She is his best female friend. They grew up together and dated each other for a little while long time ago. She went to see my bf over the summer when I was at his house, but she didn’t want to come in because she didn’t like anyone he dated. She wanted to pick up and went somewhere with him. But I made my bf to let her come in and meet me. She hates me and doesn’t want to see me again simply because I am dating him. (I was pretty nice when we met). Now she wants to see him alone. I trust him that he won’t have sex with her and he won’t date her. Because she has such a broken life (single mom, doesn’t have a good job, and a lot more…). There is no way my bf want to leave me and go back to her. But I still do not feel right if he goes to see her alone. I just don’t understand why they can not talk in front of me? Under this circumstance should I let him go? Or did I ask too much? I appreciate any comments on it. (I apologize that I deleted the previous one by accident)
2007-03-08 15:50:50 · 8 answers · asked by Sarah_el 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He wants to see her. But i do not feel secure. Because i think he gives her higher priority than me.
2007-03-08 16:03:01 · update #1
Firstly, girl, you should never doubt the possibility of them going back to each other. Love can be blinding. On a different note, i am amazed how nice you can be under these circumstances. If i were you, id let him go just this once but id explain to him my thoughts. After all, how would he feel if you're doing the same thing? He's in a relationship and he should be committed to it. Sure, he can see his friend and keep in contact. But if this friend's so wary of you and so negative towards you, no way. The friend should note that you're an item now and you need to be with him if she's seeing him many too often. Talk to him and let him understand. You need to draw the line somewhere
2007-03-08 16:03:47 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My question is Does he want to go and see her alone? If he does, why? I would be concerned especially if they had a history. If he really cared about you and your feelings he would realize how uncomfortable you are and do the right thing to make you feel secure.
2007-03-09 00:01:03 · answer #2 · answered by Lana 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you have to draw a line somewhere but at the same time you have to let him do what he wants because you want him to know you trust him. so i say let him go but watch his actions around you. if he acts weird after being with her then maybe you should sit down and talk with him. but serously you can't be untrustworthy because that always ruins a relationship and makes it more complicated!
2007-03-08 23:57:56 · answer #3 · answered by Deb M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dawg if you trust him you wouldnt be insecure. Let him if he dont like her that way and like you go for it sometimes people just need some one to lean on. Yes she sounds jelous and in love with him still but it will be all cool.
2007-03-16 20:53:19 · answer #4 · answered by tiffers 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would just talk to him and let him know how this make you
feel and then let hm make the decision to see her along.
if he know how this make you feel then he will respect you
and not see her along. if he does not then you may have
a problem on your hand , and it not the best friend.
2007-03-08 23:57:17 · answer #5 · answered by luckystar 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont let it happen....its just gon be a big laugh in your face trust me been dere done wit dat
2007-03-16 21:17:39 · answer #6 · answered by swag225 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you need to break up with him so he can be with his "friend"
2007-03-16 21:40:42 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
hell no are you crazy... dump him his "FRIEND" LIKES HIM AND OF COURSE IS MUTUAL IF IT WASNT HE WOULDNT HANG OUT WITH HER AND RESPECT YOU
2007-03-16 22:04:13 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋