Why is he like this..?? He's hurting me..?

Question

My bf recently shuts off his cell phone for a week, then finally show up and explained to me that he did it bcos he's having some problems. I was worried sick about him, and somehow I didn't tell him about that.
Then, yesterday, I sent him some text messages, asking how is he doing and stuff. He didn't reply it, and to my surprise, last nite for the second time he shuts off his cell phone until now. I am really hurt by this. We are actually very far from each other, and the cell phone is one of the ways we communicate to each other.
We've been together for two years, and I know that he's a bit secretive about his problems. And I know that he's NOT cheating on me, his best buddy told me that.
Should I tell him that I am hurt by all this? I won't force him to tell me everything, but I just wanted him to know that I really hated it when he shuts off his cell phone. What am I supposed to do..??

We rarely fight.. But a few weeks ago, his ex had been disturbing both of us.. Saying bad things to me, and blaming me for things that never happened.. I am actually quite close to his buddy also.. So that's why I trust him on what he said about my bf

Answer 1

it seems more than a little suspicious that he is shutting off his phone because of a "problem" that he won't tell you about--but its "not cheating." personally, i would have told him long ago that it was hurting me, and that i don't need someone who is just going to make me worry about what they're doing. for the record, i don't think you can always trust guy's best friends to tell you if they're cheating--because then they would be betraying their best friend, and guys don't like to do that. are you guys fighting a lot? are there problems with his family and you? think of reasons he might be doing this (none of them are excusable though) and either confront him about why he's turning his phone off and ignoring you, or break up with him.

Answer 2

STUPID GIRL!!! Don't you know the old saying "Bro's before Hoe's"? Guys that are tight, (and not so tight) say it all of the time, and his best buddy is going to tell you that because he IS his best buddy. They will lie, cheat and whatever for their buddy. If he is not answering your call, turning off his phone, he is shutting YOU off, and turning some chick ON. Trust me on this,, I have 20 years wasted on guys playing the same song and dance and I wish I would have pulled my head out earlier. Pull yours out now before you get any gray hairs over this

Answer 3

Yeah, like your best friend would tell him if you stepped out on him.

You can't make him do anything he doesn't want to do with out injuring the trust in your relationship. If he is cheating, that could be the reason its turned off. Doesn't want the other girl to see it. Or, he doesn't have the money for all these text msgs.

I'm sure, with time, it will all come out into the open.

Answer 4

Maybe since his bestfriend was nice enough to let you know that he's not cheating on you you could confide in him a little. Ask him what he thinks it could be. Can his friend be trusted to tell you the truth about the cheating? Also just keep letting your guy know that you're there for him when is he ready to talk about it. Good luck.

Answer 5

Tell him how you feel. Even though his best bud told you he wasn't cheating, he could just be covering for him. And it also could be a way to let you know that he is not interested in you anymore. And instead of hurting your feelings, he just turns off the phone (especially if he is around his new squeeze)

Answer 6

Some people dont open up easily even to their loved ones. Your bf undoubtedly belongs to that category. These people open up only when they feel 100% safe. Never show that you are unduly worried for him as he may misunderstand it as your suspecting him. Just be good to him & tell him that you miss him when he switches off his cell phone. But most importantly, be caring when he is in touch with you and just stand by him. He will surely confide in you soon.

Answer 7

The only thing that you can do is tell him how you feel. See how he reacts to it and kinda go from there. I was going to say that it sounds like he may be talking to someone else. You said that his buddy told you it wasn't happening, but you have to really think about it. If it's his "buddy" than he could tell you anything. I hate to say that, but it's the truth...

Answer 8

sorry to tell you this, but usually when a guy turns his cell phone off he is doing something he shouldn't be doing.like cheating or doing drugs. and his best buddy is not gonna tell on him.maybe he doen't know or doesn't wan't to be the one to tell you. i wouldn't bother to contact him for a while and when you do talk to him, if he asks why you haven't called say you've been busy. keep him on his toes without being obvious.at least until you find out whats going on.

Answer 9

yes, tell him that way he knows he is not a mind reader. and men are not that keen on things either. tell him you worry about him. thats your only way of communication since you live so far away. ask him to just once in a while to turn on the phone to check the messages to see if you had called, so you can just say hey im ok . you wont pressure him you will give him space but you need to know that he is ok , please will you do this for me? im sure he will good luck

Answer 10

TELL you what i would do. TURN your cell phone off 4 about 2 weeks. SEE if that bothers him. TRUST me dont be so available he knows your available.GET a new hobby or gf or even a new bf.