im 17 nearly 18 and my bf is 16 nearly 17 and he just ask me to marry him can we do that we really love each?

Question

we cant live without each other we get upset whenever we not to gether we been togetha bout 2-3 weeks is alrite/

Answer 1

My husband and I got engaged around then but I would suggest holding out for a while two weeks is a VERY short time. Get to know each other better first. Marriage is a big step and do you really want to have one divorce under your belt before you are twenty because you rushed it?? Enjoy each other for awhile discuss things that makes a marriage...ie how many kids do you want and when? how are you going to finish HS? Are either of you going to college? How are you going to pay for this? Who is going to handle the money and how? What are your views on divorce? What roll if any are the respective in-laws going to have in the marriage? What are your opinions on porn?
Don't get me wrong I'm not saying don't I'm just saying get to know each other better first.

Answer 2

Ok, you are not too young. BUT you have only known each other two weeks. That's not long enough is it? Come on. Think. Tell him that if you are still together in a year, then you would like him to ask you again. Then he will need his parents consent ( untill he is 18) but you will be 18 so it is ok. Me and my husband got married at 18, and that was 11 years ago and we are very happy together. But we had known each other very well since we were 13. So we had a good knowledge of each others lives and were allways very good friends. I really hope that this help, and don't just jump in to this cos it is very important to get it right. There are too many broken marriages and children with split families around.

Answer 3

I'm sorry, I'm tired and this is going to seem llike a snarky answer. You are both way TOO YOUNG to be thinking about marriage! Heck, even thinking about life ever after! The fact that you can't spell and have such poor grammer is an indicator of just how young you are.

Do either of you have a job, let alone a career that could support a family? I hope not, that would mean you aren't in school.

Do you know what is legally involved in getting married?

Are either of you ready for children? How would your families react, would they be supportive? Marriage is very difficult in the best of times, when a couple has been together for more than 5 minutes and actually know each other, and have the support of their familes.

How many boyfriends have you had since September? How many girlfriends has he had since then?

We are no longer a species that dies before our 30th birthday, why the rush? Get to know one another. And you should most definately wait until he is of legal age to get married.

If you are looking at marriage as a way to escape a situation you're in now, think of it this way. The first situation will still be there, only now you'll have a husband to deal with, too. They aren't as much fun as t.v. makes them out to be.

Answer 4

no not really, because you can be that in 2 years time you'll be wanting a divorce. You should tell him that your both too young to get married but if he really cares about you then he wont mind waiting. Like you said youve only been together a few weeks, all relationships are like that in the beginning, give it 5 or 6 months and see if you still feel the same, get out and live a little before you think about marriage, it might feel and sound romantic to get married but its not all its cracked up to be, the novelty soon wears off, when he wont move his sweaty socks from the side of the bed, and expects you to clean, shop, feed, wash & iron his clothes and even put them in the wardrobe for him, give it time, heck hes only 16 too, males aren't grown up until they hit at least 30 !!

Answer 5

Marriage is a big committment and chances are that you are too young to commit your life to someone forever. If you choose to take the ring and be engaged, make it long. Give yourselves some time to really get to know each other before you take that leap. If you think you are ready, do yourselves a huge favor and read "Preparing for Marriage" by Boehl, Nelson, Schulte and Shadrach. This book will take you through all the things you need to discuss prior to making such a devotion. It takes you away from the sparkle of something new for a while and makes you discuss the nitty gritty aspects of being together. Good luck!

Answer 6

Dont rush things!If you really are in love then you still will be in 5 or 10 years time so wait untill then!!You have both got so much more to experience in life before you should start thinking about marriage and if you have only been together a few weeks you probably hardly no each other yet so spend more time getting to no each other first!!! x

Answer 7

I think that both of you are too young to get married. On the other hand your relationship is still a 'baby' because 2-3 weeks together is not enough to start talking about getting married. You need more time to know each other before taking the decision of getting married.

I know that my reply wasn't the exact reply you wanted to hear but I told you what I think is best for you and I also think that many answerers here will agree with me for sure.

Hope this helps and Good Luck hun.

Answer 8

you are so young with your whole life's ahead of you, it may be love or it may be lust, so why don't you give yourselves one year and if you have not fallen out or been unfaithful to each other and are still madly in love in 1 years time then get engaged, you will be committed to each other then, then give it at least another year and if you are still madly in love then get married, a lot can happen in a year, plus if you wait that long you could save up for a nice wedding, don't forget getting married is the easiest part it is staying together happily that's hard work, once you have bills to pay and responsibilities it sort of takes the fun out of things and all though you may feel ready these 2 years you give yourself will help you get to know each other better, we have all been there thinking we have found our soul mate, but after a while those cute little habits of our boyfriends can be come very annoying....if you are both sure of your love wheres the harm in waiting, you'll still be together in 2 years won't you ???????????

Answer 9

I was 16 nearly 17 in 1980, when I got married. And was pregnant, since underage in Indiana we & our parents had to get permission from a juvenile court judge to be able to marry. We had been together nearly 4 yrs at that point and always talked of getting married, the pregnancy push the plans up. Even so, the marriage only lasted 2.5 years. I do not recomend getting married at your ages and having only been together such a short time. Take it from one who has been there! My parents always said, " what's the hurry, if it's true love (s)he will still be there when you are older".

Answer 10

Thinking of how much you can mature and you perspective can change in just a year or two, honestly i would benefit you most to wait even if its not but for two more years. (And by "mature" I in no way mean outgrow each other or anything like that) I had to tell this to my guyfriend who is 21 and wanting to propose to his girl because he's scared he will lose her, that if someone is not willing to wait to marry you for legitimate reasons, then they didnt really love you. Is your boy proposing to you because he's scared you may move on? My boyfriend proposed to me at such a time, and as I look at other relationship around me (I'm in college) that is quote common.

But back to your age ---- Honestly when you're that young it is easy to ask someone to marry you because most of us (even some grown people) don't recognize how deep it is to get married - even beyond the deep commitment of just staying with one person. It takes SOOO much more skills - like those skills they teach you in seminars and classrooms- dealing with others, sharing, financial management, crisis management... Mostly skills you will only learn through interacting with more people as you grow up.

I say grow up and if you want commit to one another. And take every chance you can to better understand marriage spiritually and otherwise so that you can have a happy and long lasting marriage.