (my grandfather, my dad, my uncle are carpenters!) they are physically tired when they get home.
2007-03-08 16:04:29 · answer #2 · answered by mich 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How about calling him and seeing if he wants to have a night of ordering in dinner and just laying on the sofa watching a movie together? Sometimes when you've worked so hard a night of chilling in is the answer to it all!
2007-03-08 16:01:36 · answer #3 · answered by Cindy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you really want to know if he's trying to get out of the date, then suggest that you two hang out for a night in at his house. maybe pizza and a movie, or some ice cream. just a night to sit around and be quiet, no crazy stuff. and he can rest. if he really is trying to get out of it, then he will avoid that too. good luck!
2007-03-08 16:01:10 · answer #4 · answered by ranchgirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well first off it depends if you just met this guy or not, if you just met him ya give him the benefit of the doubt. and I would give him 3 chances and if he backs out of all 3 then forget him
2007-03-08 16:01:47 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you have give him the opportunity to back out of the date
and he has not then give him the benefit of the doubt but
dont give him to much rope. he may be playing games with
you as well.
2007-03-08 16:01:22 · answer #6 · answered by luckystar 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if he really wanted to go, then even if he is so tired, then he will have the energy for it. i suggest you assume he is not coming. there are other guys out there!
2007-03-08 16:01:40 · answer #7 · answered by meh 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he's not interested in you, i'm sorry but its true
he's a jerk for leading you on
say goodbye to him for good if he does not call you with a good excuse or go on the date with you
2007-03-08 16:00:04 · answer #8 · answered by Wendy C 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋