I was in a four year relationship with my ex and about eight months ago he broke up with me for his ex-girlfriend. I having problems getting over him and was wondering if anyone has any ideas or tips on this. Keep in mind that we have a two year old together and I have to see him and sometimes her everytime he picks up our daughter and drops her off, so I have constant contact with him.
P.S. Please only serious answers, this is a very sensitive subject. Thank you.
2007-03-08 15:34:24 · 4 answers · asked by aques 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
In response to the person who offered to email me some tips that would be great.
Also I don't believe he was in volved with her while we were together but two weeks after we broke up he was with her and about another week after that he moved in with her.
2007-03-09 04:34:05 · update #1
hello,
i am really sorry that you are in such an awkward position. I could image how hard this would be for you at the moment. you mention that he broke up 8 months ago. obviously this is still causing you so much grief. and that is exactly what it is. grief isnt only when someone we love passes away but grief can be many things. it is important for you to realise what type of feelings you have for him, of course you still love him and he is the father of your child. some tips that i can suggest is it is important for you to let out your emotion, i.e anger, saddness whatever the emotion you are feeling. you may want to contact a counsellor if you like to talk to someone out of the circle or you could start by writing a journal everyday writing just how your day went and how you felt, also i was told by a friend to write everything about my ex i didnt like and why i didnt like it... it didnt make my pain stop but it was good to read when i had thoughts of wanting to be with him, also try the opposite and write what qualities YOU want in a man or the internet has quite a bit of information about moving on or tips for helping easing a broken heart... i will have a look for you i know i have some things in my own personal folder that i can email to you. let me know if you would like me to. In the mean time i would take care of yourself emotionally and physically... hope this helps :)
2007-03-08 15:52:06 · answer #1 · answered by just_jemma 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have been there and done that. I was married, two kids and he left me when in the hospital with a broken leg. Anyway that is a long story. After about 8 months or so when I could go back to work I started dating a guy I worked with, we dated for about a year and I thought I was in love again, well he told me that he wanted to get back together with his ex, for the kids sake. So he did and I felt like a fool and an idiot and everything else that goes along with that. Then one night her ex, wanted to get back together with her and there was a scuffle and the guy I liked got arrested and the cops called me to see if he could come to my place and of course I said yes, like an idiot, but love is blind. Anyway short story, it was not meant to be and he moved but I still visited him sometimes but I got my courage and he wanted a "booty" call and I turned him down and I felt great. And I went on with my life and met the man for me and we have been together for 9 years. Together we have a blended family of 4 kids and it is great.
I was married for 5 years before and had 2 kids with him and my ex and I have to communicate because of the kids but we stayed friendly and we have both moved on. I think when your ex comes to pick up the child you should go out with your girlfriends and have a good time and who knows you might meet the man of your dreams, I say put your self back out there and when, and I say when because he will try to come back to you don't take him back. You need to get your identy back and stand on your feet and have some fun for you. I know it hurts but time heels everything and you need to treat yourself and love yourself, so what if you are single for a year or more at least you are having fun, and let him choke on that. LOL.
2007-03-09 00:20:18 · answer #2 · answered by cutsiegirl35 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hi this will always be hard for to get over as you have a daughter to him. I was wanting to know if he was involved with her when he was with you or did he break up with you and then hook up with her?.
If its to rough on you, get your friends involved and take some time out and enjoy your self. I think that he has moved on with his life and there is no turning back for him as he has gone back with his ex. (maybe you should enjoy yourself also after all we only live once) ............. not all guys are the same. And just accept your ex as your daughters father.
2007-03-09 03:24:01 · answer #3 · answered by wana help 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
find another guy who loves u more...
2007-03-08 23:37:38 · answer #4 · answered by Sagar 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋