Because I love to talk to him and he's a great guy friend, but I jus don't have those type of feelings for him....I really don't want to hurt him.
2007-03-08 15:12:28 · 19 answers · asked by isa-zzie 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Just tell him....
2007-03-09 19:24:55 · answer #1 · answered by ABBYsMom 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
He will never think of you as a true friend and just bide his time until he can possess you, only if it's just the once.
You could explain how superficial you are, how you'd rather be with a handsome stranger than someone you could trust, like him. How sexual attraction is more important to you than somebody who understands you and knows how to listen, because in the long run, sex is much more important than someone to talk to. Because what you are looking for is a gorgeous-looking guy, that isn't up himself, nor gay, that treats women with respect and doesn't cheat on them, that knows how to listen and try understanding the other's perspective, and that cares about your needs and doesn't just fulfill himself when he's 'making love' to you.
And tell him that when you mature and realise that type of man you crave doesn't exsist, and your best guy friend is married with children, you'll probably go back to him and ask him to give you another go...and he probably will, but he won't leave his wife for you.
Look inside yourself and see what's really holding you back- maybe you don't think you're superficial, but your question points to it.
Think about this: after a long day's work, what do you want waiting for you at home: someone to listen and care, or someone who wants to know how his pecs look and asks you if you're interested in some horizontal excersizing without the foreplay?
You've got a great person beside you who understands and appreciates you...what more do you think you need?
2007-03-08 15:28:49 · answer #2 · answered by canguroargentino 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ive been going through the same thing for about 9 years now. I love my friend. He is absolutely awesome but I dont love him in that sense. Its really really hard. I tried being nice but that only lead him to believe that I had feelings I was hiding. (not at all) So I would say be very very upfront with him. Tell him very specifically that you do not like him that way and that itll never happen but that you really want to stay friends. You risk hurting his feelings a little but if you dont youll regret it.
2007-03-08 15:19:23 · answer #3 · answered by JUDAS RAGE 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Just tell him if he cant handle it then he isnt worth your time either but DONT JUST bail as a guy I can tell you that bailing is the worse thing you can do especially if you did like the guy.... It never hurts having someone care about you & especially when they treat you right. Either way at least you know how he feels should you change your mind & you should tell him how you feel so he can move on...
2007-03-08 15:17:23 · answer #4 · answered by bpeter3196 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he is your friend then you should be able to be open and honest with him. I think you should just go ahead and be like I see you as my friend and I really wouldnt want to do anything to change that between us. Dont necessarily tell him that you dont see him as someone you would want to talk to on a relationship status. Now that might hurt him so tell him you wouldnt want to mess up what you have with him. That you would like to only be friends and that you hop he could respect that. I hope things work out for you on that.
2007-03-08 15:17:19 · answer #5 · answered by babi_gurl513 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"Hey whatsyourname, I think you are a great guy and I really have a good time talking to you. But I have to be honest, I really don't have the same feelings that you have for me. If this hurts you perhaps it is best if we don't talk for a while but I wish hope you can understand and will be happy to continue to be a good friend." end of suggested converstion.
2007-03-08 15:17:11 · answer #6 · answered by smilingtalker_au 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him he is like a brother, I have three close friends of mine that are all beautiful and I love them, I used to believe I was in love with them, and they told me that they saw me as a brother, eventually I came to see them as sisters, but understand it will take time for him to get over you as more than a friend, and he will almost always be jealous.
2007-03-08 15:16:49 · answer #7 · answered by wingends 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You really should explain it to them. Allowing someone to love you without letting them know that nothing will come out of their efforts is much more agonizing than telling them the truth and allowing them to understand reality.
2007-03-08 15:18:52 · answer #8 · answered by adjg13 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's best to be straight up. If he is truly a friend he will be hurt maybe but will get over it and you will still be friends for the honesty of it.
2007-03-08 15:17:19 · answer #9 · answered by Bill H 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
been there, done that. lol. tell him Gently that "you aren't that intersted in him yet. Mayb if you have the chance again with some other great girl, he shold ask and hopefully that would work."
2007-03-08 15:19:14 · answer #10 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be honest and let him know this. Tell him he is a great friend and that is it.
2007-03-08 15:15:03 · answer #11 · answered by Clara 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋