I've been dating him for over 2 years now, and they broke over 3 years ago. He was honest with me, (after I saw a text message she sent him), and told me that he called her just to say hi. I trust our relationship, and I think he loves me. What really bothers me if that when I asked him if he told her that he has a girlfriend (me), he told me that he didn't tell her because they didn't really talked that much. I haven't asked him about her anymore, even though I feel tempted to ask him if he called her again, or if she called him. He says that he realized after talking to her how much he loves me, and that she is the DEVIL. Should I trust him totally? I did it with my ex-husband, and now he is living with his ex-girlfriend. I love my BF a lot, and he treats me very well, I have no complaints, so far...He says that he is totally over her, but I'm under the impression that she might try to keep contacting him because she is now divorced!!
2007-03-08 15:42:09 · 14 answers · asked by PRLadyDama 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
We are in the process of bying a house and moving in together.
2007-03-08 15:42:45 · update #1
"I trust our relationship, and I think he loves me"
Hm, you THINK he loves you?
If you knew, there wouldn't be a problem. Slow this train down honey. You're moving in together and you can't even say definitively that he loves you. Just because you love him unconditionally doesn't mean he feels the same way. He's contacting his ex because he wants something she gave him that you don't. Generally, this "thing" is sexual in nature. Are you taking care of his needs sexually? Talk to him and find out what's up.
And for FSM's sake don't sign anything on that house until this is resolved!!!
2007-03-08 15:47:32 · answer #1 · answered by Takfam 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Honey, when you get that new house, dump your baggage at the curb. You are crucifying this guy for the last guy's mistakes. I know you have a reason to question the phone call, but he was honest and the one thing that stood out, was that he said "she was the devil" and he "realized how much he loved you".
I'm not sure why he'd call on Valentine's day of all days, but men don't think like us women. Let's just say most of them aren't that deep. If you want to make this work, trust him until he gives you a reason not to. Or, if you have your doubts and you can't get over them, then end it. If you don't, this will be the rest of your life.
2007-03-08 15:54:41 · answer #2 · answered by Hollynfaith 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What is there to doubt? He seems sincere and honest enough. Although on all the days.. why valentines? Unless they are regulary in contact. Still, stand by him and if he's easily swayed then hes not worth it. Other than that, dont give this relationship up just over a little mistrust. Talk to him if you feel uncomfortable in any way, but no accusations
2007-03-08 15:49:14 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Anything is possible. I still talk with a couple of my ex's, one was (5 years ended 3 years ago) the other (6 months ended 6 months ago). I have no interest in dating either even if they wanted to get back together with me, not because they are bad people, but simply because they are not the right one for me.
2007-03-08 15:47:50 · answer #4 · answered by Brian K 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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This is probably the most important part. With texting, you can stop and think about what you want to say to your ex at each step of the way. Instead of reacting emotionally, you can take your time, figure out the right thing to say (I’ll give you most of it), and be strategic with your ex without saying something that you’ll regret.
2016-04-28 07:02:22 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
take a strong hint. trust ur gut. that happened with me when my husband and i were just dating yet moving in together in a house. last year after 10 years he was talking to that same x again for 3 months. i had a PI pull cell phone records. he called her 2x on x-mas and on NYE. girl, 2 words. dump him.
2007-03-08 15:47:58 · answer #6 · answered by LuckyMo! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you love an trust him don't ruin that with doubt. While I agree it's bad timing (both the divorce and his call on V-day), I don't think it's anything you should worry about. Just talk it out with him and you should be fine.
2007-03-08 15:46:31 · answer #7 · answered by Aerion 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It doesn't speak well that your boyfriend contacted his ex-girlfriend....but I would still continue to trust him. Keep your eyes open for any other misgivings. If she tries to contact him make it clear that it is unacceptable. Also if you guys are buying a house make sure your name is also on the deed/loan papers....especially if you are contributing money towards that effort.
2007-03-08 15:53:26 · answer #8 · answered by answergirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok, he say's she is the DEVIL! Well, since opposites attract, he must be an ANGEL!!!
Just keep in mind that 1/3rd of the Angels were "TEMPTED" and led astray to follow Satan. So, if I were you...I'd keep an eye on what the DEVIL is doing in all of this!!!
2007-03-10 04:15:45 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
make sure the that he tells her the next time they "talk", that he is in a serious committed relationship with a woman that he is deeply and truely in love with. you can trust him as much as you like, but don't trust her. he needs to let her know that nothing will happen between them and if she has ideas of getting him back to forget them.
2007-03-08 16:02:14 · answer #10 · answered by allkoei 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋